this girl is confusing me big time, help us out!

[Dave111]

Girl I work with tellls me that there is no chance of us dating each
other because we both work together and that it would just cause complications.

However I'm going to see the band 'Muse' with her in town next week and she tells me that she wants to go out clubbing with me afterwards and then stay at a travel lodge IN THE SAME ROOM!

this girl is hot!, she's bout a 9 I'd say and I dunno if I can supress my manley instincts if I'm gonna be staying in a hotel with her.

what is going on in this chicks head, is she testing me or should I
just grab my balls and make the move?

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Sounds like her actions are contradicting her words, eh?

I would jump on any chance to go out drinking with a girl and go back to the same room in a drunken stooper to close the deal.

The girl will have the excuse of "I was sooooo drunk".

You're golden - she's handing you the poonanie.

Remember to bring some condoms!

Good Luck!

CB

 

[Dave111]

and another thing she said

this same girl was looking through the pictures on my phone, when she came accross one of me with some of my mates. All of a sudden she blurted out "god is that you?...you look so hot in that pic"!

its like shes giving out all these signals to me to come ahead with her. She told me that she would definatley date me if we weren't workmates.

whats the script guys, cos I'm confused as what to do with this girl!

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Bro, you already have a date with her that will end up with you both sleeping in the same room. What else do you want?

 

[Man2000]

I don't mean to confuse you. But, I'd like to chime in with my experience with female friends I have had crushes on in the past.

Some have told me they just want to be friends. Or, some would use me as an emotional tampon. Or, they would be nice about it all, and just be great and caring friends with me.

After a while, I notice that they want me. And, if I didn't make a serious move, they seemed to almost hate me. I can literally feel the hate when I run into them somewhere. A friend wouldn't be like this right?

This is a contradiction to the DJ theories. Like, never be a friend to a girl, because it means she has no interest. But, I think there is still a tiny bit of interest that can be worked on. AFC thinking? Maybe.

I try my hardest not to be friends with any women. Because it is just too much of a headache to deal with them, and a waste of my time. It's the hot ones that I have trouble cutting off.

My point is. I believe these DJ's when they say a woman wants to be swept off her feet. Being a friend is like the ultimate test of manhood. They want to see if you are man enough to push through the rejection. When they say, "Let's just be friends", it's a real rejection. But, I feel that it is also a major test. That's why they give us mixed signals. Seems like mixed signals is better than "no signals".

After reading this website, and thinking about my experiences, I believe that women really can't decide for themselves. They want a man to decide. They want you to risk everything, they want no responsibility for anything. I've come to realize this recently. A little late, but, it's great to know this, thanks to this website and the DJs on here.

 

[Hugh G. Rection]

Muse is the best band ever.
Got their album Absolution already?

 

[MikeYikes122]

Thank you Man2000 I have been arguing this forever: the friends zone doesn't exist. It's just as big of a fable as "Just be yourself." I get along real well with girls and people in general. Every job aptitude test I take tells me to be a social worker or a counselor or a cop or something where i deal with people who are in a bad situation all the time. I'm just real good at talking to people, like I am dominant and submissive at the same time, and i always can make people laugh. I have tons of friends who are girls. And out of all of my girlfriends ive only ever had two of them who haven't come from this pool, and it seemed like things always kind of felt a little awkward between us.

I knew the friends zone didnt exist when two girl "friends" who i worked with called me drunk as **** one night and told me that they wanted to have a threesome with me. You're damn right Man2000. It is a test.

 

[Man2000]

MikeYikes122,

Your Welcome!! And what a relief to hear this. I'm not the only one who sees this.

When I hang out with a female friend, strangers always think the female is my wife or girlfriend! There is always serious chemistry going on when I'm around one of them.

Your description of yourself, sounds like an exact description of me!!

I've never been offered the threesome, but, an old friend wanted me to come over late at night once. It was way too obvious she wanted it. And, she was, "Just a friend"? Ya, right.

I've noticed married women don't have many friends, and I believe the imaginary "friend zone" is why. The husbands know that guy friends, are just more opportunities for a wife to cheat.

Plus, I have one married female friend, and she acts all nervous around me. We have met in secret, not to date at all. But, I know there is some attraction there, I always feel it.

Sorry for the side track, Dave111. But, I guess what I'm saying is, I think you can work this thing to your advantage. I really believe this.

 

[Big Pappy]

Lengthy response

Man2000, MikeYikes122,

This is quite interesting. I have a theory - and you fellas have helped me think about it a bit more.

See, of all the available - that is - unmarried women that I talk to, none of them are ugly or fat. They may not be all perfect hardbodies, but they are all women I would be all to happy to service, should I ever grasp the opportunities.

Think about it. How many girls that are "just friends" are girls that pass your physical attraction test?
When I say friend, I mean a girl who you talk to or hang out with, not just a passing acquaintance.

In my case, all of them.

Is is such a stretch that the women that you know but haven't dated or "serviced" yet feel the same way about you passing their physical attraction test?

Sure, some girls will want to be our "friend" because we're confident, intelligent, funny or some combination of all these traits. Yet, I would wager that no matter how many positive traits you have, they're not likely to be very nice to you -- i.e. Meet you for lunch, share a pitcher, or any other casual social event unless you pass their physical attraction test.

Over time, these girls who are just friends for whatever reason, I'd say that most of them would be happy to be FWB or a GF if they felt that the friendship wouldn't suffer. Too many men get so wrapped up in the pursuit of booty with a friend, that they abandon all self-respect. This makes the girl - your friend - uncomfortable. Nobody wants to see a grown man beg. It's just not attractive.


Man, I talk way too much! 'nuff said!