sorry to tell you this but girls are like that, they will test you consciously and unconsciously, they may not admit it but if you ask like an afc then you're going to get slammed for it
i have been in this situation a few times myself, both before i started learning this stuff and recently after i have learned this stuff too
i'm just mentioning this because this is the stage i'm at currently, i just need to be more challenging
usually what happens to me is that i get a girl interested in me and she gives off all the right signals and i'm messing with her but deep down i know that if she were interested in me i would be so happy to just drop all the bs and have a great relationship with her, because deep down i know that i'm not really that successful with girls and i would probably bend over backwards to do anything for her
so i get to a point where that desperation shows, i start to like her too much and want her too much, that's usually when i know that i have screwed up because i will start to say or do things that give away that fact
i've really only come to realise this recently over the last few weeks and although i have spent a lot of time this year getting my inner game together, i really lack the experience of being in a relationship so i just screw it up
the way i see it is, you need to set the frame and be more challening, basically you know when you're heading down the wrong path if she is handing out the tests and you have to try and pass them, this requires a lot of tact and ultimately experience to deal with these situations
but the thing is if you control the frame and be the one who tests and challenges her, then she'll be too busy trying to deal with the tests that you give her to be sending anything back your way
the best way to do this in my opinion is to always seem like your busy, use time constraints when you speak to her on the phone, set limits to when you are willing to get together and for how long, even if your doing nothing, pretend that you are doing something wickedly fun so she feels like she is missing out, don't always return phone calls straight away, stuff like that, eventually she will get obsessed and be chasing you and that's when you know you are in control of the frame
if you're playing poker and you don't know who the patsy is, then you're the patsy... if you're questioning whether or not she likes you or if she's doing stuff and you don't understand why the hell she is doing it then you're the one doing the chasing not her
as far as the text messages go, that was the perfect time to use ****y funny and show her that you're a cool funny busy guy who is unaffected by her tests
anyways i can understand how you feel because i'm going through this stuff myself also, but you shouldn't be depending on anyone but your self, this site is just a resource to assist you in achieving your goals with women and dating, it's not the be all and end all, you should be testing everything in the field before you can truly decide if it's right for you or not, personally i just like sharing my ideas and experiences because it's cheaper than therapy / going insane
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or you could be a man...stand on your beliefs.
You have to realize these tactics only work on girls that are ****ed in the head. If you have a good girl with a good head on her shoulders she won't put up with it.
this is 10000 percent correct
All that David DeAngelo bull**** doesn't work, unless she's deeply insecure and screwed up. She'll see the real you, and she won't put up with it. Anyone can see this.
BINGO....again 100 percent correct...I learned this with my current Fiance...she is 100 percent confident..and the only thing she wants from me is to be giving and caring...stuff this board calls afc.
but G and C with cofidence are diff then supplicating a girl whos never touched you.
