This blows !!!!!!!!

[heater528]

Ok here is my story, i have improved myself over the past 3 years, i have a 6pack look good, dress good, girls tell me im good looking, im able to approach girls and get numbers... but tonight i actually took one of these girls out and I feel like the old loser that i used to be I took this girl out we went to dinner, i tried to joke have a good time... she didnt respond so after dinner shes like what are we gonna do now... im like well we can do this this this or that and she goes How bout we go back to my place to watch a movie so im like hell yeah !!!! We go back and she turns on Will and Grace and i sat their twiddling my thumbs i put my arm around her and she was like sorry to do this but i have work in the morning you have to get going ??????????? Im like whatever, she then goes he lets do this again ?? IM freakin out i have never been so confused/down... what the hell should i have done ???

 

[RabidDog]

Some girls are like that. It was either A) She made an elaborate plan to end the date swiftly. B) She just likes to do the "casual" thing. or C) She sees you as a friend or a possible back-up guy.

Only one of those is a good thing. I think you should make sure she has a IL in you, so you dont get used.

You have re-invented yourself, your going to be nervous, but dont let the fact your first at bat in a long time went bad, effect your game. Shrug it off.

 

[heater528]

Thanks Rabid... i didnt get this girl i dont think the friend thing is what she wants because we really dont know each other, We talked on the phone before and she seems like she has Attention deficiet disorder same thing with tonight when the TV was on she was in a daze.. i was like why the hell did she invite me back here ?? Then the whole sorry to chase you out but i need sleep thing... Lets do this again... ?? Ughh

 

[RabidDog]

Uggh indeed.

She sounds like a flake, which would be D) all of the above. Go find a better/normal girl. W/ a six-pack, your gonna love the Spring and Summer seasons. And your welcome.



Regards,

Rabid

 

[Tango-Kid]

Well seems like she a really boring býtch.

You see, when a girl is boring (guy´s and girl´s interests, humour etc. don´t match) guys usually start to think "what´s wrong, doesn´t she like me?" When you really should think "Wow, that´s a boring býtch. I´ll have to find someone better."

Having fun is mutual. Find someone you can have fun with.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by heater528
Ok here is my story, i have improved myself over the past 3 years, i have a 6pack look good, dress good, girls tell me im good looking, im able to approach girls and get numbers... but tonight i actually took one of these girls out and I feel like the old loser that i used to be I took this girl out we went to dinner, i tried to joke have a good time... she didnt respond so after dinner shes like what are we gonna do now... im like well we can do this this this or that and she goes How bout we go back to my place to watch a movie so im like hell yeah !!!! We go back and she turns on Will and Grace and i sat their twiddling my thumbs i put my arm around her and she was like sorry to do this but i have work in the morning you have to get going ??????????? Im like whatever, she then goes he lets do this again ?? IM freakin out i have never been so confused/down... what the hell should i have done ???

You should've f*cked her.

If she invited you back to her place on the first date to "watch a movie" and you just sat on your thumbs until she said, "It's time for you to leave," that's a girl's way of saying, "I invited you back here for some cheap sex and I'm tired of waiting for you to ravage me." She didn't want to watch Will and Grace with you. She could've done that alone.

If you wanted to bang her, you should've made your move then and there. If her lack of intelligence and sense of humor so turned you off that you didn't even want to bang her, YOU should've bailed, not waited for her to kick you out.

Just excused yourself with, "I need to get up early tomorrow. I'm gonna haul. L8r." Kiss, then leave.

Or if you really wanted to lay into her, "I know you were expecting sex on the first date, but you seem too quiet and reserved to be any fun in bed. " <---grin is a must!

You care too much about this woman's approval of you. WHY?! You said yourself she's dull and flaky. Why work so hard to get her to think highly of you?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

You young jets kill me with the "let's go watch TV" as a date option. Why in the hell would you want to watch TV with a girl? Do you consider this a date? Huh? You should have told her "I'll go home with you but not to watch TV". You have to set the agenda and don't be a follower of women, be a leader!

 

[DreamerZZ35]

Originally posted by heater528
Ok here is my story, i have improved myself over the past 3 years, i have a 6pack look good, dress good, girls tell me im good looking, im able to approach girls and get numbers... but tonight i actually took one of these girls out and I feel like the old loser that i used to be I took this girl out we went to dinner, i tried to joke have a good time... she didnt respond so after dinner shes like what are we gonna do now... im like well we can do this this this or that and she goes How bout we go back to my place to watch a movie so im like hell yeah !!!! We go back and she turns on Will and Grace and i sat their twiddling my thumbs i put my arm around her and she was like sorry to do this but i have work in the morning you have to get going ??????????? Im like whatever, she then goes he lets do this again ?? IM freakin out i have never been so confused/down... what the hell should i have done ???

Dont do dinner and extended dates for a first date. Do something very light like coffee. That give you and her a very clear picture of the agenda. You have coffee and TALK. That way YOU know if this chick is someone who is going to be worth investing your very valuable time with. If that goes well, you can extend the date or end it with "I had fun, I'll give you a call sometime and maybe we can go do something fun." and leave...

Try spedning your early dates on physical activites that encompass lots of time to communicate mixed with activities. Dates that are unusual and different will make you appear different than every other tom, **** and harry she has gone out with!

Take her to the zoo. Take her to play minituare golf. Take her to a pub to shoot darts... take her bowling..... but dont take her to dinner until she has EARNED it. The other thing these activity dates all have in common is the are INEXPENSIVE. Take her to a comedy club... during the week the tickets can be as cheap as 8 bucks a piece. Find out what kind of sense of humor she has....

You take a girl to dinner that you dont really know its going to cost you 50+ bucks to find out if she is a byiach.... take her to shoot darts it cost oyou 10 bucks to find otu the same thing

 

[heater528]

Thanks for the replies and feedback. I have learned from this whole situation. I have had nothing but success in the past few months and this has been the first real set back, I was pretty down last night, but the more i think about it, it was a lose lose situation, this girl didnt have a sense of humor from the start, I stayed funny ****y the whole way thru, me and her didnt have anything in common, on the way to her place i was already thinking about how she is below my standards. But i guess the same applies for guys, when a girl suddenly shoes you out of her place you wonder what you did wrong and become more interested in the girl... well im not gonna fall for the trap i will move on and learn.

 

[Don Ronny]

squirrels was 100% correct. She wanted you to make your move and you sat their like a chump, twiddling your thumbs. Next time you end up in this situation, try to gently massage her neck and go for an innocent, soft kiss. Dont jump her bones, rather treat the affair like a small fire that grows and grows till you are both consumed in a raging inferno of monkey-lust. Works for me!

 

[JohnJones]

I don't know if it's a setback.

People sometimes take actions that are basically catalysts for action. Either she was bored on the date and was trying to create a dull, unexciting environment for you to get bored and leave or she wanted you to try something. If you are good looking to her, she has spent some time with you at all and she invites you back to her place, she probably was up for something (maybe not the real deal but I think that was your in anyway).

 

[ToP DoN]

move on

dont talk to the bit ch ever again

 

[Reto]

I think the girl was a flake....

If she was really into you, it really doesn't matter what you do on the date. It's spending time together.

I don't think it was your problem at all... It was hers... A date is a two person party. Not one where one person is the entertainment.

 

[RabidDog]

Originally posted by Reto
I think the girl was a flake....

If she was really into you, it really doesn't matter what you do on the date. It's spending time together.

I don't think it was your problem at all... It was hers... A date is a two person party. Not one where one person is the entertainment.

My previous point exactly.

 

[isotope]

Re: Re: This blows !!!!!!!!

Originally posted by squirrels
You should've f*cked her.

If she invited you back to her place on the first date to "watch a movie" and you just sat on your thumbs until she said, "It's time for you to leave," that's a girl's way of saying, "I invited you back here for some cheap sex and I'm tired of waiting for you to ravage me." She didn't want to watch Will and Grace with you. She could've done that alone.

squirrels is right. she was waiting for you to at least kiss her.
she WOULD HAVE responded favorably under those circumstances.

SHe obviously wants to set up another date and will give you one more chance. Trust me, from personal experience, i think i know her type: if you do not make a move on the second date she will next you. wait for the right moment, on the couch or something, and hiss her.

 

[Surfboard]

i put my arm around her and she was like sorry to do this but i have work in the morning you have to get going ???????????

For those of you that missed it. This is what you might call putting a move on the girl. Unfortunately she REJECTED his advances. RED FLAG ALERT!!!

Give her another chance if you want, but don't expect too much.

 

[fezz]

if you're gonna give her another chance, let her call you and set up another date. I wouldnt try another date with her, because she sounds really flaky and sounds like a big bore

 

[Genghis Juan]

I understand that he should have made a move, but he did put his arm around her like he was going to begin a move, and she immediately rejected him. I wonder how long he waited until he made that move? Maybe you waited too long.

She seems strange and flakey. Next time, when she says what do you want to do now, don't make a suggestion; maybe this...maybe that... just say, "lets do x", and bring her along.

Maybe she was frustrated at your indecisiveness...

I think you have nothing to lose by asking her out for anther date, just make the second date an action date, and see if her behavior changes at all.