this attention wh0re is really something

[jigga23]

let me start off and say ive dated an AW for 2 years so this is not totally new to me.me and this AW have been hanging out for the last 2 months or so. We dated for a month and then she sabatoged it by doing her stupid AW things and I said fvck you Im done totally talking to tyou. She made buddies with all my friends, she knew a couple before me though. I said dont come around my house anymore. Well after we broke up we did not contact each other for a week. then of course she worked her way back in and started hanging out with me and my friends around my house.

So me and her have hung out the last like 6 days in a row. a couple of those days it was just me and her for like hours then we would go out to the bars with my friends. I only called her one time to hang out, the rest was all her. She slept over like 2 or 3 days out of those 6.

This past weekened we went to this festival and she came with my group of friends. she called and texted non stop when i wasnt aroiund. We both got drunk and she was all over me. we made out, kissed, held hands and were all over each other the whole day. she slept with me that night. oh yea and she was all over some douche bag after we woke up and i called her out and she got p1ssed.

We have a weird relationship like one cant live with out the other. we are pretty close. We do fight and i still call her out on her sh1t. if something were to happen to me she would probably be the first person i would call and probably same for her.

I help her out with some stuff cause she needs some help. But part of me wants to just totaly get rid of her but i cant. like today i did not call her the whole day then she calls at 8 pm and we talk. i tell her to come over and she says shes tired and hurt her back today jet skiing which is understandble. she then said dont get mad i said im not and hung up. she texted 5 minutes later and said sorry i feel hard blah blah. i just said ok. she pulls sh1t like that all the time.

This girl always asks if im ok and wonders if im mad at her etc. wtf i dont know what ot do with her. she says we are just friends but we act like we are still dating its weird. i cant bring mysef to totally cut her off cause how close we are. Trust me when another girl comes along shes gone but for now shes here.

 

[KontrollerX]

Its not weird that she has the relationship with you while acting as friends.

Why?

As I've explained before their minds are so messed up that in order to have a sexual relationship with a guy many of them have to pretend it is just friendship in order to preserve their false image of childlike purity and innocence. They also want to view themselves as being perfect and a bit above others and if you get horny like any other girl that doesn't exactly make you perfect over others or an innocent child does it?

No.

To preserve their innocence they try to perceive sexuality as being out of their control in that when they and a guy get it on they think of themselves more as the victim of desire or the victim of the male's desire than an active participant in the sex that goes on.

They remove themself halfway mentally from the experience in a kind of splitting or denial and dissociation and because of this their more observant victims have noted that they have felt more like a kind of human dildo for the HPD, BPD or NPD girl than say a partner fully connected via genuine intimacy.

Which means in english though the sex is amazingly outstanding in most cases it has a distinct robotic going through the motions type of quality.

The girl refuses or is unable to connect emotionally during the act.

Same goes for the male Cluster B's with their female victims.

They cannot face genuine emotional connection during the sex act.

It is beyond their range as children in adult bodies.

 

[j0n024]

Jeez lots of guys on here have really really bad problems of letting go, I mean some people dont on here dont have the backbone enough to just stop ALL contact on 1 girl....it's pretty pathetic.

You SAY she's an AW, you KNOW she's an AW so why treat how she acts around you any differently then what an AW would do and seeing as how she has you wrapper around her finger (Please dont say you dont since you made a post about her and saying things like "One cant live without the other, Trust me when another girl comes along" YA RIGHT) she is doing her job perfectly.

Some people need to grow a sack and when they KNOW that a girl is messing up just cut contact.

Kontroller....what was the point of your post? Just to show why a girl would act as a friend yet sleep with you?

 

[KontrollerX]

"Kontroller....what was the point of your post? Just to show why a girl would act as a friend yet sleep with you?"

The guy was wondering out loud why the AW would so thoroughly try to hold onto the friendship title despite being anything but friends. Its well explained in the literature why the personality disordered do this so I answered this guy's wonderings.

Next time read the original poster's post fully and you won't be wasting any posts asking me or anyone else pointless questions.

 

[j0n024]

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"Next time read the original poster's post fully and you won't be wasting any posts asking me or anyone else pointless questions."

Firstly I DID read the whole post....that is WHY I posted in this thread but I guess I can see where your coming from seeing as how he made a post just to put his thoughts down on paper it seems and didnt really want an answer nor did he ask a question so I guess you wrote a very thought out answer ...which probably fell on deaf ears so .....this point is yours.

But I cant understand why lots of old guys on here think that every time a girl flakes or messes up they immediately and please read some posts on here to prove my point they say it's a "Personality Disorder," Or she is a "Headcase," lol....seems to me that some people need all kinds of excuses just to be shot down haha.



PS: Please dont make assumptions ...it makes you look insignificant.

 

[KontrollerX]

I've responded to this guy before and he regularly deals with AW's and values my input on them.

Insignificant= your post.

"But I cant understand why lots of old guys on here think that every time a girl flakes or messes up they immediately and please read some posts on here to prove my point they say it's a "Personality Disorder," Or she is a "Headcase," lol....seems to me that some people need all kinds of excuses just to be shot down haha."

And I can't understand why tons of young and old guys alike come here and think that a girl that constantly rages, cheats, lies, cuts herself, almost kills people in more than one DUI incident come here and tries to tell us he's not with a personality disordered chick, and in fact that he's in a normal relationship and asks us how to get on her good side again after she sucked 37 d!cks while cheating on him.

Whats up with that?

Is denial just a river in Egypt or might it be something those guys are going through??

I can link you up a ton of topics from these type of posters (to prove my point) if you want (and more seem to show up every other day) but I've got a feeling you are someone who wants to remain willfully ignorant and probably doesn't believe PD's even exist.

Sadly you are not alone with that theory much like believers in Intelligent Design are not alone with theirs.

As for "older guys" bringing this up yeah thats right...

Older guys with more experience than you sonny.

Get some more experience in the field then come back and post here before you run your mouth.

In fact educate yourself about personality disorders and read some of those posts over again where you take issue with us "older guys" bringing up the PD label. The more you educate yourself and get familiar with the traits the more you will agree with us.

Its that simple.

 

[B-Real]

Jigga23 I totally understand what your going through. I am going through the same thing. I am a sucker for beautiful women who use me. That is why I visit this site, to help conquer that.

I was witha girl for 6 months who constantly had guys text her while were on dates and her excuse was "oh he's just a guy who likes me..he's harmless"

It was like she could have all the guy friends she wanted, but once 1 girl ever showed up on my missed calls or phone in general, she would flip out. Its one of those things where they play with your head and say "oh baby you have my heart..those other guys just flirt with me cause i'm pretty..don't you like other guys thinking i'm pretty, or would you rather be with an ugly girl?"

 

[decades]

yeah it's drama to be with an AW. But that seems to be what floats your boat.

 

[Telos]

I, for one, tremendously value Kontroller's educated advice on BPD/AW women. He is one of the most respectful and informative members of this community. Please don't bite the hand that feeds.

 

[j0n024]

Wow Knotroller....you are acting like an AW the more I read your older posts.....ironic isnt it? But I will bet you will deny it lol.

1. I only said that you guys always chalk it up to her having a personality disorder ...when you barely even get the gist of the problem which to me isnt even helpful and some guys on here should just stay quiet if you ask me.

2. I never said that I didnt believe in PO's and saying that someone doesn't believe in something that someone can usually see on the street is pretty ridiculous to even accuse someone that you dont even know.....and that is another one chalked up to assuming something about someone you hardly even know....damn.

You seem to have some sort of vendetta on women and not one from knowledge on how they behave and know how they act but seems to me you would rather bash them and I bet you probably say that ALL women have a personalty disorder or they are a "Headcase," LOL and truthfully it's pretty sad .....

I merely asked why you wrote this post on a post that didnt even have a question....lol. Then when I call you out on assuming something about me you get all defensive and call my WHOLE post "Insignificant," Sooo then what does that make YOUR reply to my "Insignificant," Post....ohh wait I bet it will be some snappy comeback wont it....

I never said I had a problem with you "Older," Guys about always chalking up a womens decision to a personalty disorder I merely made an observation but I guess you couldnt see that and only saw an attack. Plus I usually dont make it a habit of going into EACH and EVERY post on this site just to give my little 2 cents....but I guess it's always nice to get a chuckle out of some of the users posts and the people that give them "Answers."

But I have had enough of an "Older," Guy argue with an "Younger," poster and would have thought since he has been here longer he would have had more willpower to control his emotions .....but I guess I understand what the term "Keyboard Jockey," Means now. I am done and if you wanna reply to my post which I bet you will then go ahead....just proves my point ...have fun

 

[KontrollerX]

"Wow Knotroller....you are acting like an AW the more I read your older posts.....ironic isnt it? But I will bet you will deny it lol."

Pot meet kettle. The point remains that your questioning of my post in here was unnecessary and for all intents and purposes useless.

"1. I only said that you guys always chalk it up to her having a personality disorder ...when you barely even get the gist of the problem which to me isnt even helpful and some guys on here should just stay quiet if you ask me."

Link to some proof of this please?

Neither jophil, myself or persistant exaction jump into a post suggesting AW until we see a cluster of traits that makes it abundantly clear to us.

"You seem to have some sort of vendetta on women and not one from knowledge on how they behave and know how they act but seems to me you would rather bash them and I bet you probably say that ALL women have a personalty disorder or they are a "Headcase," LOL and truthfully it's pretty sad seeing a person that was here for 3 years and has 2g posts crumble before my eyes ...I use to respect you but seeing your posts on this matter it seems to me you cant take a single little question"

LOL, bash women wtf drug are you on kid?

I don't bash any woman, I do however point out when a guy is with a nutjob and thats pretty much it.

Persistant exaction once made a brilliant post that said perhaps AW's are not a big epidemic in society in general and then he went on to say that we probably see so many new guys coming to the forum with AW problems because a guy who has no problems with women is unlikely to come to a forum such as this one.

So all these AW problem guys show up then myself, jophil and PE point out what these droves of new posters are dealing with.

Then you not being as wise about this as persistant exaction see us responding and telling all these new guys with women problems what type of woman they are dealing with and because there are so many instances where we help new guys out and tell them what they are dealing with you automatically start to think hey these guys are women bashers because they think all women are AW's!!!1111!!!11

Not true at all.

It is not our fault so many men with women problems who come here are dealing with AW's.

What are we supposed to do not help out or use our knowledge because you might misconstrue us as being haters of women thinking them all to be personality disordered?

"I merely asked why you wrote this post on a post that didnt even have a question....lol. Then when I call you out on assuming something about me you get all defensive and call my WHOLE post "Insignificant," Sooo then what does that make YOUR reply to my "Insignificant," Post....ohh wait I bet it will be some snappy comeback wont it...."

Dude your question was absolutely unnecessary and quite frankly to me it sounded
like you were being a d!ck.

Also it does not matter if there is no direct question.

When someone makes a topic its generally assumed they'd like a response.

Thats a little message board 101 lesson for ya.

"I never said I had a problem with you "Older," Guys about always chalking up a womens decision to a personalty disorder I merely made an observation but I guess you couldnt see that and only saw an attack. Plus I usually dont make it a habit of going into EACH and EVERY post on this site just to give my little 2 cents....but I guess it's always nice to get a chuckle out of some of the users posts and the people that give them "Answers."

Well I get frustrated when the discussion forum kids talk out of their assh0les towards people that are only here to help out or waste bandwidth with unnecessary questions just to be a d!ck. Apologies if you were not trying to be a d!ck but thats how you came across to me with the question. Understandably tone isn't always easy to get across online so maybe I can give you the benefit of the doubt.

"But I have had enough of an "Older," Guy argue with an "Younger," poster and would have thought since he has been here longer he would have had more willpower to control his emotions .....but I guess I understand what the term "Keyboard Jockey," Means now. I am done and if you wanna reply to my post which I bet you will then go ahead....just proves my point ...have fun"

I'm not sure what your point is but okee dokie.

I wanted to crack some kind of joke here about you being the keyboard joker and bring up a Heath Ledger reference in so doing but screw it. Maybe we just had a miscommunication.

 

[john paul]

Dont bother trying to explain yourself to them. You just perfectly discribed the girl I am currently dating without even meeting her. Thanks for making things more clear for me. I knew she was an AW before but now I understand why she does some of those things.

 

[jigga23]

this ch1ck is an AW she fvckin told me herself with her own mouth. She stands out like a sore thumb in public. super flirty even girls i hang with are like wholly cow that girl flirts a lot. its not an excuse she is just an AW. shes a fvckin blood sucking b1tch. she hangs on the trashiest dudes. thats what gives me piece of mind cause i know i will see her with some chump who doesnt have the looks, car, education and many other things that i have.

it just p1sses me off she just got cold on me after hangin for like 6 days straight. she fvckin called me last night and i said ill call u back do you wanna come over and she made it sound like she would. i called her back and she said no. i called her today to get my clothes back and she said whats ur deal are you mad? fvck yea i am i kind of wish i never met her.

 

[jigga23]

god damnn it the fvckin AW just called me and I answered. I cannot bring myself to ignore her azz.