Thinking of flaking on this girl

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So I got her number on Thursday of last week and texted her this past Monday. I asked her out for Thursday and she said she would let me know on Wednesday so I withdrew the offer. The girl then suggested Sunday night and I told her I would pick her up around 6 to take her to this Mexican restaurant/bar. She agrees and then a day later she asks me if I want to go to a movie instead. I then ask her what movie she wants to see and she tells me one that is only playing at 10:40 PM on Sunday.

The date is set for me to pick her up at 10:15 on Sunday to go to the movies but I have several reasons why I think I should back out of this. One, I already showed her that I am unassertive by allowing her to change the plans. Two, a movie first date is just a bad idea because most of the date you are watching a movie and not talking. And three, she is likely to flake herself because she is "tired."

I am autistic and I have a low IQ so she likely tried to change the plans to either go to the movies for free or give herself an easy opportunity to flake. People say I am a good looking guy so likely what happens with these girls is that they are attracted initially but become turned off by my weird behavior gradually. I also struggle with confidence and self-esteem issues so that likely shows in my actions as well.

So who agrees with me about cancelling and maintaining the upper hand?
 

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Don't cancel just because you want to "maintain the upper hand". That's your ego talking. That's what females do. If you're going to cancel, do it IF you actually have a valid reason.

Your username suggests you definitely shouldn't cancel.
Aren't the reasons I listed valid? She is likely to flake anyway. I would rather just not get rejected.
 

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Reasons your points are invalid and why you are overthinking this ..

She wants to hang out at 10:40 at night, she is probably down to f#ck

Movies are great for getting her warmed up, put your arm around her, rub her thigh.

You are driving, so it will be easy to come up with a reason to “stop by your house” after the movie.


It’s nothing wrong with compromising on an outing, maybe she doesn’t like bar settings ..

If this were me this would be an easy lay ..
 

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Reasons your points are invalid and why you are overthinking this ..

She wants to hang out at 10:40 at night, she is probably down to f#ck

Movies are great for getting her warmed up, put your arm around her, rub her thigh.

You are driving, so it will be easy to come up with a reason to “stop by your house” after the movie.


It’s nothing wrong with compromising on an outing, maybe she doesn’t like bar settings ..

If this were me this would be an easy lay ..
You make good points
 

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Dude plz do flake on her. Let you know is sht, and then suggesting something else........ dude, it's too much sht test, fck that sht. She dont' like you. Next.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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Dude plz do flake on her. Let you know is sht, and then suggesting something else........ dude, it's too much sht test, fck that sht. She dont' like you. Next.
Maybe you are right. I'll let her flake so I could let her know how much of a deceiving b1tch she is. Girls don't like me and they're all bad people because they lead guys on. I will never bother with another girl again.
 

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You don't hate women. You hate yourself. You need to love yourself first and foremost. It's not about women. It never was. It's about you.

Take action and improve your yourself.
I can't improve myself. I'm disabled and I'm gonna tell this b1tch off when she flakes
 

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I shouldn't have even bothered. She ruined my whole weekend. I was much happier when I told myself I wasn't gonna try anymore. I hate her
 

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You lost as soon as she tried changing the venue. Woman follows, you lead, at least in the beginning stages. She has shown that she is difficult, more of that to come if you stay. Next.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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You lost as soon as she tried changing the venue. Woman follows, you lead, at least in the beginning stages. She has shown that she is difficult, more of that to come if you stay. Next.
I know she's a b1tch like all of them.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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I'm 27. Ok WOMEN whatever. I hate women and I'm gonna make sure this b1tch who thinks she can call the shots and then reject me knows I am pissed off.
Ignore her. Letting her know of your frustration makes you look weak. Plus its seeking a sort of validation or acknowledgement. Talk to females who like you.
 

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Ignore her. Letting her know of your frustration makes you look weak. Plus its seeking a sort of validation or acknowledgement. Talk to females who like you.
I don't want to talk to other females. I am done with them. Any man who is ever rejected by a woman is a fvcking loser. So I am a fvcking loser. But I want these fvcking cvnts, these miserable disgusting creatures who think they can walk all over me to know I'm not gonna be some chump who is just gonna say nothing. I'm already a loser for getting rejected. I can't dig myself a deeper hole.
 

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