Think this will work?

[matius]

I'm looking for the a pick-up convo that works all the time. Seriously...I wanted to run this one by, hadn't had a chance to use it because I just thought it.

Anywhere you are and you see a hottie:

You: How you doin? What's your name?
Her: Michelle
You: Hey, I'm Matius
You: I don't mean to interrupt...
You: (Sincerely) But you look really nice | good.
You: < Judge how into you she is at this point >
You: Are you in school? | Do you live in these parts?
Her: Yeah, I go to X | Yeah, I live around here
You: Very cool, I go here | I live here as well...
You: * Make an observation about either of those *
You: Maybe we could get together sometime so I could find out more about you.
Her: Cool~

How could this be trimmed? You think this is a decent approach? I'm asking for some suggestions...I'll try it ASAP.

Also, what are some good things to say if you run into a couple hotties (2), and it's just you. What might be a decent convo starter?

Thanks ~

 

[Walden]

Cut out the "I don't mean to interrupt....but you look...." and just go straight to the question. If you can think of some general purpose funny comment to make then I'd love to hear it.

 

[matius]

Cut out the "I don't mean to interrupt....but you look...."

To me, those two lines tell her that 1) you care about her time and 2) you are attracted to her.

An all-purpose funny comment? I don't know, I'm not that funny. But perhaps something will arise during the convo...

 

[isotope]

some girls dont like to be told they look pretty (when they are hit on). no matter how genuine, they still think it means you are superficial and only after sex

 

[matius]

You: How you doin? What's your name?
Her: Michelle
You: Hey, I'm Matius
You: I don't mean to interrupt...
You: (Confident) But you've got the look.
You: < Judge how into you she is at this point >
You: Are you in school? | Do you live in these parts?
Her: Yeah, I go to X | Yeah, I live around here
You: Very cool, I go here | I live here as well...
You: * Make an observation about either of those *
You: Maybe we could get together sometime so I could find out more about you.
Her: Cool~

I changed it up. I think saying 'you've got the look' is pretty honest and it makes no bones. You are after one thing but it's masked now. And to me it seems most of the girls are after one thing too.

 

[HuuBinh]

i think it'd work on girls who are initially interested in you. i dont think u should tell her your name though, unless she asks.

 

[LaidbackCharmer]

Hey whats up guy?

I would do something like this:

You: How you doin? What's your name?
Her: Michelle
You: Hey Michelle, nice to meet you.
You: I don't mean to interrupt...
You: (Confident) (Look at her head to toe)But you've got the look.
You: < Judge how into you she is at this point >
She'll most likely ask something like:
Her: What are you talking about? or What look?
You: You look like a cool person, and I wanted to meet you. so...
You: Are you in school? | Do you live in these parts?
Her: Yeah, I go to X | Yeah, I live around here
You: Very cool, I go here | I live here as well...
You: * Make an observation about either of those *
You: *Random other things to build rapport*
You: LET's get together sometime so we can find out more about each other/we can have some fun/whatever. (Tell her dont ask)
Her: Cool, here's my number

Yeah so I've learked around here for awhile and decided it was time to contribute. I think this improves things...give me comments!!!

Peace
LBC

 

[matius]

LBC- I so like it...Excellent adjustments- I'm going to use this. With a good sales pitch and an 'i don't care attitude' - one could be very dangerous.

I really dig the 'you've got the look'. She'd have to be intrigued at the very least- and if you're lucky, she might think of the INXS song: INXS > SX > SEX - SEX in EXCESS = What we are after.

Way to speak it up!!!!

No more lurking ~

 

[iqqi]

'you've got the look'

please post a follow up to this one, cuz if any guy said that cheese to me...

ok, ok, I'm being a little snobby. but honestly, i just pictured a FINE guy, with a fresh as name like Matius, and that line is STILL cheesy. You might not get rejected if she's interested regardless, but that line...she'd tell her friends about it...and they'd laugh.

"HEE HEE. he's so corny. is he cute, though?"

well, are you?

 

[matius]

I'm told I am, but it hasn't gotten me much in the way of play lately.

So Iqqi- help me out. Tell me something I could say, something that makes her roll her eyes in pleasure when she tells her friends what I said. This will help...

Seems to me that's a flattering comment. Cheesy to me is more like, 'i didn't know angels could fall so far and not get smashed on the ground like a pancake, you look super hot!'

So, what would a guy say to you that makes your heart race (somebody off the street)?

 

[Quick]

Your premise of something static that will work everytime is flawed. There is no canned line that works in every situation. Maybe you should throw out scripts altogether. In my view, they only make you more nervous because you have to worry about your next line, in addition to all the things that come with approaching her. You're trying to establish rapport, and real rapport comes from listening closely to what she says, and then responding to it in a good way. It's not the line that she'll go tell her friends about, it's the guy she just met.

Yes, improvising isn't necessarily easy if you're nervous, but neither is reading a script. I'm sure you have the ability to hold a conversation with guys and girls you aren't attracted to (if you aren't, you have bigger problems). You need to practice having conversations with strangers and hot girls until it feels more natural. Try going up and talking to hot girls without the goal of getting their number at the end.

 

[bp1974]

What if the girl you're talking to doesn't know her lines?

Then you'd have to *gasp* THINK OF SOMETHING REAL TO SAY!!!

The only canned opener you need is 'Hi, Im Matius'. From there on, you're on your own.

bp1974

 

[matius]

Lol bp1974...

I know what you two mean and that wasn't my objective. I just think it's easier to have some assemblance of a plan in order to go and talk to any girl on the spot...instead of fumbling around for things to say and losing the opportunity.

I do not have the best communication skills with people- that's true but I'm working on it. I can improvise but it might be good to have an outline atleast to get the ball rolling. Does that make sense to you?

 

[bp1974]

I understand what you're saying. You don't feel confident about talking to people so you'd like to have some guidelines to back you up.

I see why that would seem like a good idea. The trouble is, you're more likely to fumble the ball when she doesn't follow the script because you'll be expecting to give a certain response or at least a certain type of response, and suddenly you won't be able to use it. Women can say the oddest things, thing's you've never considered, and you'll be thrown if you're gearing up your canned response and it's just not relevant to what she said.


Here's a couple of tips you may find more useful:

#1 Ask her open questions, ie ones that requires more than 'yes' or 'no' as an answer. This will make the conversation flow better, and will also help you with tip #2.

#2 If you can't think of what to say to her response, try paraphrasing. This is just summarising what she said back to her in your own words. It shows that you're listening and will encourage her to say more. I guarantee it. This is what I did in the first three lines of this response to you.

bp1974

 

[matius]

si amigo.

 

[matius]

In thinking about it...

In order to make her say more than yes or no. I'd have to use a 'why' or a 'how' question. I thought I read somewhere not to ask her 'why' questions because she might feel interrogated. Do you think that argument has any weight to it.

 

[Don Ronny]

Cold Approaches aren't my strong suit, the most luck I have is when I notice something unique about them and comment on it. The best cold approach I have read here comes from the infamous Mr. Fingers, he posted a serious cold approach in my thread

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=31962&perpage=20&pagenumber=3

It takes big balls to pull htat one off though. You can read my opener as well at the very beginning of that thread. It's the most successful cold approach I ever pulled off!

Yours isn't bad but I think you should start by putting attention on yourself instead. Instead of asking her 20 questions or telling her how fine she is

try saying, "excuse me, but I need a woman's opinion, what do you think of these shoes?" or whatever. my friend Ernie does this all the time and it works well for him.

 

[princelydeeds]

I think you must be fluid in your game. You must think on the fly. Have no form, but go withthe flow. What if her first line is im in a major hurry. Then you have to cut the small talk. Honestly if shes that sexy shes probably heard everything you're gonna say. Confidence, ****iness, and funniness will get you further. There are times that a chick may have it in her mind to diss you. You can change her mind by being fluid maybe with a neg hit or maybe even being slightly self depricating. Be egoless, go with the flow, dont try do! if she gives you no play then sometimes you have to know when to fold em.

 

[matius]

That's damn funny- probably get me beat up though if I tried that.

That's different too.

Congratulations...

For what?

You're my new girlfriend...Would you like your ice cream now. I know a place...

That would be super difficult to pull off I think.

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Hmmm...gives me some ideas.