Think I am losing this ones interest. need some insight

[MountainSlide]

I don't see it that way: that a woman's IL will increase.

The way I see it, I must have a woman's interest in order to have any influence upon it, otherwise she will not care what I do.

Displaying this willingness to walk in response to behavior that elicits it is done entirely for the sole purpose of curbing a man's own poor behavior; to attack any temptation to cling, fold, chase, etc. It is done to protect one's own ego. Not that this is a bad thing, of course. Many struggling men need to do this, but at that point it is not done to increase anyone's IL.

It is a band-aid, IMO.

It has been in my experience that the best time to be a man willing to walk away is not after the calls and/or texts suddenly stop coming or when some other behavior entices it. It is best done when her IL is at its highest and things could not be much better. It is in that moment that the abundance mindset, the lack of thirst & desperation, the pinnacle of confidence, the status of a man's life is conveyed with the most power and effect: when he can take or leave even something good, not after things start to go south on him.

A willingness to walk is a precedence that must be set from the beginning.

Now, many men say this is done by minimizing contact, with the additional benefit that it also gives her a chance to miss you. Many men say this is why they minimize communication right out of the gates.

But again, I see it a bit differently.

I can text some women every day, but they will still tell me that they miss the sound of my voice. I can speak with them on the phone all of the time, but they will still tell me that they miss my smell, the feel of my hands, my lips..... I can see them, hug them, kiss them frequently, but they will still tell me that they miss the most intimate of our moments.

A woman misses a man because her IL in him is already very high.

I know it to be true and very possible for a woman to miss you even when you are standing right in front of her.

In short, all of the things we talk about here are great for guys who need help, but IMO, the only true way to increase a woman's IL is to seduce her. Plain and simple. Everything outside of that is pretty much a management tool.

We’re going to agree on some things and disagree about others. I do agree that you need to have enough of a woman’s IL to have influence, if you don’t, you’re not going to increase it by acting needy and emotionally investing into her. At this point if you walk away, at least you won’t embarrass yourself, and at some point in the future, it’s possible to reconnect. Women’s emotional states are very fluid.

Why would you walk away from something good? Because there’s so much abundance? But I thought he wasn’t thirsty lol. If your just getting laid, then whatever, walk away at anytime. Low IL - High IL. It doesn’t really matter. Because you should have enough options that it doesn’t bother you!

Judge a woman’s IL by her actions not her words! A woman can say “I miss your touch”. If she misses your touch then you should be getting together to experience it, not discussing it at length over the phone or text (unless she’s at a distance). Women will say one thing and do another, they will say they want one thing, when in reality that thing they say they want would make you no longer suitable to them.

Minimizing contact is an effective strategy for many reasons. Primarily because you should be busy living your life rather than emotionally investing via text when it only increases the IL of desperate and needy women.

I agree. The only way to increase the interest level of a quality woman is to seduce her! And seduction is done in person.

 

[StrayCat]

We've been screwing like jackrabbits for the last two weeks. She had a period last weekend, but she, voluntarily, gave me five bjs. She said she likes giving them and she enjoys pleasing me. She wanted to see me on Tuesday night and asked if I could pick her up, said she was really tired, but wanted to spend time with me. Initially, I wasn't crazy about going out to pick her up, but I finally agreed. As soon as we got home, she was DTF. A couple of bjs and two sex sessions and then we fell a sleep. She's 40, but looks 28 as she works out like a fein and eats very healthy (she looks like Brooke Burke). After going down on her, my penis slipped into her a day after her period. I pulled out a few seconds later, but I am a bit concerned. She even went nuts and said take it out quick. I then put on a condom and went back in. Am I overthinking it? I did pee after the two previous ejaculations and wiped the head with some alcohol after I peed.