Think girlfriend is IN LOVE with her bestfriend(girl)

[Hamsalad]

I've been going out with this girl for 5 months now. I've had this pop up before but it just resurfaced again recently. My girlfriend is Bi, I know that for sure. Her friend is supposedly just straight(has a BF). They've been friends for about 5 years I think. Maybe 4.

Anyway, some reasons I believe this.

-They tell eachother they love eachother when they leave, in a cute kinda tone but still. My GF will even call her baby girl after saying it sometimes.

-When her friend broke up with her boyfriend, they started hanging out more. Then after her friend got back with her boyfriend, she REALLY hated her boyfriend. Seemed a bit resentful. But then again he was a "peice of sh1t" to her friend, so this is probably normal.

-She commented on a picture of her facebook after she broke up w/ her boyfriend. Saying how she was beautiful and to stop being so hot becasue she wouldn't be able to help herself...(wtf)

-Her friend made an emo status update shortly after her break up and my GF responded with something about her keeping her chin up and she would always be there for her , calling her beautiful. It was a pretty romantic / deep comment, kind of put me off.

-Just got her a birthday card that said Happy Birthday *****! On the front, I had to ask her what it said inside becasue she didn't show me like most people do when they show you a birthday card. It was an acronym for Beautiful.Intelligent.Totally.Cool.Hottie

-Calls her "Babe"

-Last night for the first time in a while I finally hung out w/ her and her friend again. And her friend told me how when they went to an OTEP show.(Female , Bi , sexy lead singer) How her and my GF were scheming on how to get the lead singer to have a 3-some. And just made a joke about how she'sa straight chick but how the singer was really sexy.

I could just be extremley paranoid but I've just picked up a lot of vibes that seemed more than friendly, like she's actually in love with her, not just loves her. I can tell it seems like my GF crushing on her more than the other way around but I'm sure some sh1ts happend with them at least before.

I guess my main question is should I say anything to her about it? She's about to go on vacation with this chick in a couple weeks, for a week.(It's been planned for like 8 months) She does show a lot of affection to me / tells me she loves me, but this just really bugs me. Not to mention earlier yesterday I tried to initiate some sex, she just gave me like a "Hey!..."(I could've handled it a lot better, like persisting) but I AFC'd out and just said "what you don't want to?" and got a "I'm half asleep." (she really was but that wouldn't stop me from fvcking.)

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c4bs1YEQkWg

On a serious note, just read the thread title. Actions speak louder then words. If she acts like she is in love with her best friend then dump her ass and keep it casual if you can.

 

[st_99]

So this girl is "bi" and you're calling her your girlfriend??? Thats dumb.

 

[5string]

Rug munchers. Who needs em'.

 

[Hamsalad]

K...So I guess the consensus is just dump her? Really wish someone could put a little more thought into it.

 

[Jaylan]

lol, and this is why I only wife up straight broads.

 

[maine_man]

get it on with the both of them

 

[luckster]

K...So I guess the consensus is just dump her? Really wish someone could put a little more thought into it.

Being bi has nothing to do with it. All that does is make the other half of the population (or at least the gay ones) eligible for "dating." The fact is, if she has the desire for someone else while she is with you, then you have a problem. Gender doesn't play much of a role. Regardless of whether or not this person she might be interested is unavailable, this is a form of disloyalty. A woman doesn't have to have sex for it to be "cheating," we all know it's more on an emotional level for them. That's my take on it. I'd say you can have some fun with her but if what you say is true, I would keep it just at having fun

So this girl is "bi" and you're calling her your girlfriend??? Thats dumb.

I personally don't think being "bi" is a problem as long as the girl understands the concept of a relationship between two people.

It really depends on how you interpret things. If she hooked up with a guy, would you see it as cheating? What if she hooked up with a girl?

 

[PapiChulo]

Wow, seems like a love triangle. A threesome would be good! I ve been hitting in a chick like who seems gay and in fact is with her girlfriend. I don't see a problem here to be honest, but she is definitely attracted to her girl. The bets are that she did already go muff-diving on her ; ) he he.

 

[Hamsalad]

Might not be a problem if I was involved lol.(And in this case it's the opposite, I think my sex life w/ her is low because of this) But honestly in this situation it still would be for me because I was being deceived about it. She hung out with her friend last night for her friends birthday. I called at 8PM....Nothing back all night.

Think I'm just going to break it off w/ her today and/or call her out on her lesbo crush. The only other times she blew me off like this were for her friend too, it's all starting to get peiced together. Not sure how it took me so long to realize.

I actually caught her friend giving me the eye and biting her bottom lip when I was talking to her before too.

 

[Hamsalad]

I'm assuming every agrees especially after last night dumping her is the best course of action? Or calling her out on it at the very least. Although I'm sure that won't do much good, as denial is ALWAYS an option. I could state all these reasons of why it's so obvious that she's got the hots for her friend and she could just deny the night away and call me crazy.

Still no response back yet from her today. I'm just going to call her after work and let her know what's up.

 

[Hamsalad]

Would appreciate some more opinions, although I'm sure it's really obvious and I'm just still in a half state of denial. More opinions would probably just help solidify it for me. Also make sure you read my last two posts too.

 

[DonGorgon]

"in love"...lolooolll

 

[Hamsalad]

"in love"...lolooolll

I'm sure you're laughing because you think she only wants to fvck her or something, but it really seems a lot deeper than that. But I guess I just answered my own question / seeking more validation by having to explain that to you.

 

[Casslehoff]

You're not masculine enough, if you're a ***** why would she want to be with you when she can find a real ***** in her friend?
She's also going on vacation with her, WTF?
Stop calling her, just move on , dont find closure just move the heck on. Find yourself another babe, there's ALOT out there.

And also if she wasn't feeling the sex it was because you weren't hitting it right. Her friend must be tearing that vagina up in bed during their lesbo sessions

 

[Hamsalad]

Friends go on vacation with eachother. Not making up excuses but that one shouldn't be something that sticks out out of all that sh1t. I feel like I need to at least tell her I'm done(the whole it's not working out). You like to put a lot of blame on me but ever figure that someone might just a wh0re? I know what you're saying I just don't think there should be excuses, if you lost attraction to someone, break up with them. Don't go around fvckin' people.

 

[Casslehoff]

Friends go on vacation with eachother. Not making up excuses but that one shouldn't be something that sticks out out of all that sh1t. I feel like I need to at least tell her I'm done(the whole it's not working out). You like to put a lot of blame on me but ever figure that someone might just a wh0re? I know what you're saying I just don't think there should be excuses, if you lost attraction to someone, break up with them. Don't go around fvckin' people.

Listen man, I know you want to be mr leave the last word but at the of the day its not going to get her back!
just dont say anything. you already called her and sent a msg , she didn't reply to any of them....DON'T YOU GET IT !
Delete her number and move on..

 

[Hamsalad]

I just called her last night, didn't send her any sort of message. IDK about you but when I invest 5 months of my life on something I usually can't just write it off that easy. That's more of a one night stand or a few dates type thing IMO.

You are right about whatever me saying won't get her back, so I think it would be best if I left it really generic; to save some of my own face. I just know not talking to someone doesn't end a relationship that you're in. Eventually someone is going to have to communicate that it's over one way or another.(Kind of non masculine to not just man up and be the one to do it also IMO)

It's only been an hour since my last post, but still hasn't gotten back to me from last night. Obviously not a very good sign. I know it's usually not good to tell someone off when they've done you dirty like that because it simply won't change their mind and just make you look weaker. But sometimes you gotta say something when you get to a certain point of disrespect for yourself.

 

[Casslehoff]

I just called her last night, didn't send her any sort of message. IDK about you but when I invest 5 months of my life on something I usually can't just write it off that easy. That's more of a one night stand or a few dates type thing IMO.

You are right about whatever me saying won't get her back, so I think it would be best if I left it really generic; to save some of my own face. I just know not talking to someone doesn't end a relationship that you're in. Eventually someone is going to have to communicate that it's over one way or another.

It's only been an hour since my last post, but still hasn't gotten back to me from last night. Obviously not a very good sign. I know it's usually not good to tell someone off when they've done you dirty like that because it simply won't change their mind and just make you look weaker. But sometimes you gotta say something when you get to a certain point of disrespect for yourself.

This is your problem, you invested your time , money, love to ONE GIRL! you probably think you can never find another one like her ever again. See, if you had other girls linedup you wouldn't be this worried about TELLING HER OFF!

also 5 months is nothing..
Like i said already you already CALLED her and today YOU MESSAGED her. she didn't reply to any of it.
You know how you can tell her off by YOUR actions! find your self another babe!

 

[Hamsalad]

This is a moot point but I only called her once, last night. That was the last contact I tried to have with her. Not sure where you are getting this message thing from.

I was planning on doing it with my actions. I'm just saying we are in a relationship(technically, regardless of how she views it) and in order for that to end it has to be communicated. Sure I can sit there and painfully ignore texts / calls she is sure to send until she gets the point. But why not just call her and do it and cut out the bullsh1t game?

I obviously have strong emotions for her(I'm no robot) and sure I should have some other girls lined up(got a couple I know would be ready to go but would just be a pump and dump) but in the end that doesn't matter. I'm not pleased with what's going on, or how I'm being treated. She obviously doesn't have respect / attraction for me and I don't want to be in that kind of relationship, so I want to end it. I don't see the problem.