Hello, long time reader, first time poster. Anyways, this is about a girl who I'd been talking to for the last month and a half or so and all of a sudden the talking just stopped. I thought I could get some input on this. This might sound too detailed but I figure the more I give you the better you can pick out where things went wrong. Here's how it all went:
I first saw this girl in a friend's Facebook picture, and I asked my friend who it was and after she told me I sent the girl a message asking what was up and telling her that we had the mutual friend. Things got off pretty well and soon enough we were sending messages many times a day, so I asked for her AOL screen name and we started talking on there. She wasn't on a whole lot at first and then started signing on every night to talk to me. We joked around about how things were getting serious because we were talking a couple hours a day (Napoleon Dynamite reference). We'd talk until 1-2 AM some nights (yea sad I know) and she was really into me. She was sending me pictures of herself and commenting on herself, usually partially negative, but I would never be direct with my answers so it was all good. She also enjoyed my pictures and would usually say something good about me. She was still a little negative on herself, even with the issue of sitting on the computer all the time instead of doing something else. I gave her this motivational spiel about getting up and doing what she likes to do. A few days later she said she played basketball with some people at the rec center and that it was because I motivated her to do it. So at this point it seemed like I could do no wrong.
One night she signed on and was complaining about her shoulders being sore from work. I said I had large hands and could help out (that was as far as I went with that). She joked if I really wanted to come over and hang her parents' house I could. She lives at her parents' house, but she lives in the same town as the university so I guess that is alright. Well after enough talking I figured nothing was going to happen so before I went to bed I asked for her phone number and she said she hadn't met me yet so I understood. Then I had a good idea and gave her my number, and she sent me a text message 5 minutes later. So I figured she trusted me enough by now. We had talked about meeting some time but she was always busy with work and I had track meets every weekend so I wasn't always around, but we kept talking.
At the end of finals week I had a meet on Saturday so since I wasn't going to go out Friday night I thought why not just go by the restaurant she works at and see what happens. So I walk in and sit at the bar portion of the restaurant and order a Sprite (not a drinker). I notice all the waitresses walking by (all of them looked pretty good) but I wasn't sure which one she was or what she looked like besides her pictures that she sent me. All of a sudden somebody grabbed my shoulder from behind me and it was her. She looked even better than the pictures but I kept cool about that. She said I should get some ice cream pie and that it was really good so I ordered that and she brought it to me. She'd come by every few minutes to say something and would always put her arm around me or some type of touching so I figured that was all good. Finally I decide I'm going home and she said how good it was to meet me etc. and I was out. I got a message on AOL later from her thanking me for coming by and how nice it was to meet me, all that good stuff. I went to the meet the next day and we sent a couple text messages back and forth while I was gone.
The next week because we were done with school but had the Big XII meet that weekend I was pretty much either going to be at practice or doing nothing. Well she said she could play basketball with me on Monday so I told her that would be alright, even though I still felt crappy from the meet the last weekend. We talked about possibly watching a movie that night too. So I got done with practice and called her after and she came over to the rec center. We rented out a couple basketballs and got to shooting around. She told me she beat some guy a while back and was making almost every shot she took so I was thinking "damn I'm gonna get rolled." Well she asked about playing Horse so I said alright sounds good. It was a pretty close game but she beat me with Hors- so I told her let's play again and I said something along the lines of "the glove's comin' off," or basically that I would not lose the next time. I'm not gonna lie but I was taking some pretty ridiculous shots (bounce-off-the-wall 3-point fadeways, or shooting from behind the hoop for example) and me being about a foot taller it was pretty much impossible for her to make any of the same shots. So I won with only H---- and we just shot around a little bit more and played some Knock Out, and then she decided she was going to go. I brought up the movie and she said she was going to go visit some dude in a wheelchair in another town and that she didn't have to work a lot later in the week so I said another time sounds good, talk to you later.
That night I sent her a message on facebook that quoted one of the ridiculous shots I took when we were playing earlier. She didn't say anything back so I was like ok no biggie. Well for the most part I heard jack squat from her the rest of the week and she never signed on AOL. I asked our mutual friend if she was a sore loser or something and explained what happened. The friend said she didn't know what was up so I just forgot about it. I went to the Big XII meet and one of the days I got on somebody's computer to get on facebook and she had sent me a message saying good luck at the meet and to holla at her when I get back. So I thought all was good again and replied I'd talk to her later. I get back from the meet 4 days after I left and I was gonna have to move out the next day for the town I had an internship at (where I am right now). I called her to see what was going on and she didn't answer so I left a message saying I was leaving town the next day and would be at the town I had to work at. I hear nothing from her so I said screw it and packed up and left town. Later that night I was at the grocery store getting food and I get a text message from her saying she just got my message etc. and I replied I was in the other town and had my own apartment and everything, and she asked what I was going to do and I replied something along the lines of "perhaps hope for a visitor or two ;-)" So we don't talk again for a couple days and one day I get on and she's online so I started talking to her. She said she owed me a message on facebook (one I had sent after I got to this town), and I said she owed me a movie too and she said "lol ok" or something like that. That was about a week and a half ago.
I sent her a message on facebook 4-5 days ago asking what she was doing for Memorial Day weekend and 'poked' her. She cleared the poke and didn't reply, and that was that. I haven't done anything since. She still talks to the mutual friend on there so I know she still gets on there.
So I guess my question is: was it as obvious as the basketball game as to why she stopped talking to me, or is there some underlying reason that I don't know about? I wasn't sure if there's some unwritten rule that you gotta let the girl win or something haha. Or maybe it seemed like I rubbed it in when I sent the facebook message, but that all I ever mentioned about basketball after we played. I figure if it was the basketball and she is a sore loser then that would be a huge NEXT. But if it's not anything to do with that then let me know; I'm sure I've included everything pretty detailed but if there's other questions you have I'd probably be able to answer them. Thanks.
I first saw this girl in a friend's Facebook picture, and I asked my friend who it was and after she told me I sent the girl a message asking what was up and telling her that we had the mutual friend. Things got off pretty well and soon enough we were sending messages many times a day, so I asked for her AOL screen name and we started talking on there. She wasn't on a whole lot at first and then started signing on every night to talk to me. We joked around about how things were getting serious because we were talking a couple hours a day (Napoleon Dynamite reference). We'd talk until 1-2 AM some nights (yea sad I know) and she was really into me. She was sending me pictures of herself and commenting on herself, usually partially negative, but I would never be direct with my answers so it was all good. She also enjoyed my pictures and would usually say something good about me. She was still a little negative on herself, even with the issue of sitting on the computer all the time instead of doing something else. I gave her this motivational spiel about getting up and doing what she likes to do. A few days later she said she played basketball with some people at the rec center and that it was because I motivated her to do it. So at this point it seemed like I could do no wrong.
One night she signed on and was complaining about her shoulders being sore from work. I said I had large hands and could help out (that was as far as I went with that). She joked if I really wanted to come over and hang her parents' house I could. She lives at her parents' house, but she lives in the same town as the university so I guess that is alright. Well after enough talking I figured nothing was going to happen so before I went to bed I asked for her phone number and she said she hadn't met me yet so I understood. Then I had a good idea and gave her my number, and she sent me a text message 5 minutes later. So I figured she trusted me enough by now. We had talked about meeting some time but she was always busy with work and I had track meets every weekend so I wasn't always around, but we kept talking.
At the end of finals week I had a meet on Saturday so since I wasn't going to go out Friday night I thought why not just go by the restaurant she works at and see what happens. So I walk in and sit at the bar portion of the restaurant and order a Sprite (not a drinker). I notice all the waitresses walking by (all of them looked pretty good) but I wasn't sure which one she was or what she looked like besides her pictures that she sent me. All of a sudden somebody grabbed my shoulder from behind me and it was her. She looked even better than the pictures but I kept cool about that. She said I should get some ice cream pie and that it was really good so I ordered that and she brought it to me. She'd come by every few minutes to say something and would always put her arm around me or some type of touching so I figured that was all good. Finally I decide I'm going home and she said how good it was to meet me etc. and I was out. I got a message on AOL later from her thanking me for coming by and how nice it was to meet me, all that good stuff. I went to the meet the next day and we sent a couple text messages back and forth while I was gone.
The next week because we were done with school but had the Big XII meet that weekend I was pretty much either going to be at practice or doing nothing. Well she said she could play basketball with me on Monday so I told her that would be alright, even though I still felt crappy from the meet the last weekend. We talked about possibly watching a movie that night too. So I got done with practice and called her after and she came over to the rec center. We rented out a couple basketballs and got to shooting around. She told me she beat some guy a while back and was making almost every shot she took so I was thinking "damn I'm gonna get rolled." Well she asked about playing Horse so I said alright sounds good. It was a pretty close game but she beat me with Hors- so I told her let's play again and I said something along the lines of "the glove's comin' off," or basically that I would not lose the next time. I'm not gonna lie but I was taking some pretty ridiculous shots (bounce-off-the-wall 3-point fadeways, or shooting from behind the hoop for example) and me being about a foot taller it was pretty much impossible for her to make any of the same shots. So I won with only H---- and we just shot around a little bit more and played some Knock Out, and then she decided she was going to go. I brought up the movie and she said she was going to go visit some dude in a wheelchair in another town and that she didn't have to work a lot later in the week so I said another time sounds good, talk to you later.
That night I sent her a message on facebook that quoted one of the ridiculous shots I took when we were playing earlier. She didn't say anything back so I was like ok no biggie. Well for the most part I heard jack squat from her the rest of the week and she never signed on AOL. I asked our mutual friend if she was a sore loser or something and explained what happened. The friend said she didn't know what was up so I just forgot about it. I went to the Big XII meet and one of the days I got on somebody's computer to get on facebook and she had sent me a message saying good luck at the meet and to holla at her when I get back. So I thought all was good again and replied I'd talk to her later. I get back from the meet 4 days after I left and I was gonna have to move out the next day for the town I had an internship at (where I am right now). I called her to see what was going on and she didn't answer so I left a message saying I was leaving town the next day and would be at the town I had to work at. I hear nothing from her so I said screw it and packed up and left town. Later that night I was at the grocery store getting food and I get a text message from her saying she just got my message etc. and I replied I was in the other town and had my own apartment and everything, and she asked what I was going to do and I replied something along the lines of "perhaps hope for a visitor or two ;-)" So we don't talk again for a couple days and one day I get on and she's online so I started talking to her. She said she owed me a message on facebook (one I had sent after I got to this town), and I said she owed me a movie too and she said "lol ok" or something like that. That was about a week and a half ago.
I sent her a message on facebook 4-5 days ago asking what she was doing for Memorial Day weekend and 'poked' her. She cleared the poke and didn't reply, and that was that. I haven't done anything since. She still talks to the mutual friend on there so I know she still gets on there.
So I guess my question is: was it as obvious as the basketball game as to why she stopped talking to me, or is there some underlying reason that I don't know about? I wasn't sure if there's some unwritten rule that you gotta let the girl win or something haha. Or maybe it seemed like I rubbed it in when I sent the facebook message, but that all I ever mentioned about basketball after we played. I figure if it was the basketball and she is a sore loser then that would be a huge NEXT. But if it's not anything to do with that then let me know; I'm sure I've included everything pretty detailed but if there's other questions you have I'd probably be able to answer them. Thanks.
