They sit with their legs wide open towards me, and i can't do it.
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Nexus Polaris
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Why in the world do you want to get married at 25? Most guys I know who marry that young regret it afterward. I'm pushing 30, and I'm nowhere close to wanting to settle down.
Moofahsa
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Get some valium or codeine
Take a nominal amount
now your dumb and fearless, go talk to chicks.
Take a nominal amount
now your dumb and fearless, go talk to chicks.
KontrollerX
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"I should be getting married in three years time."
Dude...
As everyone else has basically said: Chill out!
Also stop looking at marriage as a goal state for your life because you think thats what you are SUPPOSED TO DO!!!
Marriage is only something you are supposed to do if thats what you REALLY WANT.
Not what society wants, not what society deems makes you a non loser, not what your friends want for you, not what your friends have, no!
WHAT IS IT THAT DRIVES YOU?
WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM YOUR LIFE??
Once you figure that out you go and do that and don't let anyone peer pressure you into living their way or the way they think you should live.
Fight for your happiness not someone else's idea of it.
Dude...
As everyone else has basically said: Chill out!
Also stop looking at marriage as a goal state for your life because you think thats what you are SUPPOSED TO DO!!!
Marriage is only something you are supposed to do if thats what you REALLY WANT.
Not what society wants, not what society deems makes you a non loser, not what your friends want for you, not what your friends have, no!
WHAT IS IT THAT DRIVES YOU?
WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM YOUR LIFE??
Once you figure that out you go and do that and don't let anyone peer pressure you into living their way or the way they think you should live.
Fight for your happiness not someone else's idea of it.
badboy2007
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Thanks guys. I really mean it.
How do you come out of your shells? How do you get yourselves to 'just do it'? How do i just fcuk them? These are my problems.
I have a life and passion. Work, uni, gym, football, clubbing, swimming. If i were to date someone, i really would have a hard time finding a timeslot to do it during the week.
I don't see girls as friends or mates or buddies. If a girl doesn't arouse me, i make no real effort to know her.
My friends, mates, just seem to have FUN. They don't think, They just do it. People talk on these forums talk like they're shagging every girl they meet. I can't. I have to think. React. Analyze.
Im not looking upto anyone.
Its just that im a man as well. Im a very sexual being. Im just not confident enough to show it. When im hungry i want to eat. When i see a sexy girl, i want to have sex with her. And I believe i can. But i don't. I know i can't and shouldn't want every girl... but my problem is im not actually fcuking or pulling ANYONE.
When you haven't pulled a girl for 3 years, you know you need to change and change NOW.
Again, all i want to know is How do you come out of your shells? How do you get yourselves to 'just do it'? How do i just fcuk them?
xxxx
I ideally want to get married when im just under 26. If the right girl doesn't show up by then, then i'll wait until she does. My point is im not even meeting any women to find that right girl at the moment.
How do you come out of your shells? How do you get yourselves to 'just do it'? How do i just fcuk them? These are my problems.
I have a life and passion. Work, uni, gym, football, clubbing, swimming. If i were to date someone, i really would have a hard time finding a timeslot to do it during the week.
I don't see girls as friends or mates or buddies. If a girl doesn't arouse me, i make no real effort to know her.
My friends, mates, just seem to have FUN. They don't think, They just do it. People talk on these forums talk like they're shagging every girl they meet. I can't. I have to think. React. Analyze.
Im not looking upto anyone.
Its just that im a man as well. Im a very sexual being. Im just not confident enough to show it. When im hungry i want to eat. When i see a sexy girl, i want to have sex with her. And I believe i can. But i don't. I know i can't and shouldn't want every girl... but my problem is im not actually fcuking or pulling ANYONE.
When you haven't pulled a girl for 3 years, you know you need to change and change NOW.
Again, all i want to know is How do you come out of your shells? How do you get yourselves to 'just do it'? How do i just fcuk them?
xxxx
I ideally want to get married when im just under 26. If the right girl doesn't show up by then, then i'll wait until she does. My point is im not even meeting any women to find that right girl at the moment.
Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
one thing that is good for everyone to do, and i'm sure everyone on this board agrees with, is proactiveness which is going out and actually doing stuff. go out with a friend or something, look at the girls.. when you see one you like go head and holler at her. ask her where the party's at? the next thing you want to do is set up a time bridge so you can get to know her better. whatever is convenient for you...you meet them somewhere later and you guys walk around and talk or wahtever...then you plan....what am i going to do? am i going to go out and party with her? am i going to take her to my house and drink a few cold ones? have it be a pleasurable experience for the both of you to enjoy. then you tell her about it, and you do it.
the key weapon is boldness... throw her some compliments like "damn you look good" you drink with her a lijttle on the living room couch, put your arm around her, chit chat a little bit, then you say hey lets go check out my room. she'll be down... then you just make your move over there. then have your little fun. it pretty much goes down to that.
the key weapon is boldness... throw her some compliments like "damn you look good" you drink with her a lijttle on the living room couch, put your arm around her, chit chat a little bit, then you say hey lets go check out my room. she'll be down... then you just make your move over there. then have your little fun. it pretty much goes down to that.
Socialreject
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Learn how to tease women...
I've always had plenty going for me (well maybe not always, but soon as i grew up anyways), but i never got off to a good start with the ladies until i learned to tease women, to not always 'accept' something as soon as they put it up for grabs. To push for some things, and distance myself from other things.
Women do not like 'available' men. Even if you're ****y, even if you throw them sh1t and challenges to handle, you're still going to screw up if you don't let em marinate on their desires.
For example... You've been teasing a woman about kissing...You think she might be ready for it...
WAIT...
Keep teasing, kick it up a nickle, but don't 'kiss' her just yet.
Wait till she REALLY wants it, and then, you need to reach out with your feelers, to find the point where she wants it soooo bad that she's about to get frustrated if you don't give it to her...
Then, put her out of her misery
You're in control of yourself, and in so doing you're in control of the interaction, you decide when anything happens. You create oppertunities, and then use them at your leisure.
Patience and control is key in this...
I've always had plenty going for me (well maybe not always, but soon as i grew up anyways), but i never got off to a good start with the ladies until i learned to tease women, to not always 'accept' something as soon as they put it up for grabs. To push for some things, and distance myself from other things.
Women do not like 'available' men. Even if you're ****y, even if you throw them sh1t and challenges to handle, you're still going to screw up if you don't let em marinate on their desires.
For example... You've been teasing a woman about kissing...You think she might be ready for it...
WAIT...
Keep teasing, kick it up a nickle, but don't 'kiss' her just yet.
Wait till she REALLY wants it, and then, you need to reach out with your feelers, to find the point where she wants it soooo bad that she's about to get frustrated if you don't give it to her...
Then, put her out of her misery
You're in control of yourself, and in so doing you're in control of the interaction, you decide when anything happens. You create oppertunities, and then use them at your leisure.
Patience and control is key in this...