superchristx
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My first post was something like "method for a gloomy guy," I wanted to get more chicks without giving up my natural demeanor. Basically I was lambasted, people said it would never work, that i could only get depressed goth chicks. Well darth vader taught us that there is GREAT power in the dark side, if we're man enough to use it. At the time of that first post I was a lot closer to being a DJ than I realized, I’m still not there but I hope what I’ve learned along the way can help some of the gloomy guys on this board.
I've always been a dark guy, I own more than my fair share of dark clothes (though I never wear all black) my eyes are set way back in my head which gives me a shadowy, mysterious air. I walk with a manly strut, like satan himself or darth vader. But remember, satan would never say “yeah I’m the prince of darkness,” he would give you an innocent look and say “who me??” You don’t have to say that you’re evil on a plate, pure c0ck’n’balls with a trick up your sleeve, because everybody knows it.
Keys to the dark stylee are:
1. Never be a pvssy. You aren't dark because you're some depressed drama queen stuck in a funk, you're dark because that's how you roll and you like it. Never be sad, it was a mistake in that first post to use the word “gloomy” it’s much better to be mean.
2. Hide your smile. When I first started reading these boards, I saw a lot of posts: always have a hyper-positive energy, smile with all your top and bottom teeth showing. I could never, WOULD never do this. When a smile naturally comes to my face I squash it down into a half-smile, like a little kid who just did something naughty but doesn't want you to know about it. This smile is easy to fake and it gives the impression that under your hard exterior there is a funloving sweetheart waiting to be unleashed. When you hide your good side, people will work to see more of it. I almost never laugh, although I have a great sense of humor and I'm always making people crack up (maybe because I make them slightly uneasy) it takes something seriously funny to get more than a chuckle out of me. But laughter is a natural thing, I would never fake it so the absence of laughter is just my natural disposition. The half-smile is CRITICAL to dark game, girls find it irresistable.
5. Deadpan. Along the same veign, it goes without saying that your humor is totally deadpan. I am constantly joking and bullshytting, but almost never smiling. I'll tell a woman that I'd like her a lot better if she stayed silent. I'll say "don't contradict me, I hate that." at the same time I'm actually loving her saucy attitude and she knows it. Maybe a cutie is standing nearby and I want some attention.
“Hey, sit here.” (slaps bench)
“Uh no thanks I’m late for ...”
(interrupting) “I insist.”
“okay.”
If she doesn’t sit down I’ll either ignore her until she does what I want, maybe I turn my back completely. Or I’ll get up and inside her comfort bubble and ask her why she’s being difficult/disobedient/insubordinate. This especially works on rebel-girls who take it as a huge compliment that they’re being disobedient. I want her to submit, she wants to resist – okay baby let’s play.
If she answers her cellphone while I’m around I say “you know, it’s one week in purgatory for every time you use your phone in my presence.” Watch how fast she hangs up!
4. Ignore/reward. Much of my game is strictly DD/AD by the book, but I take it to an extreme. If a conversation is boring me I'll walk away in the middle of it! End phone conversations with only 2 seconds notice. I'll ask an intimitate, interesting, probing question and totally ignore the answer. If I ask one of those questions and I think the answer isn't honest or interesting, I just say so. Likewise if she says something smart, interesting, or insightful (complimenting me doesnt count) I reward her big time, I'm not afraid to get up, change my seat and put my arm around her. This extremely friendly body language only lasts for a few seconds, but the girl will get half-smiles and the assumption that she 'gets' my dark humor. I also reward girls that have a little attitude and fight back. It goes both ways, if I neg a little too hard or go too heavy on the c/f, I say "there there baby lets be friends" and go hug her. I also hug guys that I'm friends with. I hug everybody, so it seems 'natural' and the people that aren't getting touched WANT to get touched. The other day I was on campus and I told a girl she looked thirteen (she was under age so I wasn’t trying) and she got a little hurt. So I went and gave her a hug. “Wow, you really know how to fvck with a girl’s head” is what she said to me. By the way this girl was smokin’ hot, dressed to the 9s.
I also qualify hardcore, in a very explicit way. "How big is your bed? Twinsize, that might be a problem." "Where do you live? Do you have a car? Alright we'll have to hang out at my place."
6. Contradiction: “You know what I like about you? The fact that you’re a stupid a$$hole.” “No offense, but I think you’re completely full if sh!t” “I like your look, you’ve got a real frumpy/sloppy style – its cute.”
I also contradict myself. I say things that are totally untrue about myself “I just want to fit in/people to like me/be cool” when its obvious that I have no interest in these things. “I’ve never said a sincere word in my life” when I just said something totally deep and insightful. “Women find me irresistable” when I just said something to push them away.
You are a walking contradiction, a battleground between good and evil. This is why the half-smile and ignore/reward are so critical. You can’t be %100 a$$hole, you have to hint at something beneath your hard exterior. There is a clear distinction between the tough guy on the outside and the sweetheart beneath.
3. Dominance: People are like dogs, if you dominate them they will naturally submit, fall in line and LOVE you for it. If a person won’t submit to you, recognize them and validate their behavior because you’ve found a kindred spirit. In a way, doing this cements them beneath you. ‘I’m the man, therefore I’m qualified to validate you and tell you that you’re alright.”
That’s all for now, please give me some feedback and I’ll modify the post into a more cohesive guide. I’m just an rAFC but I know exactly where I’m at and where I’m headed in my development. If you’re a KBJ or a hater just try to remember that this will only work for guys with whose personality it fits.
I've always been a dark guy, I own more than my fair share of dark clothes (though I never wear all black) my eyes are set way back in my head which gives me a shadowy, mysterious air. I walk with a manly strut, like satan himself or darth vader. But remember, satan would never say “yeah I’m the prince of darkness,” he would give you an innocent look and say “who me??” You don’t have to say that you’re evil on a plate, pure c0ck’n’balls with a trick up your sleeve, because everybody knows it.
Keys to the dark stylee are:
1. Never be a pvssy. You aren't dark because you're some depressed drama queen stuck in a funk, you're dark because that's how you roll and you like it. Never be sad, it was a mistake in that first post to use the word “gloomy” it’s much better to be mean.
2. Hide your smile. When I first started reading these boards, I saw a lot of posts: always have a hyper-positive energy, smile with all your top and bottom teeth showing. I could never, WOULD never do this. When a smile naturally comes to my face I squash it down into a half-smile, like a little kid who just did something naughty but doesn't want you to know about it. This smile is easy to fake and it gives the impression that under your hard exterior there is a funloving sweetheart waiting to be unleashed. When you hide your good side, people will work to see more of it. I almost never laugh, although I have a great sense of humor and I'm always making people crack up (maybe because I make them slightly uneasy) it takes something seriously funny to get more than a chuckle out of me. But laughter is a natural thing, I would never fake it so the absence of laughter is just my natural disposition. The half-smile is CRITICAL to dark game, girls find it irresistable.
5. Deadpan. Along the same veign, it goes without saying that your humor is totally deadpan. I am constantly joking and bullshytting, but almost never smiling. I'll tell a woman that I'd like her a lot better if she stayed silent. I'll say "don't contradict me, I hate that." at the same time I'm actually loving her saucy attitude and she knows it. Maybe a cutie is standing nearby and I want some attention.
“Hey, sit here.” (slaps bench)
“Uh no thanks I’m late for ...”
(interrupting) “I insist.”
“okay.”
If she doesn’t sit down I’ll either ignore her until she does what I want, maybe I turn my back completely. Or I’ll get up and inside her comfort bubble and ask her why she’s being difficult/disobedient/insubordinate. This especially works on rebel-girls who take it as a huge compliment that they’re being disobedient. I want her to submit, she wants to resist – okay baby let’s play.
If she answers her cellphone while I’m around I say “you know, it’s one week in purgatory for every time you use your phone in my presence.” Watch how fast she hangs up!
4. Ignore/reward. Much of my game is strictly DD/AD by the book, but I take it to an extreme. If a conversation is boring me I'll walk away in the middle of it! End phone conversations with only 2 seconds notice. I'll ask an intimitate, interesting, probing question and totally ignore the answer. If I ask one of those questions and I think the answer isn't honest or interesting, I just say so. Likewise if she says something smart, interesting, or insightful (complimenting me doesnt count) I reward her big time, I'm not afraid to get up, change my seat and put my arm around her. This extremely friendly body language only lasts for a few seconds, but the girl will get half-smiles and the assumption that she 'gets' my dark humor. I also reward girls that have a little attitude and fight back. It goes both ways, if I neg a little too hard or go too heavy on the c/f, I say "there there baby lets be friends" and go hug her. I also hug guys that I'm friends with. I hug everybody, so it seems 'natural' and the people that aren't getting touched WANT to get touched. The other day I was on campus and I told a girl she looked thirteen (she was under age so I wasn’t trying) and she got a little hurt. So I went and gave her a hug. “Wow, you really know how to fvck with a girl’s head” is what she said to me. By the way this girl was smokin’ hot, dressed to the 9s.
I also qualify hardcore, in a very explicit way. "How big is your bed? Twinsize, that might be a problem." "Where do you live? Do you have a car? Alright we'll have to hang out at my place."
6. Contradiction: “You know what I like about you? The fact that you’re a stupid a$$hole.” “No offense, but I think you’re completely full if sh!t” “I like your look, you’ve got a real frumpy/sloppy style – its cute.”
I also contradict myself. I say things that are totally untrue about myself “I just want to fit in/people to like me/be cool” when its obvious that I have no interest in these things. “I’ve never said a sincere word in my life” when I just said something totally deep and insightful. “Women find me irresistable” when I just said something to push them away.
You are a walking contradiction, a battleground between good and evil. This is why the half-smile and ignore/reward are so critical. You can’t be %100 a$$hole, you have to hint at something beneath your hard exterior. There is a clear distinction between the tough guy on the outside and the sweetheart beneath.
3. Dominance: People are like dogs, if you dominate them they will naturally submit, fall in line and LOVE you for it. If a person won’t submit to you, recognize them and validate their behavior because you’ve found a kindred spirit. In a way, doing this cements them beneath you. ‘I’m the man, therefore I’m qualified to validate you and tell you that you’re alright.”
That’s all for now, please give me some feedback and I’ll modify the post into a more cohesive guide. I’m just an rAFC but I know exactly where I’m at and where I’m headed in my development. If you’re a KBJ or a hater just try to remember that this will only work for guys with whose personality it fits.
