Juan_Man said:
Being friends with a girl that you are attracted to is slow and painful torture. Nuff said.
Yes agreed, but thats only
if you are hoping to become their bf by entering the relationship as their friend. if you do it this way, yo are doomed
from the start.
Cowhead418 said:
The way I see it, trying to have a "platonic relationship" with a girl you are attracted to would not be worth the trouble because the sex part will always be in the way. The only way having female friends works is if:
1. You do not find her attractive
or
2. You are going out with or banging someone hotter than she is
yes, absoloutley,
if you have a friend who is attractive, there must be an alterior motive, there has to be. For starters, the only reason your likely to talk to an attractive girl in the first place, is because you want to bang her. When does anybody look at a fitty and say "I want to be her friend" it doesnt happen, im not saying that female friends dont work as social proof, i just cant see the logic in making friends with a female for thjat purpose, unless she is unnatractive.
Secondly, what happens when you decide you want to bang your frind, because ultimatley thats going to happen, theres no point avoiding it, because at some point, you are going to want to bang your attractive female friend, then she's no longer your friend, she becomes your "love interest". which ulitmatley leads to oneitis.
gettin to the second point now, even if you are banging someone hotter, lets face it, weve all had the "id bang her" conversation, i dont think there are 2 ways about it, a bloke is guided by his penis and is unlikley to turn any girls down because "Shes his friend".
Yes, you can have aquaitances for social proof, theres nothing wrong with that, wotsoeva, just dont call them your friends because they arnt they are essentially, "chicks you know" these arent your friends they just gilrs you talk too, you dont take a chick to a footie game or arrange to go out drinking with the birds, thats fundametally wrong, if the girls are there, you talk to them, and you have a laugh, but under no circumstance do you call these girlsd your friends, if anything, they are potential shaggs, and should be treated as such.
rant over