There is Nothing wrong with Calling Women out on their bullshvt

[EyeOnThePrize]

The most powerful way to send a message to a woman is to ignore her. Don't touch her, don't kiss her, don't show any affection, don't take her out, don't call her, don't text her.

Yep its childish. Its not how men solve problems. Men put the problem on the table and discuss. Women are too weak for that and don't like confrontation.

But what women do like more than any thing else is attention. You take that "attention" away from them an ignore them and thats when her brain opens up and starts questioning her own actions. Only then can you begin to discuss something.

Every now and then you need to lay into her azz really good. But most of the time just ignore her.

I wouldn't say it's childish, it's efficient. What is the point of trying to discuss things with someone that doesn't care? If you step back and they don't step towards you to ask what's wrong, then you've saved yourself an immense amount of time and headache. You've also made a valuable insight about your compatibility, all by doing less.

Anyone likes attention.

It only took me over 40 years to figure out that getting mad per se out right doesn’t help too much. Calling women out by itself doesn’t help too much either. What you have to do is implement consequences without getting too mad. Be passive aggressive. It’s the only thing that sinks in for them. Withdrawing your attention from her typically works if you have no other consequences you can implement.

When my wife does something I don’t like, I either retreat to my office down stairs or leave for a few hours and completely ignore her calls or texts. Sometimes will “forget” to do something she wants me to do. When she asks me if I’m mad at something I will calmly reply “Should I be?” Or “why would you ask that ? “ I make her try to self reflect on what she did even though women really struggle with this.

Women have to have some consequences for them for their bad behaviors. Words alone no matter how mad you get, just won’t sync in or keep her from doing it again.

Being passive aggressive is lame and weak. If she asks what's wrong she's showing she cares and you should be able to have a calm rational discussion about what's bothering you. But idk your dynamic, maybe you've tried that and she doesn't handle those discussions well, or maybe you don't feel comfortable being vulnerable with her(although you should).

My wife needs very little correction, but the couple of times I removed attention it took her forever to notice. She is so easy-going that she just thinks I must be deeply involved in something.
Most women I’ve dealt with have noticed attention removal very quickly, so it was a breeze to make an impact. My wife is incredibly well-balanced for a woman, always joyful and secure, so she always thinks the best of what I’m doing or not doing. I guess it’s the double-edged sword thing. I barely ever have to discipline her, which is great, but when I do, the tools are dull because of her sense of security and insanely optimistic outlook on life. However, on balance that’s a good problem to have, methinks.

Definitely a good problem to have. My girl is similar, extremely positive and secure in our relationship. There's no point in being silent with her because it's an LTR and she puts in so much effort to make things work that I know any misstep from her is a simple miscommunication. My guidance is calm and I don't even have to be stern, she's always extremely receptive and thanks me for the direction. Her behavior inspires me to be even more open and communicative with her.

You mentioning the tools are dull makes me think twice about popping the question ha.

 

[MtmVaott]

Every amount of energy you put into someone who doesn't value you is worthless and in vain.
The hard part is to spot situations where you are not valued in everyday life and to let it sink in instead of deluding yourself. And we have many reasons to delude ourselves. Happens all the time, for everyone.

And the other kind of situation is due to miscommunication or a lack of knowledge about the other person.

I think if you always address what you don't like and ask why she is doing it, the truth will come up very fast. Also whether she values you or not will surface much quicker and more visible.
The question is do you want to know?