Lost In the Seas
Senior Don Juan
I have read many posts and topics about how it is impossible to get back with a girl whose IL has dropped down to 49% or below, is this always the rule, or there are exceptions around it?
I would recommend you go on with your life and make changes in it for your own benefit. To try and change who you are and what you are about to please and/or ingratiate yourself with someone is a mistake. Either she accepted you for who you are or she didn't really accept you at all. Maybe you didn't see all that was literally before you because you are so attached to her emotionally. Yes, feeling that way is great, but it's better to be with someone who respects it and can truly appreciate it.Originally posted by Lost In the Seas
ya Qmachoo that makes loads of sense, thx for the great insight.
My situation is that:
know this girl through friend of a friend of mine, first we met as friends, then the chemistry started soon after and things got quite intense, i played as a challenge and mystery at the beginning without even knowing it, but then i failed soon after being an AFC, one day she just told me her feelings towards me is gone (we both confessed how much we liked eachother), now we are just friends, and still stay in contact with msn or occasionally phone, we sometimes go out with another friend of hers once a week to a mall or catch a movie
she still values me as a friend, but that's it, she's been very cold comparing to how she reacted to me at the beginning, she may still have feelings to me, but it's very gloomy as i estimated it to be just about 20-30%, and it's probably still dropping fast
im thinking about, whether cut off all contact with her until the summer, then contact her again to make things fresh and new, but then i may miss out the friends sleepover she may have in the summer, i plan to use it to arouse her interest again, not to mention hitting on another friends of her right in front of her to create jealousy
or, i can continue to have occasional contact with her, while changing myself positively into a better person (body trainning, reading, guitar, art etc), play things as the DJ and start things off slowly from this
which method should i use?