How many times have you asked a woman "What are you looking for in a guy?" How many times have women asked you "What are you looking for in a girl?"
Break out of the habit of asking and answering this question...it is bad news and a real time waster.
Everyone wants to put their best foot forward in a new relationship...and they are full of hope that this person is "the one". If you tell a woman exactly what traits you are looking for in a woman she will miraculously exhibit all of those traits. You are thinking you have REALLY hit pay dirt with this one. She is likely thinking the same thing about you. Everything goes along find for awhile...and you are both working really hard to keep exhibiting all those traits the other person is looking for.
As time wears on you both get comfortable and forget that you were pretending to be all each other is looking for. Then it happens...you notice that the other person has "changed" and you're left feeling kinda dumbfounded. How could this happen? You were perfect for each other and the whole world was gumdrops and lollipops...so you try to figure out what went wrong for awhile...and eventually someone becomes really unhappy and disgusted with the situation and breaks it off.
This is why you must NEVER answer this diabolical question. It wastes your time, builds up your hopes and leads you to convince yourself that you have found your "ideal" mate. When it all comes crumbling down when everyone stops pretending to be someone they aren't it can leave you really devastated because you got so attached to the IDEA of your perfect relationship and mate...you think you have lost everything that is holy.
The fact is...the only thing you really lost is one big disappointing charade. This is why it is VERY important not to ever ask or answer this question. Then both you and the woman will not pretend to be someone they aren't. You will see the real person and will be much more likely to actually end up with someone who really IS a genuinely good match for you.
Break out of the habit of asking and answering this question...it is bad news and a real time waster.
Everyone wants to put their best foot forward in a new relationship...and they are full of hope that this person is "the one". If you tell a woman exactly what traits you are looking for in a woman she will miraculously exhibit all of those traits. You are thinking you have REALLY hit pay dirt with this one. She is likely thinking the same thing about you. Everything goes along find for awhile...and you are both working really hard to keep exhibiting all those traits the other person is looking for.
As time wears on you both get comfortable and forget that you were pretending to be all each other is looking for. Then it happens...you notice that the other person has "changed" and you're left feeling kinda dumbfounded. How could this happen? You were perfect for each other and the whole world was gumdrops and lollipops...so you try to figure out what went wrong for awhile...and eventually someone becomes really unhappy and disgusted with the situation and breaks it off.
This is why you must NEVER answer this diabolical question. It wastes your time, builds up your hopes and leads you to convince yourself that you have found your "ideal" mate. When it all comes crumbling down when everyone stops pretending to be someone they aren't it can leave you really devastated because you got so attached to the IDEA of your perfect relationship and mate...you think you have lost everything that is holy.
The fact is...the only thing you really lost is one big disappointing charade. This is why it is VERY important not to ever ask or answer this question. Then both you and the woman will not pretend to be someone they aren't. You will see the real person and will be much more likely to actually end up with someone who really IS a genuinely good match for you.