The word, "SLUT"

[Vulpine]

Perception? I don't know about that. There is a difference between men and women when it comes to sex.

If a woman let 100 different d1cks to get inside of her, why should she change her ways once she meets with you? You are just the next d1ck in line and you will be either replaced in no time or shared with others at the same time.

I see the point you are making. However, I'll explain "perception". You can see the woman as a slut, or, you can see the woman as "sexually experienced and enjoys sex". That sounds silly when I read it, but really, it's the truth.

You asked a very good question: "If a woman let 100 different d1cks to get inside of her, why should she change her ways once she meets with you?"

To answer, I'll point out that you are a DJ, and those 100 different d!cks were most likely attached to AFC's; AFC's that would probably take her back if she cheated, AFC's that probably accepted her having "male friends", etc. THAT's why.

Your "past as an indicator" point is a good one.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...There is no such thing as a "man-hor"

I personally disagree...

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

All you're doing is debating the semantics of the definition of what a "slut" is and not seeing the intent of the term. 'Slut' is a term that women invented for other women, not men. Men have certainly picked up on it and we have our own terminology for our own sex, but see the term 'slut' for what it is - a weapon to use against their own.

Women tend to think and behave in socially collective ways. From the time a young girl is 5 y.o., her social clutch is everything and a fate worse than death is ostracization from this group. That said women are far more adept at communication and language than men can ever hope to interpret. It's the 'dirty looks' and subcommunications where women compete. Psychological warfare is far more effective (and damaging) for women than physical fighting can ever be for men.

That's why the term 'slut' is such a wonderful tool for women. Women compete for attention from men. They use attention (both in their own circle and from men) as a currency for establishing their social status and affirming (though mostly subconsciously) their self-worth. When a woman calls another a 'slut' she's essentially saying "that woman sleeps around so much that she'll never make a good long term mate" or "guys shouldn't mate with her because she can't be trusted to be loyal." It's an attack meant not only to ostracize the 'slut' from the collective, but also to disqualify her from the attentions of any desirable male they happen to be competing for.

This is analogous to a guy calling another guy a "fag." He's essentially saying that this guy should be disqualified from a woman's consideration because he's simply not interested in the opposite sex. And naturally the more physically attractive a guy is the more apt we are to doubt his sexual prefernce. Placing doubt on someone's sexuality to the point where it disqualifies them from competition is a fantastic weapon.

 

[edger]

Wow AFC right here... ya you would be CONTENT WITH YOUR WIFE SCREWING MULTIPLE GUYS and raising another dude's kid right? Did you know that there are chicks who give BJ to a guy and then go out 1 hour late with AFC just to get dinner? I bet the AFC tasted it when he kissed her. :crackup: "NORMAL" HEALTHY WOMAN aren't like guys and don't need multiple partners, it's not feminie nature for them to sleep around like guys. SLUTS usually have some kind of problem, they're wicked insecure so they make it up by having multiple partners. This way they feel more accepted.

I've erased my post...at first it came across to me as if you were flaming me, then I re-read it, and figured it meant nothing.

 

[Obsidian]

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[edger]

there's no need to be an a$$hole, edger. Debate the issue civilly if you want people to respond to your threads.

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[edger]

If a woman let 100 different d1cks to get inside of her, why should she change her ways once she meets with you? You are just the next d1ck in line and you will be either replaced in no time or shared with others at the same time.

Who's to say that she would cheat? Just because a woman f*cks 50 guys doesn't mean she can't be in a committed relationship.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

.."NORMAL" HEALTHY WOMAN aren't like guys and don't need multiple partners, it's not feminie nature for them to sleep around like guys. SLUTS usually have some kind of problem, they're wicked insecure so they make it up by having multiple partners. This way they feel more accepted.

There is some truth to this. Typically people do things repeatedly (or in excess) in social interactions for acceptance.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Who's to say that she would cheat? Just because a woman f*cks 50 guys doesn't mean she can't be in a committed relationship.

You'll learn the hard way!!!! Hors are loyal only to themselves!!

 

[STR8UP]

That's why the term 'slut' is such a wonderful tool for women.

Hence, it's pretty much AFC for a man to even use the term to describe a woman.

I don't think I have ever used that word to describe a woman. Even when I didn't know any better.

This is just another one of those things that society ingrains into weak minds- the concept that if a woman has slept with "x" number of men she is "tainted".

The biggest problem I have with things like this is the "x" factor. Who is to judge? What makes YOU more qualified than me to determine if a woman is still worthy?

Don't know how the subject even came up, but I was messing around with this chick last weekend and she comes out and says to me "I'm a slut" I said "What do you mean?" Then she tells me that she has fukked 28 guys or something like that (she's only 21). I just shrugged my shoulders and went back to making out with her and rubbing her pu$$y.

Like I care. Pu$$y is pu$$y. Whatever. If anything I respect this chick for her honesty.

All of you guys out there who have some magical number or a formula for determining if a woman is a "slut" are pulling the wool over your own eyes. Don't you think a woman KNOWS you are judging her? So if she HAS been with a lot of guys you can bet your ass she's not gonna tell you the truth about it. But if that makes you feel any better, good for you!

 

[decades]

Who's to say that she would cheat? Just because a woman f*cks 50 guys doesn't mean she can't be in a committed relationship.

did you ever here the words "the best way to judge the present is to examine the past"? use your head. You are not so special that you can change a hor into a virgin because you are God's gift to her. no man is. Let's take your hypothetical. Say she slept with 100 guys by the time she was 27. Can you do that without cheating? I would argue, NO. But, in case she did all that without cheating, what does that say about her ability to be in a LT relationship? If you want a receptacle go for it. Girlfriend? Good luck to you DJ.

 

[STR8UP]

As a side note, not that it matters but isn't how many guys she's slept with in her past? I mean even a girl carries on fvcking other guys it ain't gonna make a difference, but if you are judging a girl on her past well it's just wrong.

I mean if she's a slut because of how many guys she's fvcked in the past, then I'm still an AFC with one-itis (because it was in my past).

Some guys just can't get past the thought of a woman having had "x" amount of d!cks inside her. And it's ridiculous for a few reasons. It's ridiculous because it's nothing more than allowing yourself to be influenced by the collective opinion of society.

It's also ridiculous because, like I said, women can and DO lie about their sexual past to protect their reputation because they know they will be judged. All women want to fukk, they just don't do it as much as they would or they do it and lie about to avoid social consequences.

I'm sure most guys would be absolutely shocked if they knew of all of the skeletons in their "innocent" girl's closet. Like the abortion she had after she got preggo from a one night stand in Vegas. Or the time she took it in the mouth and the ass at the same time in the bathroom at a college party (and incidentally, the one in the mouth didn't count cause it wasn't intercourse!). But as long as you are blissfully ignorant it's all good!

Seriously, there are MUCH more important things to judge a woman on other than her "number".

 

[Last Man Standing]

Hence, it's pretty much AFC for a man to even use the term to describe a woman.

No, it is just a reality!!! I don't use that term because I don't define the degree of hordoms - I just say hor!! I'll let others determine how big a hor she is! It has nothing to do with "how many" - she is a hor because she has done the deed outside of marriage.

Haha, a girl tells you she is a slvt and you still don't get it? You already know that she is a hor because she is horing with you - she was just trying to be honest and not trying to act innocent -- as many hors try to do!!!

 

[STR8UP]

No, it is just a reality!!!

Not MY reality.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Not MY reality.

Reality is what it is - no one owns it!! She told you the reality - just accept it and move on - it is of no significance!

 

[Ricky]

You know I was such an AFC once that I met a girl, slept with her the first night than I found out that later I was the third guy she had slept with that week. I still dated her for some time.

Then I had another gf, who told me about her sexual experiences. Oddly enough it really turned me on. I'm not sure I would have discontinued seeing her but it was a LDR and tough. She had been in open relationships before. I would actually consider it with her, but she was bisexual so that was a plus.

My current gf is awesome and only had two bf's before me. She is quite traditional and conservative. So it would bother me if I found out anything to the contrary about her because it would be so uncharacteristic of her.

For the record, I guess in the last few years I've been a bit of a hor myself. But I've stopped, perhaps for good.

 

[Wyldfire]

Yes. Man-hors are just as bad as regular ones.

I agree on that one wholeheartedly. I think guys that have sex with a lot of women are just as nasty as women who have sex with a lot of men. If you think about it...every time you have sex with someone you aren't just having sex with them...you're having sex with everyone they have ever had sex with, too. There are so many STDs out there and the more people you sleep with, the higher your chance of having one or more STDs. The way I look at it is this...what is so special about a person who will have sex with just about anyone? They aren't much of a catch and they aren't very selective in who they share themselves with. I just think it's kinda gross. I don't see any difference between women who will have sex with men they don't even really know or have a relationship with and the men who do the same. I just think it's very risky and rather nasty behavior. It's just very difficult for me to respect someone who has such little respect for themselves, I guess.

 

[Serialized3]

Well, I'll actually state my position on promiscuity here since Francisco asked me to about three days ago. I wasn't originally going to, because it's hard to get the ideas from my mind onto a post. But here goes.

I can't speak for everyone one here, but personally I think sex should be treated with a little more respect. I mean, you're sharing your body with another person in the most intimate way you can. Once you start doing it with a ton of people, it starts losing it's value. I believe anything done in excess is bad for you. Like Wyld says above, what's so special about having sex with somone that will have sex with just about anyone? Like LMS says, you're just the next d!ck in line. And I HATE the feeling of being just the next d!ck in line.

I can see the motivation for guys going out and scoring as much as they can. Maybe it's the thrill of the kill, or something besides ego gratification. If any of you guys can tell me why you have had sex with 50+ women please let me know (I'm looking at you Vulpine). But I think the reason that most guys want to go out and score so much is ego gratification. They want to know that they are attractive and skilled enough to go out and bag a lot of chicks. I feel bad for guys like this, because I think you should get your self-worth through real accomplishments. Sure, I've had sex with different women sometimes just to raise "the count", but anymore I can't even keep it up unless I actually care about the woman.

As for women that go out and tag a bunch of different guys, that's rather masculine and unattractive. There's not even any challenge to it for women, all they have to do is open their legs. Maybe they get validation from it, or maybe they're just tired of their vibrator, but it's classless.

Anyways, that's just my 2 cents. I'm not trying to judge anyone here, but I personally respect myself and my sexuality and won't just share myself with any girl that wants me.

 

[Serialized3]

Also, I believe it's morally wrong to use a person as a thing, be it a car ride, a go-to guy, or a walking hotdog. I try to appreciate them for just being who they are.

BTW I'm no holy-roller christian or anything. Far from it.

 

[Wyldfire]

You just basically summarized the same basic philosophy I have. It's funny, because I have been flamed by certain members for refusing to have sex outside of a relationship, and because I have chosen not to date because I don't want a relationship right now. As a result, I have abstained for over 6 years. I could find an attractive guy to have sex with in a matter of 5 minutes if that's what I wanted...but I don't want that because it means nothing. I don't need my ego fed or to reassure myself that I've "still got it", so what is the point? Why would I want to lead someone on or waste their time like that? I guess I can see how some guys would be more promiscuous than women just because they are wired differently and it's more physical to them...but the multiple partners is just so risky. I just don't see the draw in it...