The woman you want to have a relationship is not the same girl as the one you want to bang.

[bob2007]

I think I never gave this much thought.
The woman you normally want to date and have a relationship with is different from the ones you want to just have sex with.

But often times, we might be treating the different girls the exact same way.

A.
I am not overtly sexually aroused by girl number 1 a lawyer, intellectual. But would like to perhaps get to know her a lot better. (maybe women sense this lack of sexual interest).
B.
But with girl number 2, I was going after her sexually, but when it came to the close, I think I lost interest because of her crappy personality.
And she probably wanted something short term too. This confusion is bad for both parties. (I think I pursued another girl in the same manner. At first feeling sexual, and then confusing myself it was for a long term relationship). Ended with a 0.

 

[Who Dares Win]

We talk about madonna-***** complex for a reason after all.

You want a girl to deep throat and swallow to be satisfied but you dont want the girl you invest in to be a girl that does such things.

 

[ohrein]

Compromise or choose one. Is endless porno sex what you live for? Or would coming home to a fresh cooked meal and a kiss be bliss for you? Or can you find a woman who's somewhere in between?

You can't have it all. Compromise.

 

[Mike32ct]

There is also the perception that “relationship sex” isn’t as hot as “casual sex.” Then this gets reflected back on the girl.

If you did get into a relationship with girl “B” (not recommended), I can guarantee that her amazing BJ skills wouldn’t excite you as much as they did when she was just a ONS/plate/FWB. You’d still get bored because it’s a relationship. (And she would probably stop giving BJs once she has you locked down. But that’s off-topic lol.)

If A is better for a relationship, maybe you’re less turned on by her because you associate her with a ball and chain (commitment) rather than no strings “fun.”

TDLR: Girl A could still theoretically be hot. But you are less excited by her because you associate her with a ball and chain.