The Winners Mentality

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As you think you shall become

Everything that you want in life, specifically becoming a Master Don Juan is done through your mentality. Your mentality is a product of your thoughts. Focus on mentality and your thoughts will come automatically. I believe there are two types of people in this world. There are winners and losers. If you focus on being a winner you will automatically attract everything that you desire in your life. You will get yourself the best job that you can get in your current situation, you will be the best at that job, you will have no problem walking up to a girl, saying “Hi my name is ___” and getting her number.


Think about people that you view as winners. Think about what you would be right now in your life that would justify you looking at yourself in the mirror and saying, “I am a winner.”

The Losers Mentality

- When he is insulted or rejected he actually acknowledges it and doubts himself

- He loves his TV. He can’t wait for the next episode of Lost to see what happens this week.
- When he is alone he uses his time on non productive, pass-the-time activities

- He is unable to identify love for what it is: temporary infatuation. Go on a date with another better, even an equal girl and then lets see how much you think about the girl you “love”

- Doesn’t workout because he’s unable to see the enjoyment in it

- Gets cheated on and stays because he convinces himself it was a one time thing

- Has a bad personality: this is the most imporant aspect of being a Don Juan. When you have a winners mentality you work at having the personality of a winner. Look at people you view as having good personalities. Act as if. Work on improving your personality every single day.

The Winners Mentality

- Views insults, rejection, and negativity as irrelevant. He is working to become the best he can be so his mind does not even acknowledge these things because they are useless and a waste of time.

- Writes down goals. This is the key to life. How can you ever be AFC when you know that you are working towards your goals every moment of everyday. When you do this you feel like a Genie that can manifest whatever you want in your life. The only catch is you have to spend your time working instead of playing. The harder you work the quicker you manifest a goal.

- He loves working towards goals. How can anything or anyone touch you when you know you are constantly manifesting what you want to happen in your life? Make it fun. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Keep that in mind if you catch yourself laying on your bed watching Frasier.

- His goals are the number one priority in his life. Success with girls is but one of his many goals and is no more important than any other. This is because he knows they will all be achieved eventually. Girls take A LOT of time away from manifesting in your life, so you really are indifferent to if there is a girl there or not. Ya it’s nice but it’s taking away useful time. Walking away is no problem, ya you’ll be missing out on some sex but frankly it’s better to be single because you are able to work on your goals more.

- One of his goals is based on his work in the gym. Working out is a main aspect of his life and he always has a goal in this area. He actually enjoys working out. As Arnold Swarzeneger said, “working out is like making your muscles ***.”

- When with other people, focuses on his own fun. The other person is just a tool you’re using to have more fun.


Picture yourself being on top of your game. Just close your eyes for 60 seconds and think about what you would be at the top of your game. Become this vision. You have to because everytime you catch yourself doing something that is not bringing you closer to becoming this vision, you are going to feel like you can’t breathe because you are wasting your short existance.

Winners turn all negatives into positives, all they are left with is positives

Think about the bad things that have happened in your life that weren’t of your own doing. Anytime you are hesitant or scared use this to turn yourself into a bad ass. For me personally I’ve been cheated on by two different girls that I loved very much and was very good to in my AFC days. Whats worse is that it wasn’t isolated incidents, they continued the relationships while they cheated on me. I walked away from both of them. I know what I am going to become. They both still call me to this day and I do not answer. They see the other girls on my myspace. They are slowly realizing what a mistake they made. And it’s only going to get worse. Another thing that motivates me is that I missed out on a lot in high school because I had very bad acne. My face has now cleared up and if I was in highschool what I am now I would have had an amazing time instead of having low self esteem throughout highschool.

Everytime I see a girl that I’d like to **** and I start to clam up, or I catch myself doing an activity that is not working me towards a goal, I think about those two girls and what I want to show them. I think about how I missed out on so much in highschool. I actually become angry and I care less and less about what this girl is going to think and I start thinking about what I want and need to do to get it. Everytime I don’t approach, I lose. But I am a winner. I picture one of my ex’s banging one of the guys that they cheated on me with while I was at work. Suddenly, approaching the girl becomes the easiest thing in the world.

I remember after the Cowboys lost to the Giants in the playoffs, I was watching the highlights on SportsCenter. Marion Barber was in almost every highlight for the Cowboys. They showed receivers dropping passes, Romo playing crappy, the defense getting owned, but Marion Barber was single handedly keeping them in the game. Even though no one around him was doing anything, he was running his ass off. I remember one of the announcers saying something like “Someone must have wronged this guy somewhere in his life. Somebody stole from his Mama or something.” This stuck with me as I try to live my life with the same zeal that Marion Barber had in that game.
 

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Let me be the first to post my comments.

This is probably the greatest thread I've seen yet. Everyone should read this and make sink into the mind.
 

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yeah good post, you are the master of your own destiny, failure and negativity should be roadkill on your trip to success
 

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Good stuff. This is the sort of thing I've been telling myself and thinking about lately. high self esteem and being unphased are definitely what it takes I think.
 

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I like the Marion Barber analogy. Good example. Sticking by that regards, think of Eli Manning. Everyone called him a crappier version of his older brother. Nobody gave him a chance. Even his older brother didn't give him a chance...and he still doesn't. All Peyton says is, "umm...yeah i'm happy for him as a fellow qb and as a relative.." The point is, even when he faced criticism and negativity, Eli kept on chugging. And look what happened.

Anyway, nice thread. Winners roll with the punches. They see setbacks as just that. Setbacks. They are back at square one. So they got to try harder and do better next time. Winners don't whine about their failures. They don't let failures kick their ass, they kick its ass instead.
 

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Losers blame everything on luck while winners don't believe in luck!

Good thread Dice.
 

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This is what I need to do,is change my mentality. I have had this self defeatist thing for a long time,and it has always kept me down.
 

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The Bat said:
I like the Marion Barber analogy. Good example. Sticking by that regards, think of Eli Manning. Everyone called him a crappier version of his older brother. Nobody gave him a chance. Even his older brother didn't give him a chance...and he still doesn't. All Peyton says is, "umm...yeah i'm happy for him as a fellow qb and as a relative.." The point is, even when he faced criticism and negativity, Eli kept on chugging. And look what happened.

Anyway, nice thread. Winners roll with the punches. They see setbacks as just that. Setbacks. They are back at square one. So they got to try harder and do better next time. Winners don't whine about their failures. They don't let failures kick their ass, they kick its ass instead.
I recall James Buster Douglas in the 8th, taking a Tyson uppercut on the chin. He was knocked down, and you know what he did? He POUNDED the canvas in anger and got his a$$ up, and finished the round strong. 2 rounds later he was the UNDISPUTED Heavyweight Champion of the World, and Mike Tyson's dad. He REFUSED to give up.
 

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With the recent school shootings (read Northern Illinois), it got me thinking. Having a losers attitude/mentality creates murderers, rapists, and serial killers. Having a winners attitude/mentality forges geniuses, renowned athletes, and successful businessmen. Now obviously, majority of us aren't going to fit the description of murderers, geniuses, serial killers, etc. but my point is, having a winners mentality will get you so far in life that you will be kicking yourself for not having tried harder earlier in your life.
 

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I mainly agree, although I would not be that rigid about negative comments. There's a difference between ignoring stupid comments about oneself that stem from envy or jealousy of other people, and ignoring well-meant criticism. It may be that you automatically differentiated these two, yet I think it is important to point out the two means.

Where as bull**** comments should just be taken to make yourself stronger because you can just have a good laugh about it, you should never entirely close your eyes on constructive criticism. In order to ameliorate you have to constantly analyze your environment. I am not saying give in to it, but take things as they are and if necessary adapt some ways that could render fruitful benefits.

Btw. Schwarzenegger has a point, I started workin out some days ago for the first time in many months and my sore muscles make me feel alive more than anything else ;)
 

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This is all true. Good post. I have been kicked down so many times and have never let it define me.
 
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