I was never going to post in a serious way on here..ever. However, some of you are getting a little ****y about thinking one thing about ALL women so I thought I'd come clean and be myself on here.
First of all, I really wasn't trying to hide much. I knew my identity would eventually come out since some of you were reading LS and I was openly talking about some of the posts on here. So no big surprise there. Also, I knew, and had a bet with a friend on there that the minute I posted my avatar pic it would be linked on here...you guys sure didn't disappoint! Thanks!
Ok, now that I'M being ****y, let's get to the real point here.
First of all, just in case some of you don't know exactly what happened. Brother Ketostix went over to LS to start a fake thread about dating. I was one of the first to respond in a serious way, trying to help. Well later, I came to find out it was all a big hoax. He, and others, were making fun of the site and naming specific people, many who are my friends. I don't like being taken for a fool so I responded in kind, rightly or wrongly.
That's about it on my side. I never took this site seriously since you didn't take US seriously.
Some of you have come over there since that all happened and we've all been very nice to them. I've even tried to help too.
YOU invaded OUR territory first and now you don't like the "invasion." Tough. Suck it up. You're men aren't you? You can't control everything. Actions have consequences.
And one or two of you on here actually GET that.
Ok, I'll stop with the lecture but that's the background and where I'm coming from on that. And I'm not interested in debating about it. I'm not sure I'll even come back again after this or not. If the responses are rude and attacking I certainly won't respond.
Now about my stance on things. First of all, I'm an open book. Feel free to read all my posts/threads whatever. Trust me, you don't have us ALL figured out. There are a lot of women like me...too bad you're not meeting them for some reason or another.
And before I go on, let me say that I love men and I'm no feminist. If any of you would have bothered to dig, you'd see that I hate feminists and have argued against them and what they stand for in the past, on LS.
I'm all for self-empowerment and not being a effing doormat. Did you see my quote next to my avatar? I'm a Goodess...ex doormat here, so I can fully relate to some of you and I applaud you. But I never developed some of the bitterness and hatred I see spewed here. I never called all men bastards or any other name. I never claimed I was in some WAR against men.
Did I at various times in my life swear off men, sure. But never for long. Men are great. And you wouldn't catch me on an all-women's thread for anything. How dull. As dull as an all-male thread. That's why I think some of you could benefit from being over there. You're getting a very skewed perspective in many cases.
Ok, back to a bit about me. So I was abused by men and a complete doormat in my life at various times. But in my 20's I thought I was hot shyt and probably acted like some of the women you're all bitter about. Said I wanted one thing but went for another..the whole deal.
See, that's why I believe a lot of this is a matter of maturity in many cases. I got fed up of that and started asking myself why, once again, I was home crying in my ice cream (or beer.)
I decided to take more control over my own life and stop PLAYING THE VICTIM. Some of what you preach here I did myself..didn't have any articles or anything to read. It was just common sense.
I didn't have to play games though. I just "reinvented" myself as Reset mentions in his sig. After I reinvented myself I stayed true to myself. That was sixteen years ago. But it wasn't an overnight change. Took me awhile and I made some mistakes along the way.
But now, I have been happily married to a Real Man for almost 13 years. We have a son. He's an ex-military man and is no one's bytch. He can give as good as he gets.
We understand each other perfectly. Right from the start we played no games. I was upfront about who I am and what I want and what I don't want. So was he. Luckily, we both wanted the same things...still do.
Ask whatever you want about how our dating days went or about my husband. I'll be happy to answer.
I'm seeing mistakes that some of you are making but far be it for me, a woman (YIKES!) to point them out, right?
Getting back to how I was for a minute. You men are no different, in some cases, when it comes to saying you want one thing but going for another. Why do you think that book about Men Loving Bytches or whatever it is, is so popular?
When I was a meek little doormat, I was abused. When I started standing up for myself and not putting up with bullcrap, I was suddenly treated differently..at work and in my personal life. And I attracted a VERY different kind of man.
But see I had no chip on my shoulder. Didn't hate men. I blamed MYSELF for the types of men I was attracting.
And by the way, I loved that post, sorry forgot who posted it, about the differences in the way men and women communicate. Very insightful but also too much of a generalization.
I'm not into "covert" kinds of communications. I'm a "tell it like it is" woman. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
So it sounds to me like some of you should reassess the types of women you've been going for.
Watch for the red flags before you get sucked in and end up with the wrong ones.
And make sure that you REALLY know what YOU want. Don't say you want a nice girl who won't jack you if you're really going for the heartless bytches in the end. And yes, as someone on here pointed out, after seeing my profile pic, don't just go for looks. Go for CHARACTER. Sure, you have to be attracted but think with your brains and not with your dycks.
Women make that same mistake too...they'll go for power or money sometimes over character. Not smart.
So that's it. Ok, I've come clean.
I'd love to see some of you on LS. You'll get men and women's viewpoints there. And contrary to what you may think, not all the women on there are feminists and not all the men are chumps.
Have a great evening!
