The Waiting Game

[sosuave213]

Sometimes when things are going well, you might not hear from a woman for days, sometimes weeks.

What is the longest you've had to wait between contact?

 

[Bingo-Player]

If you're waiting days to hear from her things are defenitley not going well

 

[sosuave213]

If you're waiting days to hear from her things are defenitley not going well

OH NO!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Sometimes when things are going well, you might not hear from a woman for days, sometimes weeks.

What is the longest you've had to wait between contact?

That's not going well. That's her banging other dudes and coming back to you when they dump her.

Funny you always seem to confuse being the backup to the backup and seeing her when she has nothing better to do with genuine interest. That's been pretty much the common theme with the majority of your threads.

If a woman is genuinely interested in you she will barely be able to go a day without messaging you because she will keep thinking about you over and over again and wondering what you are doing

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

A year between virtual contact and actual contact, due to her not 'feeling ready', which had to do with her body weight.

Although I wasn't actually 'waiting'.

 

[sosuave213]

Update:

So, the reason I wait is to see what they do. This is like when guys lose their $hit when a girl doesn't text them back. It's clear who has all the power.

Winner winner chicken dinner!
Time to hit up some weightlifting.
Good Saturday, boyos!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Update:

So, the reason I wait is to see what they do. This is like when guys lose their $hit when a girl doesn't text them back. It's clear who has all the power.

Winner winner chicken dinner!
Time to hit up some weightlifting.
Good Saturday, boyos!

Clueless is as clueless does.

 

[sosuave213]

Clueless is as clueless does.

I don't know bro.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don't know bro.

Flake coming up.

I simply don't get why guys want to play these idiotic games and make dating far more difficult than it needs to be.

 

[sosuave213]

Flake coming up

Based on her previous flake rate of 0% over the last four encounters...probably not.

Well, to be fair, she rescheduled the first date. So maybe like ~10% flake chance.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Based on her previous flake rate of 0% over the last four encounters...probably not.

Well, to be fair, she rescheduled the first date. So maybe like ~10% flake chance.

You'll learn at some point.

 

[sosuave213]

You'll learn at some point.

Guys they can't control, guys that break their frame. That's what they want.

They're jerks, they're a-holes without trying.

It takes that space and distance, though, and based on all of the forum posts - not just on SoSuave, but everywhere on the internet - guys just cannot wait more than 3-4 days to text a woman.

In retrospect, had I texted in that time frame, I would have fit into her frame and been boxed with all of the other guys.

I was planning to reach out on Tuesday (because women also are testing to see if guys will literally text on day 7 - one week), so was going to add a 2 day buffer and make it 9 days total.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Guys they can't control, guys that break their frame. That's what they want.

They're jerks, they're a-holes without trying.

It takes that space and distance, though, and based on all of the forum posts - not just on SoSuave, but everywhere on the internet - guys just cannot wait more than 3-4 days to text a woman.

In retrospect, had I texted in that time frame, I would have fit into her frame and been boxed with all of the other guys.

I was planning to reach out on Tuesday (because women also are testing to see if guys will literally text on day 7 - one week), so was going to add a 2 day buffer and make it 9 days total.

You still don't get that it's simply a lack of interest

 

[SW15]

High interest women stay in contact and you're seeing them in-person regularly.

Also, try to avoid women who travel for business regularly. This is becoming a less common occurrence. The pandemic reduced business travel. In the 2010s, I did meet many women who traveled regularly for work. Almost all of them had messy personal lives if they were unmarried.

 

[sosuave213]

You still don't get that it's simply a lack of interest

Oh no, I understand that there was a lack of interest. But their interest ebbs and flows like the crest and troughs of a wave. If she was interested all of the time I'd be flagging for my own space pretty soon.

This only strengthens my point that, had I texted her during this period of "lack of interest", I would have been boxed out of her box.

She's back, and women don't text men they aren't interested in, especially with charged messages like the ones in my screen shot.

 

[sosuave213]

High interest women stay in contact and you're seeing them in-person regularly.

Also, try to avoid women who travel for business regularly. This is becoming a less common occurrence. The pandemic reduced business travel. In the 2010s, I did meet many women who traveled regularly for work. Almost all of them had messy personal lives if they were unmarried.

She used to travel for business often, but doesnt anymore.

I could only imagine, as "what happens in business stays in business."

I need to vet properly on the next date by asking her for her most exciting flings on those trips. If she elates, it's going to be an even bigger red flag than antidepressants (which I still don't know if she's taking).

 

[kenpiffyjr]

I do agree w/ this 213 guy…

I’m gonna take “going well” as a subliminal he’s piping her every time they meet.

If that’s the case. I love a good don’t text me ‘unless’…and that’s all that matters.

If he’s not smashing - yes, she’s filling up her attention bank with easy side deposits while someone else is smashing. Then I agree that this guy needs to pull out immediately.

But if he is, she’s trying to play games to either 1] Make him be in a relationship 2] crash his frame with drama

Which tbh both lowkey meet the same potential ending…but as long as OP knows to just keep smashing and never let 2] happen, he can always be the guy on the side potentially when she finds a guy who selects #1.

 

[sosuave213]

I do agree w/ this 213 guy…

I’m gonna take “going well” as a subliminal he’s piping her every time they meet.

If that’s the case. I love a good don’t text me ‘unless’…and that’s all that matters.

If he’s not smashing - yes, she’s filling up her attention bank with easy side deposits while someone else is smashing. Then I agree that this guy needs to pull out immediately.

But if he is, she’s trying to play games to either 1] Make him be in a relationship 2] crash his frame with drama

Which tbh both lowkey meet the same potential ending…but as long as OP knows to just keep smashing and never let 2] happen, he can always be the guy on the side potentially when she finds a guy who selects #1.

I wouldn't let #2 happen but I wouldn't mind being #1.

 

[Learning Curve]

Sometimes when things are going well, you might not hear from a woman for days, sometimes weeks.

What is the longest you've had to wait between contact?

Women need space and time away from you.

If it's a relationship apparently something is up.

If it's a chick you banged once, then there is nothing to worry about.

Reach out again in two weeks, if she ghosts you then you have your answer.

 

[sosuave213]

Women need space and time away from you.

If it's a relationship apparently something is up.

If it's a chick you banged once, then there is nothing to worry about.

Reach out again in two weeks, if she ghosts you then you have your answer.

She reached out after 5 days. See screenshots. Seeing her later.