The Uniqueness of High School 2.0
I wanted to go back to this previous article that I wrote a year ago and try to further elaborate and add value to it. This is not an article describing how to manipulate what others think about you (it never works in the long run anyway). This article is simply me trying to convey my beliefs about High School, regurgitating what should be regurgitated.
If it’s red, then it simply means that its 2nd edition additions.
"The way to gain a good reputation is to endeavor to be what you desire to appear." -Socrates
What exactly is it that makes high school different from the real world? In this post I will assert some of the major differences in High School.
First of: in HS you will be around the same people for 4 years. It's a social environment by itself. Because of this, several things that aren't as important in the real world is quite important in HS.
HS is a cohesive “social scene” in and of itself, and guys who have the most success with women understand this scene and rise to the top of it.
Being pre-selected: Girls will watch how other people react to you, in order to figure out who the top dog is. Girls don't really want to be hit on; they want to 'select' who they want to hook up with.
Pre-selection is something you demonstrate with your
actions and your
personality traits, not your words. If you
do have pre‐selection, it triggers MASSIVE sexual attraction. In fact, it overpowers things that cause sexual attraction in “real world game”. Being pre-selected implies that you are wanted;
there is no better way to do this than by gaining reputation.
Reputation: “A reputation is an animal designed by committee: you give birth to it, but the way it develops depends on the actions of others. Your reputation lives a very real existence apart from you, representing the collective mental construct everyone but you shares about you, a construct based partially on your own actions but also on the perceptions others have about others' perceptions of your actions. We only ever have influence over our reputation—never control—as is the case with all things external to us.”
Your reputation, being how people perceive you, will not change in ‘real time’, it will lag behind your actions, and thus it requires time and patience.
You want to be known in your school. You want to be known as a
cool, fun, positive guy. You will seem higher value, more intimidating, and a pre-selected alpha to almost any group.
The thing about this is you want to actually POSSESS these qualities, not fake them. To build a good reputation, you have to become a person that deserves one. Take consistent action that embodies the characteristics you want others to associate with you.
A reputation is a fragile thing. It requires constant feeding. Consistency is crucial. If you live up to your reputation 99% of the time but fail to do so 1% of the time, you risk disproportionate damage if the person you let down is highly influential in your network. A good reputation shouldn't be an end in itself but rather a natural outgrowth of your striving to be the person you most want to be.
Your reputation is what people know you as. Getting a decent reputation is not very easy. Most people either have a loser reputation, or don't have one at all. A reputation is very important for your social life in high school. Chicks like to be on the edge with everything, like a good time,
like gossip (if you have a good rep, you will be on the tip of everyone’s tongue), like to be seen with popular people.
To gain a good reputation, you will need:
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A good attitude and personality!
• A decent relationship with the popular kids.
• Something that makes you unique.
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A good attitude. This one is SOO important. It's the foundation of everything; it's all of these things we keep talking about on the forums. You want to bring those skills into your school.
Being positive and having a positive outlook on life is key. The world is a light place. No one wants to be with a boring, negative guy, with nothing interesting to say. Say what’s on your mind.
Spread your energy and happiness, people will return the favor. Have a strong reality, don't let people abuse you. And so forth, this is what you will always keep improving.
There are four personality traits you want:
*Fun – We are to enjoy life, smile, joke around and have fun.
Everything is a reason to be happy or to laugh. Learn the ability to amuse yourself. I’m canning myself as I’m typing this. An amazing line that you should always think to yourself (especially with chicks) is:
«How can I make this fun? », not «What should I do next? ».
When you’re with girls, don’t be thinking about how you must hook up, get laid, or make your move. Of course it is important to escalate, but moreover, ask yourself this question: “How can I have the maximum fun possible right now? How can I make her smile? What can I do, right this instant that will make me FEEL ****ING INCREDIBLE?”
The key to being and having fun is to amuse yourself, not trying to amuse or impress others, seeking a reaction. Don’t be an ******* and have fun on other’s expense.
*Dominant – You can be a fun, interesting, good‐looking guy and still never hook up if you are apologetic about your masculinity. Being dominant means being assertive and confident about what you want and expect from others. Not «What should I do? », but
«What do I want? »
A confident man is a dominant man. If you act dominant without confidence, you may just come off as an *******. A true and genuine sense of dominance comes when you set and stick to your priorities, when you are living your life according to your own guiding principles. In the face of opposition you not only stand strong, but you push forward with renewed drive and intensity.
A dominant man will assert himself physically and draw boundaries. He will take what he wants. A dominant man is not a jerk. A jerk takes without giving back, while a dominant man will reward.
*Leadership – Take initiative. Know when to organize an event, be a guy that comes up with cool stuff and brings people together. I
f you see a girl eyeing your friend across the room, then go up to him and make him aware. Walk up to the girl and make an intro, so you can introduce them later.
Taking the lead also means that you will be controlling your interactions. You won’t be waiting for her to make a move; you will lead conversations where you want them to go, you will reach out and take a woman’s hand, or lock her arm in yours when you’re walking together, without looking for her assent or approval. You’ll pick up a girl and carry her piggyback, you’ll smack her on the butt, and you’ll do all sorts of other things that indicate that you’re comfortable being physical.
When you are a leader, you are the one responsible for making your own days and nights. You don’t wait around for other people to bring the fun or to tell you where to go. You TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your own life and your own good time, and you make sure to bring as many people along with you as possible.
*Easygoing – Guys that are successful in HS are VERY easygoing. They’re having fun in their own way, but they’re never neurotic or overly concerned about anything. They have the confidence to know that things will be ok.
Don’t worry what everyone thinks of you. Just slow the **** down. Talk slower, walk slower, be relaxed. Don’t resist what is, just accept it. Most negative emotions are resistance to the present moment. You can only act upon something after you’ve accepted it. Being easygoing is about being comfortable wherever you are and taking on whatever the world throws at you without overly reacting, thus reaching a higher conclusion.
Be adventurous, try out things that others won’t (Not talking about drugs and dangerous **** here, unless you want to).
«Bros before hoes» Always look out for you buddies, a lay is not as important as your friends.
Elevate your friends, and they will lift you even higher.
Be the guy you want to be around.
How to achieve these traits? Simply push your comfort-zone. The more you push it; the faster the process. Character transformations happen when you stretch the limits of what kind of behavior is possible.
