The Ultimate Post!

[Beatflux]

Nobody can possibly make you feel a certain way, only you can do that.

and......that's it! Lol, a lot shorter than you thought eh?

If you find yourself suffering after reading this post: change your resistance to acceptance and the suffering will fall away.

 

[Sammo]

interesting.......

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by Beatflux
If you find yourself suffering after reading this post: change your resistance to acceptance and the suffering will fall away.

So you are telling us to all give in to your thought? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! If everyone was to do this, we would have listened to commercials and the site would not exist. We would all be out there buying flowers, candy, rings, and teddy bears for females without even thinking twice.

 

[P.I.M.P.]

I get what you mean, and I agree.

 

[Beatflux]

Hey Crazykid, you don't HAVE TO do what I say or conform to my thoughts. Just consider it. If your skeptical then prove me wrong. I would love to see what you can come up with. I didn't just pull this thought out from the bushes.

Here is a quote from "the principle of responsibility as empowerment" by Bill Harris:
"the truth is, you are responsible for every feeling or behavior you have, in the sense that it is either your chosen response to something that happens, or is an automatic unconscious response based on the way your internal map of reality has been structured."

Just wait, there's more.... I know you'll like this Crazykid:
"you can live in a world where other people or events cause you to feel the way you fell, but there is a price. The price is that you will feel bad a great deal of the time. Or, you can choose to totally take responsibility for every feeling you have and every behavior you have. Having done so, you suddenly are at the "cause" end of the cause and effect process, where you can choose how you feel and how you behave."

This is part of the "Nine Principles for Happiness and Healing" by Bill Harris

 

[Eventide]

Reminds me of a quote, although I regret to say that I have no idea who's it is.

"Change what you can, accept what you can't."

 

[Titus]

Re: Re: The Ultimate Post!

*clap, clap, clap*

I don't need to say anthing else but, AMEN!

Originally posted by crazykid
So you are telling us to all give in to your thought? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! If everyone was to do this, we would have listened to commercials and the site would not exist. We would all be out there buying flowers, candy, rings, and teddy bears for females without even thinking twice.

Well... we do listen to commercials crazy... and this site exists exatcly becuase of commercials, well, actually, capitalism. Commercials are only it's plowing horse.
This site is pure capitalistic thinking, and that is exatcly what the system wants from us, work like a horse, compete and be better. Evolve. Keep on going and never stop.
So you see... this site is just another masked branch of capitalistic "grab all that you can" pomoting and we are it's slaves. We may not buy flowers, but we do compete and try to be better. And that brings much more money to the country's budget then simple flower selling.
Cheers!

 

[kevbo]

this is one of the stranger threads i've read in a while. true, you do control how you feel, but somehow this whole thread seems odd.

 

[aBAzLLnA]

Nobody can possibly make you feel a certain way, only you can do that.

itd be a pretty boring world if we all followed this.

being human is having different feelings toward people and those people CAN make you feel a certain way.

yeah i supposed you COULD make urself hate ur best friend, but the only reason u were friends with him in the beginning was because you guys were "nice" to each other and clicked.

i kinda see ur point but u should elaborate, cuz that is wayyyy too broad.

~ivan

 

[Eternal]

Ok, time for some fun here..."Nobody can make you feel a certain way, only you can do that." So you are telling me that when that bully in Elementary school picked on you, you decided to feel sad? When that teacher gave you that award, you decided to feel good? Nope. These things are instinct. Humans are designed to feel a certain way in certain situations, which is NOT your fault. No matter how skilled you get at something, don't you still feel nervous/anxious/excited? You can't control these. That's like blaming someone with terets (spelling?) for swearing. Bad example, I know, but you get the idea.

Being the "cause" end of the "cause and effect" process means nothing. ANYONE can be the "cause" end. Think about that for a minute.

 

[oakraiderz2]

This isn't very ultimate. Quit the opposite if you ask me.

 

[maosrdbf]

Originally posted by crazykid
Ok, time for some fun here..."Nobody can make you feel a certain way, only you can do that." So you are telling me that when that bully in Elementary school picked on you, you decided to feel sad? When that teacher gave you that award, you decided to feel good? Nope. These things are instinct. Humans are designed to feel a certain way in certain situations, which is NOT your fault. No matter how skilled you get at something, don't you still feel nervous/anxious/excited? You can't control these. That's like blaming someone with terets (spelling?) for swearing. Bad example, I know, but you get the idea.

Being the "cause" end of the "cause and effect" process means nothing. ANYONE can be the "cause" end. Think about that for a minute.

I don't know. I disagree with you crazykid and could argue your examples.

For example:

A bully wouldn't be picking on the kid if the kid was not feeling bad when it happened. So basically, a person who wouldn't give a ****, would go unbullied.

Your award example is invalid because people have no reason but to feel good when getting an award. In the bully situation, people can not care, rather than feel bad.

Now, if everyone emotionally reacted the same way to a given situation, then that would basically mean that everyone in the world would be either an AFC or DJ, because everyone would either fear rejection, or not fear it. There wouldn't be two types.

Human instinct is more like, if you stick a fork in an outlet and get electrocuted, you wouldn't do it again to avoid it. Or to be even more simple, human instinct is eating when you're hungry. Drinking when you're thirsty. Sleeping when you're tired. ****ing when you're horny.

Emotions are not instincts. Fact is, people do have control over them. That is why at this site, it is taught taht people should let go of their FEAR OF REJECTION (an emotion), and go for it anyway. If what you said was true, then people should always fear rejection and never change.

This post became excessively long so I'll stop here. I'm sure my point was made and understood though.

 

[animal crackers]

hmm

I dont think that anyone really "lets go" of the feeling of rejection, as they say, but that person needs to make that same situation that they would normally fear into something that is no big deal, and that can only be done by living life, and gaining knowledge.

 

[-XL-]

Originally posted by Beatflux
Nobody can possibly make you feel a certain way, only you can do that.

word...

...ex: if a chick turns u down when u ask her out, u control the way u feel..u can either be a pvssy and get all upset or u can be a man and realize its her loss not urs..

just my 2 pennies