silverwex
Master Don Juan
How to get over that dreaded... oneitis!
A lot of you may have contracted that dreaded disease/feeling of oneitis! Here's a few tips on how to get over it/avoid it in the future. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about here - I've been there so many times...
AVOIDING ONEITIS
Unfortunately, there's no 'condom' or magic pill you can use to avoid picking oneitis up so you gotta be very careful when you date/meet a new girl. Here are some of the major things that bring on oneitis - AVOID these actions:
Seeing the girl too often
Try and only see her once (twice - MAX) a week. The more you see her the more you'll grow to like her and the less of a challenge you'll become. I recently came out of oneitis. What brought it on for me was that my DJ mindset was telling me: 'Hey silverwex, calm it down man, only see her once a week ok?!' But my dyck was saying 'Meet her now and tomorrow and the next day!". Unfortunately my dyck won my mind over and i blew it. So DONT SEE HER MORE THAN TWICE A WEEK!
Jumping in too soon
Never get too serious with her too soon. Review the situation (e.g. Does she REALLY like me? Is she potential LTR material? etc.) and then act accordingly. If she has high IL be a challenge! If she has medium-low IL BE A CHALLENGE too. You jump in too soon and you get kicked out twice as fast! So stand back and let her do the chasing/jumping in!
Thinking about her 24/7
Big bad move my friends! KEEP BUSY! Take up new hobbies, immerse yourself in your work, see your friends! Go clubbing etc. Just take your mind off her. I know it's hard but try! The more you do it the easier it'll get!
Ringing her/Texting her/Talking to her
Dont ring her more than twice a week. When you're on the phone to her ALWAYS keep it short my friends. Cut off the conversation after, at most, TEN MINUTES. Always cut it off on a high note though. Keep her laughing and guessing and then when its on a high say something like: "Hey listen i better go now, got things to do! Talk to you later."
OVERCOMING ONEITIS
This is hard! It's never easy my friends for if it was, you wouldnt have oneitis in the first place!
DO these to overcome that dreaded feeling:
See/Date other Girls
When the bad bad feeling hits say: "Right im hurting now, but im gonna do something about it!". Get a few of your boys and go out! Drink, be merry and chat up other ladies! The best way to get over a girl is to get under another, as they say! Get some numbers, use C+F, kino, neg-hits etc and seduce other women! You'll feel so much better! And if the woman you have oneitis for sees you doing this it'll say to her: "FVCK YOU! I dont need you - look at me! Im having a laugh with other women! HAHA! I can do better than you!".
Hang with your Boys
Right this is what I did when i was trying to overcome that bad feeling - I hung around my friends! Usually Id be stuck at home in the evenings on my own after work but when i contracted this disease I said to myself "Right, im not gonna be alone ANY night this week!" So i went for a walk/drink/chilling session with the boys and it took my mind of things, do this for as long as it takes, especially in the evenings (thats when it hits you bad!) and soon enough you'll start to feel better. Do whatever ya want with you friends, go for a drink, go see a film, go chat chicks up, play soccer/football whatever!!! BUT DONT STAY AT HOME DEPRESSED! If you do itll get worse and worse!
Avoid the places where she socialises (for the time being...)
If she goes out at the weekend to certian nightspots AVOID THESE PLACES! Because you'll see her out and those bad feelings will return. Im not saying "Let her choose where you should go!" or "Shes got power over you!" but just avoid these places until you get over her. Trust me, its the best way! Then when you're over her go out to these places and get other chicks - shell see this and may even get jealous! Youll also be saying to her "I dont need you! Im having fun without you!"
Think of previous oneitis'
I've NEVER heard this been said on this site before BUT remember those girls in the past that you had oneitis for? Well how do you feel bout them now? Nothing? EXACTLY! Realise that this oneitis is the EXACT same and youll look back soon thinking "WHAT DID I SEE IN HER?!" and/or "Gosh the girl im into now, who is also into me, is SO much cooler than she ever was!" This is a great technique as it really puts things into perspective!
Get Busy!
Immerse yourself in your work, hobbies whatever! If you dont work or have hobbies - get a job/get a new hobby! It helps immensely! And you get to meet other chicks through these means! Dont just sit there saying "Yeah youre right man!" Actually go do it... NOW!!!
Avoid listening to THOSE songs
You know those songs that are so AFC they make you sick? The slow ones? The ones that are totally un-DJ like? Yeah, well avoid them as when you listen to them they only amplify your feelings and really depress/upset you!
Visit this Forum
Yes, this is one of the best places to get through oneitis. I came here every day when i had oneitis and asked advice, read new articles etc and it helped me loads! If i hadnt done this i would still be wallowing in my self pity right now! But im not! Thanks sosuave.com
Read the Bible
No! Not the Holy Bible! (Well do that if you want ) Read the excellent DJ Bible, the link is at the top of this page!
Ask and You Shall Receive!
And finally, ASK US for advice! We fellow DJ's will help ya through by whatever means we can! Just post and we'll get back to ya! Thats what we're here for!
Remind yourself that you're a DJ
Keep telling yourself this and continue to practice what sosuave.com tells you! It helps!
YOURE NOT ALONE IN ONEITIS - FOR YOU HAVE YOUR FELLOW DJS HERE BY YOUR SIDE!OVERCOMING ONEITIS AVOIDING ONEITIS
A lot of you may have contracted that dreaded disease/feeling of oneitis! Here's a few tips on how to get over it/avoid it in the future. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about here - I've been there so many times...
AVOIDING ONEITIS
Unfortunately, there's no 'condom' or magic pill you can use to avoid picking oneitis up so you gotta be very careful when you date/meet a new girl. Here are some of the major things that bring on oneitis - AVOID these actions:
Seeing the girl too often
Try and only see her once (twice - MAX) a week. The more you see her the more you'll grow to like her and the less of a challenge you'll become. I recently came out of oneitis. What brought it on for me was that my DJ mindset was telling me: 'Hey silverwex, calm it down man, only see her once a week ok?!' But my dyck was saying 'Meet her now and tomorrow and the next day!". Unfortunately my dyck won my mind over and i blew it. So DONT SEE HER MORE THAN TWICE A WEEK!
Jumping in too soon
Never get too serious with her too soon. Review the situation (e.g. Does she REALLY like me? Is she potential LTR material? etc.) and then act accordingly. If she has high IL be a challenge! If she has medium-low IL BE A CHALLENGE too. You jump in too soon and you get kicked out twice as fast! So stand back and let her do the chasing/jumping in!
Thinking about her 24/7
Big bad move my friends! KEEP BUSY! Take up new hobbies, immerse yourself in your work, see your friends! Go clubbing etc. Just take your mind off her. I know it's hard but try! The more you do it the easier it'll get!
Ringing her/Texting her/Talking to her
Dont ring her more than twice a week. When you're on the phone to her ALWAYS keep it short my friends. Cut off the conversation after, at most, TEN MINUTES. Always cut it off on a high note though. Keep her laughing and guessing and then when its on a high say something like: "Hey listen i better go now, got things to do! Talk to you later."
OVERCOMING ONEITIS
This is hard! It's never easy my friends for if it was, you wouldnt have oneitis in the first place!
DO these to overcome that dreaded feeling:
See/Date other Girls
When the bad bad feeling hits say: "Right im hurting now, but im gonna do something about it!". Get a few of your boys and go out! Drink, be merry and chat up other ladies! The best way to get over a girl is to get under another, as they say! Get some numbers, use C+F, kino, neg-hits etc and seduce other women! You'll feel so much better! And if the woman you have oneitis for sees you doing this it'll say to her: "FVCK YOU! I dont need you - look at me! Im having a laugh with other women! HAHA! I can do better than you!".
Hang with your Boys
Right this is what I did when i was trying to overcome that bad feeling - I hung around my friends! Usually Id be stuck at home in the evenings on my own after work but when i contracted this disease I said to myself "Right, im not gonna be alone ANY night this week!" So i went for a walk/drink/chilling session with the boys and it took my mind of things, do this for as long as it takes, especially in the evenings (thats when it hits you bad!) and soon enough you'll start to feel better. Do whatever ya want with you friends, go for a drink, go see a film, go chat chicks up, play soccer/football whatever!!! BUT DONT STAY AT HOME DEPRESSED! If you do itll get worse and worse!
Avoid the places where she socialises (for the time being...)
If she goes out at the weekend to certian nightspots AVOID THESE PLACES! Because you'll see her out and those bad feelings will return. Im not saying "Let her choose where you should go!" or "Shes got power over you!" but just avoid these places until you get over her. Trust me, its the best way! Then when you're over her go out to these places and get other chicks - shell see this and may even get jealous! Youll also be saying to her "I dont need you! Im having fun without you!"
Think of previous oneitis'
I've NEVER heard this been said on this site before BUT remember those girls in the past that you had oneitis for? Well how do you feel bout them now? Nothing? EXACTLY! Realise that this oneitis is the EXACT same and youll look back soon thinking "WHAT DID I SEE IN HER?!" and/or "Gosh the girl im into now, who is also into me, is SO much cooler than she ever was!" This is a great technique as it really puts things into perspective!
Get Busy!
Immerse yourself in your work, hobbies whatever! If you dont work or have hobbies - get a job/get a new hobby! It helps immensely! And you get to meet other chicks through these means! Dont just sit there saying "Yeah youre right man!" Actually go do it... NOW!!!
Avoid listening to THOSE songs
You know those songs that are so AFC they make you sick? The slow ones? The ones that are totally un-DJ like? Yeah, well avoid them as when you listen to them they only amplify your feelings and really depress/upset you!
Visit this Forum
Yes, this is one of the best places to get through oneitis. I came here every day when i had oneitis and asked advice, read new articles etc and it helped me loads! If i hadnt done this i would still be wallowing in my self pity right now! But im not! Thanks sosuave.com
Read the Bible
No! Not the Holy Bible! (Well do that if you want ) Read the excellent DJ Bible, the link is at the top of this page!
Ask and You Shall Receive!
And finally, ASK US for advice! We fellow DJ's will help ya through by whatever means we can! Just post and we'll get back to ya! Thats what we're here for!
Remind yourself that you're a DJ
Keep telling yourself this and continue to practice what sosuave.com tells you! It helps!
YOURE NOT ALONE IN ONEITIS - FOR YOU HAVE YOUR FELLOW DJS HERE BY YOUR SIDE!OVERCOMING ONEITIS AVOIDING ONEITIS
