PART 1
That’s right. The DJ’s worst enemy.. The club. Many people have said that picking up women in a club is very difficult & that all your DJ skills count for nothing. But, whether you like it or not, we are the clubbing generation, & so, I think it’s very important that handling a club environment should become part of your DJ skills.
Who to go with
Just go with your best mates. Simple as that. Though, if your objective is to get yourself a lady, then I wouldn’t go in a huge group. I’ll explain why later.
If you have friends who don’t want to go out to a club cause “it’s not their scene” then, well, you have a challenge on your hands. I’ve been there myself, but I managed to change their minds over time. You may not be so lucky. If not, then… you may just have to find more friends.
Some people on this site have said that they go out to clubs on their own. Personally, I could never do that. I just need to be around some friends. I wouldn’t recommend going alone, especially if you’re not experienced with going out.
Appearance
Now, what you wear when you go to a club is always important. Some of the people I go out with usually wear scruffy clothes like baggy jeans & a hoodie. As we mainly go out on “student nights” this kind of dress is allowed. They don’t really make an effort cause they just go for the drink & laughs. BUT you are a DJ. You must stand out & take pride in your appearance. I always wear a nice shirt, nice trousers & nice shoes. It gives you a respectable look & shows you’re ‘a cut above the rest’.
Also, try to groom yourself properly. Shave before you go out, & do something nice with your hair.
An essential item you should ALWAYS take with you is a PEN. Try not to get a normal sized one either as they are very fiddly & it’s hard to find a place to keep it on you all night. I take one of those little tiny ones that you can steal from all good catalogue or betting shops. If you don’t have one of these then you could just break a biro in half.
It’s also a good idea to take some small scraps of paper or tissues in your pocket for scribbling down those digits.
Drink?
This is just a small section. It’s been said a lot on this site that when you go out you shouldn’t drink a lot as this hinders your DJ skills. I have to disagree with this. I think drink is an important part of the going out experience.
I’m not saying that you should get absolutely wasted to the point where you can barely stand & your conversation has turned to ramblings about why Thundercats is better than He-Man (yes, I have actually done that), but you should still have enough alcohol to enjoy yourself. Besides, the more you drink the more confidence it gives you. So, I think you should drink till you’re ‘merry’… but try not to get completely wankered.
Dancing
By far the most important part of going out to a club. After all, isn’t that THE reason people go? Now, if you can’t dance then this will seriously damage your chances with the ladies. But, this will only be a minor set back.
There is a magic way that WILL let you become the lord of the dance… its called PRACTICE. I know it sounds like hard work but if you want to be a better dancer then this is the only way.
When I first started going out clubbing I was the worst dancer you can imagine. I had no flow, I felt awaked, & my moves were very rigid & un-natural. In fact, the first time I went clubbing I was so embarrassed with my dancing that I didn’t go out again for over a year! After this time when I started going out again I was still the same, but instead of hiding in my room thinking about what I could be doing to those ladies, I did something about it!
What I did…
I started watching a lot of those dance music channels on TV to see what kind of moves people were doing & I tried some stuff out myself in my room in front of the mirror.
Yeah yeah, I know it’s a bit sad & pathetic, but it’s better to practice on your own in your room than in the middle of a crowded dance floor.
I also read a lot of things on this website about joining a Salsa dance class to improve your moves. I did this, & it was a lot of fun & gave me more confidence with my dancing.
After all this I felt nothing could stop me. I hit the clubs & danced my heart out until sweat was dripping from my body. I certainly was enjoying myself.
BUT, I had been told that what I was doing looked very gay & some people were embarrassed by my dancing. I looked in the mirror at my moves & I couldn’t believe what I was doing. My arms & legs were making very wild & extravagant moves, but the biggest problem was my hips. They were shaking around like mad. I was dancing like a camp Ricky Martin on ecstasy in a gay club.
It seems I went from one extreme (being under confident with rigid movement) to another (over confident with too much movement). So, I toned it down. I try not to move my hips as much (if at all) & try not to put to much energy into my legs. This has improved my appearance on the dance floor by miles. I’m still not the best dancer in the world, but it’s a continuous development that will probably never end. The truth is, every time I dance I improve a little on last time. Which is why PRATICE is the best way to improve.
Think of it like learning to drive. The first time you’re behind the wheel you don’t know what you’re doing. You stall it, push the pedals down to far, almost crash into a lamppost, run over old man Robinson’s cat, etc. Everyone is like that the first time. But the more time you spend driving the better you get. It’s the same with dancing.
I also what to add that VAIRIETY in your moves can help you as well. In clubs EVERY guy is doing pretty much the same dance, & they do the same thing all night. I like to adapt my moves to whatever song is on.
FOR EXAMPLE… If a Justin Timberlake song comes on, then I do that Michael Jackson type dance that he does. I try to adapt my style with every song. Not only will you enjoy yourself more, but for anyone watching you’ll seem like a much more interesting person than everyone else doing the same generic dance all night.
So, in short. Practice practice practice. It’s the only way you’ll improve.
And a lil’ tip. Don’t go wild or over the top with your dancing… it DOES look gay.
Also, try to put some variety in your moves.
Well. That’s it for PART 1 of this guide.
Continue reading for PART 2…
That’s right. The DJ’s worst enemy.. The club. Many people have said that picking up women in a club is very difficult & that all your DJ skills count for nothing. But, whether you like it or not, we are the clubbing generation, & so, I think it’s very important that handling a club environment should become part of your DJ skills.
Who to go with
Just go with your best mates. Simple as that. Though, if your objective is to get yourself a lady, then I wouldn’t go in a huge group. I’ll explain why later.
If you have friends who don’t want to go out to a club cause “it’s not their scene” then, well, you have a challenge on your hands. I’ve been there myself, but I managed to change their minds over time. You may not be so lucky. If not, then… you may just have to find more friends.
Some people on this site have said that they go out to clubs on their own. Personally, I could never do that. I just need to be around some friends. I wouldn’t recommend going alone, especially if you’re not experienced with going out.
Appearance
Now, what you wear when you go to a club is always important. Some of the people I go out with usually wear scruffy clothes like baggy jeans & a hoodie. As we mainly go out on “student nights” this kind of dress is allowed. They don’t really make an effort cause they just go for the drink & laughs. BUT you are a DJ. You must stand out & take pride in your appearance. I always wear a nice shirt, nice trousers & nice shoes. It gives you a respectable look & shows you’re ‘a cut above the rest’.
Also, try to groom yourself properly. Shave before you go out, & do something nice with your hair.
An essential item you should ALWAYS take with you is a PEN. Try not to get a normal sized one either as they are very fiddly & it’s hard to find a place to keep it on you all night. I take one of those little tiny ones that you can steal from all good catalogue or betting shops. If you don’t have one of these then you could just break a biro in half.
It’s also a good idea to take some small scraps of paper or tissues in your pocket for scribbling down those digits.
Drink?
This is just a small section. It’s been said a lot on this site that when you go out you shouldn’t drink a lot as this hinders your DJ skills. I have to disagree with this. I think drink is an important part of the going out experience.
I’m not saying that you should get absolutely wasted to the point where you can barely stand & your conversation has turned to ramblings about why Thundercats is better than He-Man (yes, I have actually done that), but you should still have enough alcohol to enjoy yourself. Besides, the more you drink the more confidence it gives you. So, I think you should drink till you’re ‘merry’… but try not to get completely wankered.
Dancing
By far the most important part of going out to a club. After all, isn’t that THE reason people go? Now, if you can’t dance then this will seriously damage your chances with the ladies. But, this will only be a minor set back.
There is a magic way that WILL let you become the lord of the dance… its called PRACTICE. I know it sounds like hard work but if you want to be a better dancer then this is the only way.
When I first started going out clubbing I was the worst dancer you can imagine. I had no flow, I felt awaked, & my moves were very rigid & un-natural. In fact, the first time I went clubbing I was so embarrassed with my dancing that I didn’t go out again for over a year! After this time when I started going out again I was still the same, but instead of hiding in my room thinking about what I could be doing to those ladies, I did something about it!
What I did…
I started watching a lot of those dance music channels on TV to see what kind of moves people were doing & I tried some stuff out myself in my room in front of the mirror.
Yeah yeah, I know it’s a bit sad & pathetic, but it’s better to practice on your own in your room than in the middle of a crowded dance floor.
I also read a lot of things on this website about joining a Salsa dance class to improve your moves. I did this, & it was a lot of fun & gave me more confidence with my dancing.
After all this I felt nothing could stop me. I hit the clubs & danced my heart out until sweat was dripping from my body. I certainly was enjoying myself.
BUT, I had been told that what I was doing looked very gay & some people were embarrassed by my dancing. I looked in the mirror at my moves & I couldn’t believe what I was doing. My arms & legs were making very wild & extravagant moves, but the biggest problem was my hips. They were shaking around like mad. I was dancing like a camp Ricky Martin on ecstasy in a gay club.
It seems I went from one extreme (being under confident with rigid movement) to another (over confident with too much movement). So, I toned it down. I try not to move my hips as much (if at all) & try not to put to much energy into my legs. This has improved my appearance on the dance floor by miles. I’m still not the best dancer in the world, but it’s a continuous development that will probably never end. The truth is, every time I dance I improve a little on last time. Which is why PRATICE is the best way to improve.
Think of it like learning to drive. The first time you’re behind the wheel you don’t know what you’re doing. You stall it, push the pedals down to far, almost crash into a lamppost, run over old man Robinson’s cat, etc. Everyone is like that the first time. But the more time you spend driving the better you get. It’s the same with dancing.
I also what to add that VAIRIETY in your moves can help you as well. In clubs EVERY guy is doing pretty much the same dance, & they do the same thing all night. I like to adapt my moves to whatever song is on.
FOR EXAMPLE… If a Justin Timberlake song comes on, then I do that Michael Jackson type dance that he does. I try to adapt my style with every song. Not only will you enjoy yourself more, but for anyone watching you’ll seem like a much more interesting person than everyone else doing the same generic dance all night.
So, in short. Practice practice practice. It’s the only way you’ll improve.
And a lil’ tip. Don’t go wild or over the top with your dancing… it DOES look gay.
Also, try to put some variety in your moves.
Well. That’s it for PART 1 of this guide.
Continue reading for PART 2…
