GreatHornedOwl
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- May 11, 2010
- Messages
- 390
- Reaction score
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- Age
- 42
First of all, you have to realize that just because a guy is a player does not mean he's a jerk. Often times he's a smooth talking charmer that knows what he's doing. I've slept with 43 women. I'm not bragging (okay, maybe a little). In fact, I have never been called a "jerk" to my face. I'm sure they've told their girlfriends I was, but not in front of me. This is a tag that's tossed around by people in this community who are very naive and make assumptions about how this game works. And it needs addressing because telling guys to go around acting like jerks is misleading to those who are trying to improve their skills. I often read instances where guys in this forum have felt a sense of accomplishment because a women called them a jerk. The damndest thing, it turns out there was no physical escalation or any F-close on the girl. Most of the time not even a phone number to speak of! If a girl is calling you these things and you haven't slept with her, you are going ass backwards.
If that first paragraph seems slightly contradictory, it should.
Jerk has a double meaning and applies to two different types of guys:
1.) Smooth talkers who have sex with many women are called jerks AFTER they bang them
2.) Guys that want women to label them as a jerk because they THINK it will help them sleep with them
Guys in the latter category who go around acting this way are overcompensating for their fear of rejection. They think by putting on this facade the girl will THINK he's a player. What you really reek of is FAKENESS. Girls (especially attractive ones) can spot it a mile away, maybe even two. Drop the act, you're not fooling anyone.
Just today I was at Walgreens shopping for batteries (man are they expensive), and out of the corner of my eye I saw this HB 8. This guy walked past her and said "Damn you look good", followed by "Mmmm" with a cheesy smile to boot. The girl showed a little gumption by rolling her eyes. I had to laugh. There was nothing smooth about this interaction.
The guy couldn't actually go up to her and start a conversation and try to get her number. He had to put on a front because he was too timid to take action.
I didn't sleep with 43 women by making meaningless passes, or trying to act like a "jerk". I'm willing to bet the guys who have slept with as much women as me haven't either. We don't waste time. My point here: Sh!t, or get off the pot.
Soo... why are players good with women? Honestly, If I had to sum it up in one sentence, it would be: We are attention wh0res
WAIT.... WHAT??
Yes.
No...?
Yes.
For the same reason a girl is a slvt.
I get off on the attention.
Look at the similarities:
Player: Hangs out with lots of girls
Slvt: Hangs out with lots of guys
Player: Gets ego boost making a move on a girl
Slvt: Gets ego boost when guy makes move
Player: Sleeps with lots of girls
Slvt: Sleeps with lots of guys
Player: High self-esteem after sleeping with lots of girls
Slvt: High self-esteem after sleeping with lots of guys
I'll give you an example of how I think. Let's say there's a hot girl walking by herself in the mall. Most guys here would probably approach her. I would wait until she was in the vicinity of other guys and then approach, because it makes me look good walking up to a girl in front of an audience. I become the focal point.
Group of girls at Target? Most guys probably wouldn't touch it. I would walk up and start a conversation just to get a reaction out of them, for the simple fact that most guys would be too scared.
Understand what's going on? I am the male version of an attention wh0re. Do I get nervous when I approach girls? Sometimes, but I approach anyway because I want hot girls to notice me, and I get off on the attention of the interaction, regardless if I succeeded or not.
It's probably more insecurity than it is confidence.
How's that for a head scratcher?
If that first paragraph seems slightly contradictory, it should.
Jerk has a double meaning and applies to two different types of guys:
1.) Smooth talkers who have sex with many women are called jerks AFTER they bang them
2.) Guys that want women to label them as a jerk because they THINK it will help them sleep with them
Guys in the latter category who go around acting this way are overcompensating for their fear of rejection. They think by putting on this facade the girl will THINK he's a player. What you really reek of is FAKENESS. Girls (especially attractive ones) can spot it a mile away, maybe even two. Drop the act, you're not fooling anyone.
Just today I was at Walgreens shopping for batteries (man are they expensive), and out of the corner of my eye I saw this HB 8. This guy walked past her and said "Damn you look good", followed by "Mmmm" with a cheesy smile to boot. The girl showed a little gumption by rolling her eyes. I had to laugh. There was nothing smooth about this interaction.
The guy couldn't actually go up to her and start a conversation and try to get her number. He had to put on a front because he was too timid to take action.
I didn't sleep with 43 women by making meaningless passes, or trying to act like a "jerk". I'm willing to bet the guys who have slept with as much women as me haven't either. We don't waste time. My point here: Sh!t, or get off the pot.
Soo... why are players good with women? Honestly, If I had to sum it up in one sentence, it would be: We are attention wh0res
WAIT.... WHAT??
Yes.
No...?
Yes.
For the same reason a girl is a slvt.
I get off on the attention.
Look at the similarities:
Player: Hangs out with lots of girls
Slvt: Hangs out with lots of guys
Player: Gets ego boost making a move on a girl
Slvt: Gets ego boost when guy makes move
Player: Sleeps with lots of girls
Slvt: Sleeps with lots of guys
Player: High self-esteem after sleeping with lots of girls
Slvt: High self-esteem after sleeping with lots of guys
I'll give you an example of how I think. Let's say there's a hot girl walking by herself in the mall. Most guys here would probably approach her. I would wait until she was in the vicinity of other guys and then approach, because it makes me look good walking up to a girl in front of an audience. I become the focal point.
Group of girls at Target? Most guys probably wouldn't touch it. I would walk up and start a conversation just to get a reaction out of them, for the simple fact that most guys would be too scared.
Understand what's going on? I am the male version of an attention wh0re. Do I get nervous when I approach girls? Sometimes, but I approach anyway because I want hot girls to notice me, and I get off on the attention of the interaction, regardless if I succeeded or not.
It's probably more insecurity than it is confidence.
How's that for a head scratcher?