I agree with the original poster. It will be hard to feel confident if you are inexperienced with women. Notice I said "hard" not "absolutely impossible".
To me confidence simply means the lack of self-doubt. Confidence is very hard to fake, just like playing good basketball or boxing well cannot be faked. The confidence to be good at sports comes from success at doing it over time, and your history of actions make you believe in yourself.
And remember, just because one may be confident in one area of life doesn't mean it will carry through with all areas of life. I might be very confident giving a speech at a business presentation, but that doesn't automatically mean I'm going to be confident sarging an HB9 at the club, and vice-versa...some playa at the club may **** in his pants if he had to stand in front of a high powered boardroom of suits and make a proposal.
I am in much the same position the OP is in, and I realize that my lack of confidence with women stems from lack of experience. We all know by now that confidence is an aphrodisiac to women, but in my opinion, the only REAL confidence comes from having been on the battlefield of romance, been through it all, seen it all, handled it all, such experiences are what make one confident on a deep level where one doesn't even have to be conscious of it or think about it, it's just part of who you are, like a shrapnel scar on a veteran. All people like the OP can do is learn what type of behaviors they could easily fix that might trigger someone to instantly judge you as unconfident, things like learning to have confident body language, speak deeply and clearly, not act like a wuss. As a guy who is aspiring to have confidence, you must make a conscious effort to do them and try to get to the point that it becomes natural. For the jerk that's been playing women for his whole life, that same confidence he doesn't even have to think about, it's just there from a lifetime experience of...playing women.
To me confidence simply means the lack of self-doubt. Confidence is very hard to fake, just like playing good basketball or boxing well cannot be faked. The confidence to be good at sports comes from success at doing it over time, and your history of actions make you believe in yourself.
And remember, just because one may be confident in one area of life doesn't mean it will carry through with all areas of life. I might be very confident giving a speech at a business presentation, but that doesn't automatically mean I'm going to be confident sarging an HB9 at the club, and vice-versa...some playa at the club may **** in his pants if he had to stand in front of a high powered boardroom of suits and make a proposal.
I am in much the same position the OP is in, and I realize that my lack of confidence with women stems from lack of experience. We all know by now that confidence is an aphrodisiac to women, but in my opinion, the only REAL confidence comes from having been on the battlefield of romance, been through it all, seen it all, handled it all, such experiences are what make one confident on a deep level where one doesn't even have to be conscious of it or think about it, it's just part of who you are, like a shrapnel scar on a veteran. All people like the OP can do is learn what type of behaviors they could easily fix that might trigger someone to instantly judge you as unconfident, things like learning to have confident body language, speak deeply and clearly, not act like a wuss. As a guy who is aspiring to have confidence, you must make a conscious effort to do them and try to get to the point that it becomes natural. For the jerk that's been playing women for his whole life, that same confidence he doesn't even have to think about, it's just there from a lifetime experience of...playing women.