STR8UP said:
The thing is, if I felt that ANY of my past partners would have been faithful to me, it was her. If I judged her based upon her sexual past and her sexual preferences, I wouldn't have dated her for a year. Met her parents....some of the nicest people you would ever meet. Perfect examples of a happily married couple.
So be very careful HOW you judge a woman. Societal influence can cause you to pass judgment unfairly and incorrectly.
I totally get what you're saying. This is a timely thread for me. Within the last meek I met this girl....and I don't know what to make of her. On the surface she might well be the closest thing to a "quality" woman I've met. She has her sh!t together, has no baggage and doesn't seem to have any emotional hang ups from what I can tell so far. She seems to have really good values too. In fact she told me that she dumped one of her bfs because he didn't believe in God and that she is in charge of some Sunday school Christmas activity at her church. Have I mentioned that we really seem to click?
Is this a High Quality woman?
I don't know.
Because then there is her sexual past. I haven't asked her what her score is but from the way she talks it must be high. I know this because we've talked about sex extensively and I take that as a good thing. I like a woman with a high sex drive but still.....I can't help thinking in the back of my head she's a slvt. And that's the catch 22. I want her to be a slvt but only with me. I want her to be dirty but I judge her for having a dirty past. I believe this is called the "Madonna-W hore Complex" which of course means I want her to be pure and at the same time dirty with me.
Not to mention she has told me some things she is into and while I'm willing to try a few things, I'm not sure that it's really to my taste. So I'm not sure about how to proceed because she's into it and I want to please her but I don't want to do stuff that I don't want to do.
edger said:
If there's any one thing that turns me off about a chick, it's a chick who hasn't had much of a sexual past(unless she was in serious relationships which prevented her from having more sexual partners). A promiscuous woman is a major turn-on..it embraces womanhood. A true feminine woman is promiscuous. The guys who don't want anything to do with 'em, well hey, more for me.
I agree with that statement right there. I've been a pretty "dirty" guy so it should make sense that I would want someone who is just as much into sex as I am. But still...in the back of my mind I'm afraid I might judge her negatively for it or have trouble trusting her if this proceeds further.
So I guess the solution is to see what happens and give it a chance with this girl. I mean hey, we're not even "together" yet so I should stop anticipating problems.