The "Trailing Spouse"

[Rollo Tomassi]

Article for discussion:
http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/worklife/06/26/lw.men.v.women.career/index.html

Be sure to read through the comments, they're actually pretty encouraging considering the tone that this article was written in.

I'd like to hold this up as a prime example of the Matrix. The content to be sure, but also think of the context that it's coming from and why this would merit the attention of the general population such that CNN would deliver it.

 

[RedPill]

I'd like to hold this up as a prime example of the Matrix. The content to be sure, but also think of the context that it's coming from and why this would merit the attention of the general population such that CNN would deliver it.

The general population has two jobs, not two careers. Most dual income households have 1 or zero careers, at least if one can define a career in terms of upward mobility and an ambitious ascent to prominence within an industry.

The context of the article, as targeted toward average working class dual-income households, serves to reinforce the idea of absolute equality between the sexes. The latent purpose is to plant the idea that a man ought to ease off the gas pedal and curb his own career opportunities, so that his wife may shine in her own right. Of course, those of us here who have conditioned ourselves to look for this subtle shaming will notice that this is just one among millions of passively emasculating messages from the Matrix school of prevailing social norms.

The average BluePill, should they be roused into believing they have dual careers by this article, get another seed planted into their subconscious that their partner might be holding them back in some way. . . especially if that partner is a dominant male. Or perhaps, through generalization, it's the gender as a whole.

A masculine man is a threat to be contained.

 

[LeftyLoosey]

I can't understand why any man would enter into a relationship where he is required to make sacrifices to his career for her sake. This is why I'd rather be in a LTR with a waitress or a bank teller (or no one) than a doctor or a lawyer.

If you want to have kids with me, you're going to stay home and raise them so they don't turn into little selfish piggy hellions. There's a reason why societal norms advocated such a role in the past, because it works!

 

[MatureDJ]

The hilarious thing is that women, even though they have become feminists, still require that man that dips it in must be of higher status. Therefore high status women must get the hard to find even higher status men. But the act of making the man to become the trailing spouse makes him less status, and therefore less desirable to her - even though he would be doing it for her!

It's a self-destroying prophesy!

 

[BudBundi]

This is why I don't watch CNN

 

[Colossus]

This quote here epitomizes matrix thinking:

"Until more men are willing to say, 'You know, honey, you shouldn't have to change your name or sacrifice your career, and I'll stay home with our kids and aging parents,' progress will remain glacial," he says. "But things are moving slowly in the right direction."

This "psychotherapist" is either gay, a dyed-in-the-wool AFC, or both. I would classify people like him as 'educated AFC's', who really just perpetuate this type of thinking to new levels.

This type of crap is not only trite but it's also contrived feministic garbage. There is this cultural dehumanizing of the stay-at-home mother; the woman who does what she is naturally best at by taking care of the children and the home. No one is saying women cant or shouldnt work, but the media is continually trying to spin the merry-go-round the opposite way by pimping the man-mom garbage.

Someone posted a great comment about the ridiculousness of this stuff:

You cannot argue that women and men are wired differently. I won't bring the religious argument into this because I know most are too blind to see truth, but you cannot make an argument against physical, psychological and emotional differences between general makeup of men and women. It's not that men think they are better any more (and if they do think they are better than women, they are wrong!) however, men have the role of provider and protector. Why are women running from what is such a glorious role of raising children and preparing a home!? Any man who loves his wife is not going to let that be compared as a lesser role than his, just different.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

It's useless to focus on such garbage. Sure there are educated AFC's out there, many of them, millions of them, trying to peddle their garbage victim mentality. Misery loves company.

But, IMO, it's just as uselessly victim-like to complain about them, discuss them ad infinitum on internet message boards, as if they world gives crap what anybody thinks it SHOULD be like.

Step up to the plate, ignore that useless noise, and be a MAN and make YOUR world the way you want it to be.

Kick anybody out of YOUR world that doesn't support your vision.

Welcome, keep, and be grateful for those that do.