The top reasons women cheat

[mrgoodstuff]

It's because most women get close to people they work with. They start talking about their marriage/relationship problems at work, interested men start lending an ear and then become the person the woman confides in. The woman in turn starts developing an emotional attachment to him and the panties end up coming off.

Let's not give MOST women too much credit. They feel something is missing, start taking to people about it and then wind up developing that emotional bond with them and eventually screw them.

Some women are attracted to the strictly physical aspects of sechs, but most are emotionally driven. Men are physical instead of emotional about sechs for the most part, especially early in a relationship.

What if you where there for them, but she kept going to the coworker(s) with her concerns or insecurities instead of you? And you were always there...

 

[Glassguy]

What if you where there for them, but she kept going to the coworker(s) with her concerns or insecurities instead of you? And you were always there...

Then you tell her to go pound sand up her @ss if she would rather go talk to other people about your problems instead if talking directly to you and you alone about them. That's a major red flag of an untrustworthy attention wh0re.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Then you tell her to go pound sand up her @ss if she would rather go talk to other people about your problems instead if talking directly to you and you alone about them. That's a major red flag of an untrustworthy attention wh0re.

It always was about the attention and feeling that others would "help" and "support" her. Some of the problems are "her" problems, but she wants to appear "strong" to you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I saw a (male) cheater trying to cheat on Tinder over the Easter holiday. He was in town for no more than 48 hours and most of that was to be spent with family and male friends. Like, do you really need to fill the 2-3 hours max of free time you will have with validation? I found it pretty needy and pathetic.

That's what a lot of them do... Not all, but the ones we speak of. They get in random convo's to pump their heads up. Doesn't mean nothing but attention.

 

[Glassguy]

It always was about the attention and feeling that others would "help" and "support" her. Some of the problems are "her" problems, but she wants to appear "strong" to you.

She wants to tell everyone how bad she has it so when she branch swings, people will think she had a legit reason for doing it. Period.

 

[resilient]

What if you where there for them, but she kept going to the coworker(s) with her concerns or insecurities instead of you? And you were always there...

Most likely ego preservation. The woman doesn't want to face the problem in the relationship with accountability, communication, or couples therapy. In other words, it's easier for her to confide in that male coworker for validation than put in the effort to change or mend the relationship. She doesn't want to look like the villain or instigator either.

*Edit* Like @Glassguy mentioned... Add all this up, sprinkle in some low interest and it's easier for her to rationalize the monkey branching and protect her social status in the process.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Most likely ego preservation. The woman doesn't want to face the problem in the relationship with accountability, communication, or couples therapy. In other words, it's easier for her to confide in that male coworkers for validation than put in the effort to change or mend the relationship. She doesn't want to look like the villain or instigator either.

I think you nailed this like an Olympic gymnast. The ego could've been rebuilt to a different type of ego that doesn't need to lie, it can be accountable and responsible. But she wanted to preserve the existing ego based on deciept and being validated externally.

 

[Tenacity]

The top reasons women cheat

The top reason why a woman cheats today is and will always be....because she is LIBERATED and free.

- A woman does not need a reason to cheat on you, such as you didn't hold up some "frame", or you didn't keep up being a "challenge", etc.

- A woman cheats because she can and when she DOES, society has designed it to where she can skip the blame and somehow place it back on you........even though she was going to cheat regardless and her cheating had nothing to do with you.

This is one of the reasons why I don't understand why men get married today. Aren't you afraid the chick is going to one day just up and leave.....for no reason or for (insert whatever made up reason here)?

 

[zekko]

It's because most women get close to people they work with. They start talking about their marriage/relationship problems at work, interested men start lending an ear and then become the person the woman confides in. The woman in turn starts developing an emotional attachment to him and the panties end up coming off.

I agree with you entirely, that's exactly what happens. But if the husband was a Sosuave reader and heard the guy listens to her relationship problems, he'd probably dismiss him as an AFC "emotional tampon", and consider him no threat.

But life don't always work like that. Work relationships get a long time to simmer.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I agree with you entirely, that's exactly what happens. But if the husband was a Sosuave reader and heard the guy listens to her relationship problems, he'd probably dismiss him as an AFC "emotional tampon", and consider him no threat.

But life don't always work like that. Work relationships get a long time to simmer.

Those open conversations, they grow closer and closer and closer...

 

[lizardking82]

I agree with you entirely, that's exactly what happens. But if the husband was a Sosuave reader and heard the guy listens to her relationship problems, he'd probably dismiss him as an AFC "emotional tampon", and consider him no threat.

But life don't always work like that. Work relationships get a long time to simmer.

I consider any guy a threat as long as they have a workind dik and they breathe, but I don't consider most of them a threat enough to make my girl get attached to them emotionally. ****ing a beta once or twice because she ain't gettin' her alfas **** is nothing to worry about. If she does that, she's just not worth it anyways, but certainly doesn't suddenly make the beta an alpha for ****ing someone's wife. I have seen betas **** ***** here and there, still betas and ended up being married to some chick that would **** an alpha anyways later on.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Those open conversations, they grow closer and closer and closer...

Often time the husband or boyfriend is SHUT OUT, because she feels she has too many "problems" with him. And the guy listening is unbiased and makes her feel good.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

One really has to analyze the whole concept of "cheating". What constitutes a man to believe that a woman "cheated on him". It is somewhat of a social construct the very notion of "cheating" between the sexes, it does imply that somewhat of a "contract" has been verbally agreed to.........

......and there we have it....in what circumstances does man put himself in this precarious position where he is propelled to operate under a social construct and the made up notion of "cheating"?

Exclusive long term relationships or/and marriage.

I'm not personally against the idea of an exclusive long term relationships per se and every man has the right to choose whatever sexual strategy suits his lifestyle. That being said, we as men really ought to keep the very idea of exclusivity as something that may be given sometime in the future.......just not now. Not right now. Enjoy life, enjoy playing the field......why oh why rush into exclusivity?? To what gain......

Why as Rollo says are men in such a rush to make one woman his broker for his sex life..........guarding exclusivity as something that is not given lightly keeps you as the man the broker for your sex life. That instills confidence.

As Patrice O'Neal used to say......women do not realize the fvcking sacrifice that men make when they enter into an exclusive relationship. They don't realize it nor do they appreciate it.

So let them work for it...........

You can't quite say that it is a social construct though. Cheating invokes jealousy which is a natural-born feeling/sensation. Animals show this characteristic themselves even. It is natural to want a female and not want anyone else to have her. It is natural to have multiple women and not want anyone else to have them. It is NOT natural for one women to have multiple men though, ever. Not in humans anyway.

 

[FwoGiZ]

hypergamy is a big one

 

[lizardking82]

You can't quite say that it is a social construct though. Cheating invokes jealousy which is a natural-born feeling/sensation. Animals show this characteristic themselves even. It is natural to want a female and not want anyone else to have her. It is natural to have multiple women and not want anyone else to have them. It is NOT natural for one women to have multiple men though, ever. Not in humans anyway.

Always curious about this kind of thing. So other mammals show jealousy as well, but the females do not show a desire to be hypergamous?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Always curious about this kind of thing. So other mammals show jealousy as well, but the females do not show a desire to be hypergamous?

They do. But the males usually go toe-to-toe and fight each other to prove who is the alpha male or something like that. Then from the documentaries I've watched and stuff learned in schooling, the male then just takes her, whether she wants to or not lol. That is until she gets tired and then refuses to do anything with the male anymore. It's dependent on the species though. And yes they do display hypergamous behavior, but only when the alpha male takes her. If he doesn't do anything, beta male can just do whatever he wants. Least that's how I think it works anyway. Don't quote me on the specifics of it. I know that they do display jealousy though and that hypergamy is real, mostly just because the other male was more alpha than the other.

 

[BeExcellent]

1. Weakness

2. Lack of character

 

[zekko]

I consider any guy a threat as long as they have a workind dik and they breathe, but I don't consider most of them a threat enough to make my girl get attached to them emotionally. ****ing a beta once or twice because she ain't gettin' her alfas **** is nothing to worry about. If she does that, she's just not worth it anyways, but certainly doesn't suddenly make the beta an alpha for ****ing someone's wife. I have seen betas **** ***** here and there, still betas and ended up being married to some chick that would **** an alpha anyways later on.

Life doesn't always fit into PUA stereotypes, cheating isn't always about alphas and betas.

 

[Lovedog21]

This is what I've noticed by experience. Women for some reason seem to be more prompt to cheat on guys that show too much care for them. Guys that do not represent a challenge for them anymore, guys they know that they can cheat on and they'll forgive them. Also sex is a big factor, if you are not making sure they are having an orgasm every time you fu*&k her, you are in big trouble.

 

[kronreiff]

Personally, I could care less what they do. I keep the emotions 100% out of the picture. Pump and dump with the new age woman is my protocol.