Abt means "More likely". Shed be better at filtering through bullshyt and know when someone trying to sway her. What im getting at a quality woman aint the top dresser in the club. Its going to be a decently attractive woman with good values and a great mind.
Got it, is that an acronym? What's the origin of that word? Just curious.
I suppose that'd depend on your definition. By top quality I refer to an extremely attractive woman with good values and a great mind. a.k.a. unicorn. Decently attractive is more feasible though.
A woman like that is more likely to think for herself, but it doesn't mean it'd be to your own advantage.
Being smart and having good values won't necessarily spare her from common psychological pitfalls. Perhaps if you add some wisdom that stems from real life experience to the mixture - the result might be what you're looking for.
I've seen many women whom I consider smart, having good values and attractive - hypergamy didn't spare them, they're not even aware - they have their own reasoning. Even the decently attractive ones.
I saw mothers in a happy family, divorcing out of the blue after 20 years of marriage once the kids have grown up and they're no longer as financially dependent on the husband.
Hypergamy or not, even I kept falling into psychological pitfalls throughout my life. Have I not been slapped in the face immediately afterwards I might've ended up being a d*ck.
Regardless of how smart a person might be, he's still shaped by the simple psychology of positive and negative reinforcements of his actions - regardless of whether he's aware of it or not (it can be controlled to an extent, but you get the point).
Imagine an attractive woman who gets positive reinforcement from men regardless of whether her actions are good or bad - what motivation does she have to properly shape into a loyal family woman you'd like to settle down with?
That is, until the point where her smv decreases so much that she gets such a reality slap to her face - after which she might not get up, but at that point you probably won't be interested in her anyway.
Rare cases I noticed are the ugly ducks - women who spent their childhood and/or teenage years getting reinforcements that truly match the nature of their actions, and some negative reinforcements just for the sake of it because kids can be d*cks. These women who later blossomed into beauties were forced to develop a character and values, and all-around bring more things to the table. These ones might make the ideal wives.
There are also the cases of women who are very modest and good hearted by nature, but I'm not sure if hypergamy would spare them either. They'd at the very least have to be aware of it to some extent and be determined to go against it.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on the matter as well, what's been your experience?