The Thrill is Gone

[backbreaker]

I'm sitting here.. on my patio while I'm working (god bless wifi) listening to a couple of Julie London CD's that I like... and then a song by the named The Thrill is Gone comes on.

I listen to the words of the song, and the first thing I say to myself is... this song sums up pretty much all that is relationships with women.


it's about the thrill. Most AFC's don't get women because there is nothing thrilling about a guy giving you roses and singing bad songs he wrote on his gutair to you.

Not necessary the chase....it's the TRILL of the chase. It's her letting her emotions run wild wondering what you are thinking, wondering more about you. Letting her go to sleep thinking about you. She wants her toes to curl when "your song" comes on. Give that to her. She wants the emotional high that a thrilling relationship, or at least the resemblance of one, provides

When you are together, it's the TRILL of having a "guy like you" into them. the way you make her feel. Her not being able to look at you without wild thoughts running in her head.

The guys who think about everything and dont' act out what they are feeling inside, goes against everything that is TRILLING to a woman. There is a very thin line between love and hate. I would rather get slapped by a woman for being to upfront and agressive than to leave on uncertain terms. The woman that slaps you is more likely to fvck you than the woman who you didn't make a move on.

I have so much respect for guys like Rollo simply because they have been married, in his case 10 YEARS.. and still finds a way to keep his relationship trilling enough for his wife to stay in tip top condition for him and the relationship not be boring.

Once the trill is gone, women, married or not, kids or not, finaically set or not, will look for a new thrill... and then more times than not blame it on you becuase you "AREN'T THE SAME GUY'.. and techically she's right.. you aren't thriling any longer.

Courting is a game to be played. Think of it as poker. you hold your cards close to you, you don't let peoplek now what you have.. make them, let them think. the less they know the better. Be a mystery.. of course if she finds out more about you and you suck as a person, the game is up. having something worth being a mystery about.

True Story: last week I was sitting on this same patio with my new GF, and we were playing Yatzhee, and because i trust no one with keeping score, I kept score. I'm left handed, and she is looking at me, and goes YOUR LEFT HANDED!!!.. I said.. uh.. yeah..is that a problem? And she goes on this big ordeal for like 10 mintues about how neat it is that i'm left handed, blah blah blah....Okay...yeah.

Was it the fact that I'm left handed a big deal? Of course not. It was that she found out a new tid bit about me to keep her emotions going.. as little as it may be.

Guys who like to sit on the phone and prove their worth to women fail because they shot all their bullets in the air, and when it's time to go in for the kill, the snipper shot,t hey have nothing left.

Confidence, mysterioness, sexiness, humor, sexuality is TRILLING to women.

Be Thrilling... don't have a woman tell you the trill is gone

 

[Last Man Standing]

It is NOT about her thrill but about the MAN'S thrill!!! WE are the main function in the formula - the female is a mere sub-part of the equation!!!!!!

 

[Obsidian]

Here you're really emphasizing the mystery aspect of attracting females. While I agree with you that mystery is good and Pook mentioned this concept briefly, I think you're stressing it too much. Mystery is good, but I think boldness and leadership can keep a marriage thrilling long after your wife/hor knows a lot about you.

Certain girls that I've known forever -- such as my mom, sister, other friends -- still find me thrilling and seem to appreciate my newfound manliness even tho I'm not that much of a mystery. Granted, I'm not sexing my sister, but I think that females see mystery in masculinity itself. It's something they will never truly grasp, altho many horish women will try.

You can use the mystery of incomplete information as an additional tactic, but I don't think every relationship is doomed to fail just because the couple gets to know each other too well.

Btw, this probably should've been posted in tips.

 

[speakeasy]

Here you're really emphasizing the mystery aspect of attracting females. While I agree with you that mystery is good and Pook mentioned this concept briefly, I think you're stressing it too much. Mystery is good, but I think boldness and leadership can keep a marriage thrilling long after your wife/hor knows a lot about you.

Certain girls that I've known forever -- such as my mom, sister, other friends -- still find me thrilling and seem to appreciate my newfound manliness even tho I'm not that much of a mystery. Granted, I'm not sexing my sister, but I think that females see mystery in masculinity itself. It's something they will never truly grasp, altho many horish women will try.

You can use the mystery of incomplete information as an additional tactic, but I don't think every relationship is doomed to fail just because the couple gets to know each other too well.

Btw, this probably should've been posted in tips.

I agree. I also think that once a woman marries, she's not looking for thrills so much anymore as she looking for a guy who's going to be a good provider and father for her children. Women's priorities change as they get older.

ps - sh*t as I'm typing this we just got hit with an earthquake in L.A.

 

[backbreaker]

i don't know how you read that entre post and came to the conlusion that the entire thread was about being a mystery, when the title is labled 'THE THRILL IS GONE'

is one of hte ways to be thrilling not to throw up everything about you in 10 mintues? Sure.... but there is more to making a woman crazy about you than just not telling her ****.

Confidence, boldness, taking action, passions, health, humor are all musts in life and with top notch women

but with that said... when you first meet a woman and you go to "prove yoruself" mode and blurt out everything... you have no more bullets. can you still score? yes.. but why make it harder than it has to be?

women are so different from men it's unreal. women get off on you getting them willed up. Espically women who I'm not serious about, it's a game. Even with women I am serious with... her knowing that you can get up and leave at any time is trilling to her. can she do what she has to do to keep you around? Who is that ***** looking at man man in the grocery store? I got in an argument one day 3 years ago at Kroger because the checkout lady, who was a cutie, was flirting with me and din't know the girl behind me was my GF. Was she mad and thought I was going to flirt back? I doubt it... but it just proved the fact that I am wanted by other women.

It's very simple actually. most relationship fail because they are not thrilling.

 

[backbreaker]

I agree. I also think that once a woman marries, she's not looking for thrills so much anymore as she looking for a guy who's going to be a good provider and father for her children. Women's priorities change as they get older.

yes, this is EXACTLY why the divorce rate is as high as it is today.. because there are not enough PROVIDERS out there.. . There are not enough guys who are willing to do anythnig, buy anything to put a smile on a woman's face

truth be told.. the line for tht is as long as the line was to buy a PS3 the day it came out.

If a smokin hot babe went up to a random guy and said if you can buy me this and this and make this much a year.. i'll marry you right now..8 out of 10 if not 9 out of 10 will do it on the spot... and will work overtimet od o so.

Women, while it is in their nature to look for providers, they want a thrilling provider.

Don't make the mistake of me thinking that when you get married you have to go out at all times of the night, cheat, and do all types of **** to spark the relationship... that's not the trill i'm reffering to.

80% of women will cheat on their partners if they knew he wouldn't find out. why is that? Because they jut aren't providing enough for them?

Men in long term relationships more of then than not loose confidence, the woman wears the pants in the family, controls the money, cashes the checks, decides whaqt's for dinner, the hubby looses and resemblance of what he was when he was single, and the woman tells him he's changed... and goes off and looks for mr. thrill and may or may not leave her hubby. Regaqrdless, the relationship is doomed

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Obsidian, 21 years old apparently and has a lot of great things to say.

I commend you.

You make an excellent point about masculinity being a mystery to women. Just listen to a few Amy Winehouse songs to get a clue into what turns most women on. Just the way she describes a man's physicality, attitude and his ideals is what makes her wet...Not so much as what she doesn't know. The actions that dictate who he is makes it a thrill to watch.

I mean mystery is great too, but what else is there after everything is known if you're just not an exciting person period?

 

[backbreaker]

again.. where did everyone decide to take this whole mystery thing and run with it as a theme to the post?

I made an example....ONe damn example of an experience that happened last week.. I'm sorry I couldn't alter the example to show a display of confidence or humor or what not... life happens.

 

[speakeasy]

What about new experiences together? I mean sure, she may have been thrilled in the beginning because of the chase, and now she knows too much and the thrill is gone, but does that mean that's all their is?

For example, I know of this one married couple who just quit their jobs and embarked on a round the world backpacking trip. They will probably be much closer after this.

 

[Obsidian]

where did everyone decide to take this whole mystery thing and run with it

well, it was the whole last third of your post that focused mainly on mystery

but I understand now that you meant to talk about Thrills comprehensively

 

[backbreaker]

i feell ike I"m talking to a bunch of monk sixth graders here.

I mean for the love of god guys...

First of all..she isn't going anywhere.. I didn't snag her because I didn't tell her anything about myself... I snagged her becuase i"m good looking, confident, have passions in life (That are very similar to hers mind you), and I"m not a follwer.

All of thoose things are more important than being a mystery.... but the fact that I didn't throw up my life story to her the first date helped.. whcih is all I am saying.

There is always thrill. The thrill for her now is being with me. I"m the thrill. not what I do, not me hiding information, not me gaming other girls (Which I am putting a stop to now).. ME.

It's thrilling to her to know that I'm very much into her, but she knows firsthand I have options.

When I stop being ME..the person I am.. then the thrill is gone. When I stopped following my passions in life, when I loose my confidence in myself...that's the thrill.

I'm taking her to Melborne in 3 weeks for her birthday... I'm not backpacking or anything but we might hit up the oceanside.. that's neither here nor there.

 

[Obsidian]

mwahahaha, backbreaker is settling down with one person :crackup:

 

[speakeasy]

He'll have to change is handle to backmender

 

[backbreaker]

lol, man I'm tryin. She's grown on me.

It's how I know I'm ready for a LTR with someone..w hen fvcking mutliple women just doesn't have the same luster.. I cut my rotation from like 5, to 3, to 2, to 1. It got to the point that I was seeing other women and i would comare each to her... I spun the plates and she spunt harder and faster than the rest for 2 and a half months


She's earned the right to be considered my GF...and I dig her alot to be honest... but let's see how long she can keep the title.

 

[speakeasy]

So tell us more about this chic. What makes her so special as to stop spinning the other plates? What is she on the HB scale?

 

[Last Man Standing]

The "Thrill"

was NOT you personally - it could of been Daffy Duck for that matter!! The thrill was a different pimp on top of her!!!!

You are NO ONE special - you are shyt - nothingless!!! You are merely the next pimp in line!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get this through you thick heads!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[backbreaker]

i made a post about her a couple of times.. she's 31..w hich is a downfall onitself.. considering i'm 24.. which was another reason I was not in a hurry to jump into anythnig. She's an Exercise Rider I met at Clocker's Corner at Santa Anita park about 3 months ago. I made a post about that as well.

Looks wise, she's a Brit (accent and all), about 5'6, 110 soaking wet, works out 5 days a week plus rides horses.. she's in better shape than I am.. and that's in shape, becuase i workout everyday. Very athletic looking, Dark blonde, high cheekbones, petite.. very long legs.. which i dig.. About a B cup in all honesty.. but i"m not a tit guy so that doesn't concern me... nice apple bottom however..very very firm and round on her..

Looks wise... Honestly. i've fvcked hotter....but not by much. She would qualify as a catch on any man's scale I would imagine.. I give her a solid 8.5.. for anyone wanting to know how my scale is weighted, take a look at my old pics post.. I give my old Oneitis about a Solid 9.. and that's tied for the highest I ever gave a woman on looks alone.

It's not her looks.. 1) she loves horse racing (ovbiously), she's very independant, extremely confident in herself.. to the point that she knew I was seeing othe rwomen and told me flat out I would choose her in due time.. she was right. little to no baggage... she's put so much time in riding horses she really is a diamond in the rough in the sense she hasn't devoted much time to men... and any men that she didn't like in the slightest she tossed asside to be around horses (which sounds alot like me).

She went to an all girls school growing up as well...she wont come out and say it... but I think her parents back home have a little money... I think they don't like hte career path she choose so she is pretty distant to them.

Unlike most women, she doesn't call me 5 times a day.. she has a life. When I go days without calling she isn't worried about me... as she tells me "i'm a big boy"... when I dont' return her calls she doesn't make a fuss.. she isn't demanding or needy, but makes it known when she wants something (i.e me)

No kids, no EX... she dated a triainer for a while.. but from what it sounds he became extremely aFCish and she lost it for him.. this was about 2 years ago.

GREAT in bed... can cook her ass off.. she has her quirks like most people.. she's a snorer and she likes to meddle in **** when she doesn't think I'm looking..

also, something I'm enjoying.. is that the stuff that we take for granted that most americans have done.. she hasn't...all the classic movies that everyone has seen she has no idea what they are and you get to have an excuse to watch them, she has hasn't been to Disneyland, she doesn't watch sports, she had no ideas what the sopranos were until I sat her down and made her watch an eposide with me.. all she literarly cares about are horses.

AGain.. I'm just having fun. it got to the point where I just didn't want to see anyone else at this time.

 

[speakeasy]

Cool man, hope the age differences doesn't hurt anything. Has she brought up any issue of age? A lot of women of her age are often in settle down mode, whereas few 24 year old dudes are.

That British accent must be a major plus!

 

[Street_Fighter]

you sure do talk alot for a mysterious fellow lol




she sounds like a keeper,more mature then most girls,got it going for her in many forms. I say go for it, just remember to keep the ball(s) in your court

 

[backbreaker]

Cool man, hope the age differences doesn't hurt anything. Has she brought up any issue of age? A lot of women of her age are often in settle down mode, whereas few 24 year old dudes are.

That British accent must be a major plus!

no.. It's more of an issue for me than for her. i'm mature for my age (ovboiusly).. I have somewhat of a baby face so she knew I was young, but she couldn't believe I was (At the time) 23.. not like she cared or anything.

I think we are both just enjoying each other.. I've said it all along people who have passions in life aren't necessary AS concerened about settling down. if it happens it happens, if not Im' having a ****ing time living.

Hell I'm not sure I want to settle down.. It's...just..not me, at least it hasnt' been me. but I enjoy being around her more than I enjoy being around anyone else.

Oh.. again she knows I have options. Once a woman just decided she was giopgn to pop up over my house unannounced at 11 at night while she and i were on the verge of going at it...all she said was "so that's my compitition? not bad"

another time I didn't know she was awake and a woman... who I was somewaht fond of...called and I had a 5 mintue conversation with her sitting right next to me..at that point she got dressed and when home... but she knows who has the cards..