I've had an opportunity to travel to very many parts of the world and I see without a doubt that it is indeed true women behave pretty much the same way all over the world: they love attention, love to be pursued, love to be in positions of power particularly during the initial phases of a potential relationship. Having had experience with the US dating scene for over 13 years, I've come to find myself going through some of the same things right here in my home country in Central Africa where I've been working for the past three years.
A woman joined my gym over here fairly recently and in comparison to the majority of those whom I had been seeing before, she did grab my attention. She is tall and has a very big, guitar-like shaped ass...the kind of ass that would make you hit the car in front of you and get involved in an accident if you saw her walking down the street. Her ass is so remarkable in anything she wears and when she wears pants, it's just outrageous.
So I noticed for quite some time that whenever she used to be on the treadmill, she would always turn around and look at me each time she saw me going down the stairs while exiting the gym. Every single time I walk past the treadmill area, she would follow me with her eyes until I left the gym. When I did finally take a chance and talk to her last week, the vibe I got from her suggested to me that she had been expecting me to make a move.
We went out twice so far: our first date was last Wednesday at a bar not far from the gym we go to. Our second date was last Friday at a restaurant, and she already began kissing me on my lips while I was driving her home. She told me she found me attractive and charming. When we first met, she assumed I was much younger than her because when most people look at me, they assume I'm between 25 and 28 years old whereas I'm actually 34 years old. So when I told her my age, she seemed shocked, and claimed she was the same age as me-although for some reason I didn't exactly believe it because facially she looks in my opinion like a woman at least going toward her late 30s, if not in her late 30s already.
Everything seemed to have played out well. I dropped her off last Friday and then on Monday this week, she sent me a text message to check on me and saying she had a bad toothache and therefore wasn't going to make it to the gym that day. I responded expressing that I wished her a quick recovery. On Tuesday I gave her a call to ask how she felt and she said she was much better and was at work. I proposed to her that it would be great to meet again this weekend and get to know each other a bit more if possible. She agreed. On Wednesday I still didn't see her at the gym, so I wondered if she was still feeling bad. I sent her a text message to check on her but to this day (Friday) she hasn't responded.
For that reason, I too have decided that I wouldn't bother calling or text messaging her if she doesn't do so either. Thus, both of us have been silent since then. When I was in my mid to late twenties in the US, I used to have a tendency to suffer from "oneitis," and I've learned a lot from some of my past mistakes and don't want to repeat them again. I've promised myself that I would never again let a woman feel she's of higher value than me. I once had met a woman at a gym in the US under fairly similar circumstances but I developed a tendency to call and text message her so often in my "oneitis" that she eventually devalued me and stopped taking my calls and responding to my text messages. And then to provoke me, she once came to the gym with some other guy-even though very opposite looking than me physically-not muscular or well built and with a very big, beer belly and they both got in the swimming pool in another area of the gym. It hurt me greatly back then but I healed from the wounds.
This particular woman over here was holding my hand, kissing me on my lips and telling me how well built I am and so on. But I've been in this game long enough to expect any sort of outcome. Most women who do have those big, unique asses that attract a lot of attention in general tend to be high maintenance because they believe they can use what they have to get anyone they want. But it's my weakness-I have a strong preference for big booty chicks, so what's a man gotta do? Anyway, I'm generally not a big fan of getting involved with women whom I tend to see frequently: offices, gyms, etc., because when things don't work out, it's really hard to have to deal with continuing to see that face over and over. But in this woman's case, I had thought it would be right to go closer to her considering how I felt she used to look at me all the time. However, I've decided I would never call or text message her again if she doesn't think I deserve the common courtesy of a response to my text message of Wednesday.
A woman joined my gym over here fairly recently and in comparison to the majority of those whom I had been seeing before, she did grab my attention. She is tall and has a very big, guitar-like shaped ass...the kind of ass that would make you hit the car in front of you and get involved in an accident if you saw her walking down the street. Her ass is so remarkable in anything she wears and when she wears pants, it's just outrageous.
So I noticed for quite some time that whenever she used to be on the treadmill, she would always turn around and look at me each time she saw me going down the stairs while exiting the gym. Every single time I walk past the treadmill area, she would follow me with her eyes until I left the gym. When I did finally take a chance and talk to her last week, the vibe I got from her suggested to me that she had been expecting me to make a move.
We went out twice so far: our first date was last Wednesday at a bar not far from the gym we go to. Our second date was last Friday at a restaurant, and she already began kissing me on my lips while I was driving her home. She told me she found me attractive and charming. When we first met, she assumed I was much younger than her because when most people look at me, they assume I'm between 25 and 28 years old whereas I'm actually 34 years old. So when I told her my age, she seemed shocked, and claimed she was the same age as me-although for some reason I didn't exactly believe it because facially she looks in my opinion like a woman at least going toward her late 30s, if not in her late 30s already.
Everything seemed to have played out well. I dropped her off last Friday and then on Monday this week, she sent me a text message to check on me and saying she had a bad toothache and therefore wasn't going to make it to the gym that day. I responded expressing that I wished her a quick recovery. On Tuesday I gave her a call to ask how she felt and she said she was much better and was at work. I proposed to her that it would be great to meet again this weekend and get to know each other a bit more if possible. She agreed. On Wednesday I still didn't see her at the gym, so I wondered if she was still feeling bad. I sent her a text message to check on her but to this day (Friday) she hasn't responded.
For that reason, I too have decided that I wouldn't bother calling or text messaging her if she doesn't do so either. Thus, both of us have been silent since then. When I was in my mid to late twenties in the US, I used to have a tendency to suffer from "oneitis," and I've learned a lot from some of my past mistakes and don't want to repeat them again. I've promised myself that I would never again let a woman feel she's of higher value than me. I once had met a woman at a gym in the US under fairly similar circumstances but I developed a tendency to call and text message her so often in my "oneitis" that she eventually devalued me and stopped taking my calls and responding to my text messages. And then to provoke me, she once came to the gym with some other guy-even though very opposite looking than me physically-not muscular or well built and with a very big, beer belly and they both got in the swimming pool in another area of the gym. It hurt me greatly back then but I healed from the wounds.
This particular woman over here was holding my hand, kissing me on my lips and telling me how well built I am and so on. But I've been in this game long enough to expect any sort of outcome. Most women who do have those big, unique asses that attract a lot of attention in general tend to be high maintenance because they believe they can use what they have to get anyone they want. But it's my weakness-I have a strong preference for big booty chicks, so what's a man gotta do? Anyway, I'm generally not a big fan of getting involved with women whom I tend to see frequently: offices, gyms, etc., because when things don't work out, it's really hard to have to deal with continuing to see that face over and over. But in this woman's case, I had thought it would be right to go closer to her considering how I felt she used to look at me all the time. However, I've decided I would never call or text message her again if she doesn't think I deserve the common courtesy of a response to my text message of Wednesday.
