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Hello all,
I came across this message board by chance, and believe me, I literally sucked up all the content on this site.
Let me first explain that my hardcore AFC years have long passed; but I had still a lot of AFC elements in me. I once was an AFC as an AFC can be. Many of the topics explained in the DJ bible got "somehow" clear to me earlier - but I learned them the hard way. But never have I seen such valuable information about DJing compressed in one site. Newbies, notice that the transition from AFC to Don Juan is not about getting girls, but about improving yourself until girls follow naturally.
This is one of the things I did not realize fully until I browsed through hundreds of the good posts and advices the last days. You come across this site as a newbie, because you feel desperate and damned, you don't get girls! You know the type of boys/men who seem to get all of the girls - you're definitely not one of them. This is called AFC land - AFC stands for Average Frustrated Chump.
From other sites or from some advices in this forum you could get the idea that all what it is about is learning pickup sentences, a little bit of NLP and Speed Seduction techniques, and you _finally_ can get women you want: this must truly be the secret of those girl-getters. It is NOT. Although you can achieve certain success with pickup lines and stuff, this is not the real stuff. The real thing is to get so confident, so proud of yourself, so self-assured, that the rest will follow naturally.
These are the typical steps in transforming from an AFC to a DJ:
1) Your love life is not up to par. You feel all the other guys are getting the girls. You are SOO nice to them girlies, and sometimes they like you, but you won't get any further.
2) You realize you have to do something about it, and stumble across this site. Very good.
3) You read post after post in the DJ bible, and see the same patterns applying to hundreds of fellows: you feel insecure approaching a girl. You are overly nice to her, hoping this will get you into her love/pants/whatever. You better always ask the girl what she wants, because otherwise you could make her angry. You think "Why can't they just approach me? Why do I have to do this?". You ask yourself, desperate, "Those pretty girls ALWAYS fall for the jerks!! Why won't they take me, I am so NICE to them! I would be one caring for them, loving them, and send them flowers every day!"
4) You are going to realize that you have been stomped upon, ridiculed, and not respected in general. You learn that you look like a spineless wimp to girls. You are going to be ANGRY. You read more, and you are going to be ****ING ANGRY!! THIS IS GOOD!!! REPEAT GOOD!!
5) Because of your anger, you swear by yourself to do something about it, to take revenge, to show the world you are a guy on your own, not willing being pushed around. You will maybe begin to act overly aggressive. This doesn't matter at first.
6) Before you start improving your life, read the "MUST read" posts on the DJ Bible page. Draw your attention especially to Pook's posts "Kill that Desperation" and "Be a Man". Follow the whole thread and get to understand the principles of interaction between woman and men; and what women want and not.
7) When reading those posts, you will realise that this is not about improving your chances with woman, this is about improving you, your social life, your confidence, AND handling women.
8) For the shy persons among you, try the DJ boot camp. It works - just read the posts which go from "I do not dare to say HI to a stranger" to "I am so confident, and I got 10 phone numbers from women" in 4 weeks.
9) Read www.cybersheet.com/library/ "29 Reasons" to get another anger boost. "29 Reasons" is to be taken with a grain of salt. You could get the idea that life is **** and women too. Otherwise, at this point anger is GOOD. It makes you move forward, makes you more active in pursuiting your goals. Later, the anger will go away.
10) Finally, don't overanalyze DJ bible posts, don't reread them ten times, don't try to make a philosophy out of them. Just follow the advice, turn your anger into something useful - improving your life! And do not read the AFC "Does she like me", "She said she just wanted to be friends" etc. AFC posts. It will just make you depressed at the beginning. Stick with the posts in the DJ bible. Do not only read the posts, but TAKE ACTION and go out in the field.
While and after following those steps, your new DJ life will begin to unfold. Some need 4 months to change, most between one and two years. But the rewards are thrilling, believe me.
English is not my mother tongue, BTW.
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I came across this message board by chance, and believe me, I literally sucked up all the content on this site.
Let me first explain that my hardcore AFC years have long passed; but I had still a lot of AFC elements in me. I once was an AFC as an AFC can be. Many of the topics explained in the DJ bible got "somehow" clear to me earlier - but I learned them the hard way. But never have I seen such valuable information about DJing compressed in one site. Newbies, notice that the transition from AFC to Don Juan is not about getting girls, but about improving yourself until girls follow naturally.
This is one of the things I did not realize fully until I browsed through hundreds of the good posts and advices the last days. You come across this site as a newbie, because you feel desperate and damned, you don't get girls! You know the type of boys/men who seem to get all of the girls - you're definitely not one of them. This is called AFC land - AFC stands for Average Frustrated Chump.
From other sites or from some advices in this forum you could get the idea that all what it is about is learning pickup sentences, a little bit of NLP and Speed Seduction techniques, and you _finally_ can get women you want: this must truly be the secret of those girl-getters. It is NOT. Although you can achieve certain success with pickup lines and stuff, this is not the real stuff. The real thing is to get so confident, so proud of yourself, so self-assured, that the rest will follow naturally.
These are the typical steps in transforming from an AFC to a DJ:
1) Your love life is not up to par. You feel all the other guys are getting the girls. You are SOO nice to them girlies, and sometimes they like you, but you won't get any further.
2) You realize you have to do something about it, and stumble across this site. Very good.
3) You read post after post in the DJ bible, and see the same patterns applying to hundreds of fellows: you feel insecure approaching a girl. You are overly nice to her, hoping this will get you into her love/pants/whatever. You better always ask the girl what she wants, because otherwise you could make her angry. You think "Why can't they just approach me? Why do I have to do this?". You ask yourself, desperate, "Those pretty girls ALWAYS fall for the jerks!! Why won't they take me, I am so NICE to them! I would be one caring for them, loving them, and send them flowers every day!"
4) You are going to realize that you have been stomped upon, ridiculed, and not respected in general. You learn that you look like a spineless wimp to girls. You are going to be ANGRY. You read more, and you are going to be ****ING ANGRY!! THIS IS GOOD!!! REPEAT GOOD!!
5) Because of your anger, you swear by yourself to do something about it, to take revenge, to show the world you are a guy on your own, not willing being pushed around. You will maybe begin to act overly aggressive. This doesn't matter at first.
6) Before you start improving your life, read the "MUST read" posts on the DJ Bible page. Draw your attention especially to Pook's posts "Kill that Desperation" and "Be a Man". Follow the whole thread and get to understand the principles of interaction between woman and men; and what women want and not.
7) When reading those posts, you will realise that this is not about improving your chances with woman, this is about improving you, your social life, your confidence, AND handling women.
8) For the shy persons among you, try the DJ boot camp. It works - just read the posts which go from "I do not dare to say HI to a stranger" to "I am so confident, and I got 10 phone numbers from women" in 4 weeks.
9) Read www.cybersheet.com/library/ "29 Reasons" to get another anger boost. "29 Reasons" is to be taken with a grain of salt. You could get the idea that life is **** and women too. Otherwise, at this point anger is GOOD. It makes you move forward, makes you more active in pursuiting your goals. Later, the anger will go away.
10) Finally, don't overanalyze DJ bible posts, don't reread them ten times, don't try to make a philosophy out of them. Just follow the advice, turn your anger into something useful - improving your life! And do not read the AFC "Does she like me", "She said she just wanted to be friends" etc. AFC posts. It will just make you depressed at the beginning. Stick with the posts in the DJ bible. Do not only read the posts, but TAKE ACTION and go out in the field.
While and after following those steps, your new DJ life will begin to unfold. Some need 4 months to change, most between one and two years. But the rewards are thrilling, believe me.
English is not my mother tongue, BTW.
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