You guys are hilarious.
I talk about my father because I was blessed to have a great man for a father. Not everyone is so fortunate. I am the furthest thing from a woman with daddy issues, lol. I learned a tremendous amount from him as well as other men in my family. All were well respected, successful and leaders of other men in their respective communities. A number of my father's close friends have become my friends, mentors and even investors of mine over the years. I bring my son along as often as his studies allow to various meetings and social functions so he can see solid men and how they conduct themselves.
My BF was an E9. He is a leader of men. He still is. He doesn't want a woman who is going to desire children. He has done that. The young girls always end up clingy, needy, expecting commitment & kids after a short period...at which point he'd simply wash, rinse & repeat. He likes maturity and compatability. His kids are grown & he is looking forward to being a grandparent. He likes having similar cultural frame of reference and he greatly appreciates not only my looks and figure (still fit, trim and toned with an athlete's definition), he appreciates my intelligence, ambition, social acumen & sense of humor. He loves my feminine nature but he also likes that I impose standards and hold him accountable. We discuss things very directly and communicate well. And the boyfriend/girlfriend idea was his. He leads but he seeks and values my input. We understand one another well.
If you read my first post in this thread there is a definition of solipsism provided. It is out of Webster's dictionary. In case you missed it scanning through without reading it is still there for the observing. So are the links to the statistics. All neutral sources, lol.
All women are not opportunistic in a malign way as is presupposed in this thread. I am not and I know other women who are not.
All people, man or woman seek the best choice for a mate. Some people obviously have greater choices at their disposal than others.
I've always had plentiful desirable options in the market. A surgeon who is close in age and recently a widower keeps contacting me unsolicited. He looks like a taller, trimmer Chris Hemsworth. The resemblance is uncanny. Seriously. Women swoon for him and he isn't used to hearing "No Thank you"...I keep deleting his texts...after a polite response (He's a professional contact so telling him off is out of the question...), but I've very directly told him I'm seeing someone & I'm not interested. Doesn't matter. He still contacts me without any encouragement whatsoever. When Ive offered to introduce him to other attractive (some who are gorgeous) women who I know he's suddenly not ready to date. He lost his beloved wife several months ago unexpectedly. He is lonely and trying to heal. He likes me. Flattering sure...but I like my current relationship.
Just two weeks ago I was out with two girlfriends awaiting several other people, including my boyfriend, and before my boyfriend arrived 3 different men approached me (in spite of me being in conversation with my girlfriends), and interrupted to introduce themselves and flirt with me. This is within a 20 minute time frame. I always am polite but immediately inform men that I have a boyfriend who (in this case) would be arriving shortly, and I introduce such men to my girl friends, who are also attractive.
The guys were of diverse ages. The first was 27 years old; the second was early 50s, the 3rd was mid 30s (34 I think)...at any rate the most amusing was the 27 year old. He kept hovering about wanting to talk with me even after my boyfriend and rest of the group arrived. I showed no interest in him (but wasn't rude)...and he kept going on about how beautiful I was etc. The whole thing amused my guy, who was well aware I had no interest in the 27 year old...but toward the end of the outing the guy circled back by, sat down at our table and started up again. At that point I said "Look. I have told you I am with my BF (who was sitting next to me chatting with another man in our group)...and I'm not interested. I tapped my guy and leaned in his ear "Should I tell him?" He chuckled and said "Of course dear. It's always funny..."
So I said to the persistent 27 year old (who was attractive in a boyish way) "I appreciate the compliments, but honestly I'm not interested. I'm old enough to be your mother." To which the guy said "No way." I said "Yes, actually I turn 50 next year."
When he collected his lower jaw off the floor he said, "You look in your early 30s. Let me know if you need a boytoy." I said "No boy toys for me. I'm with a man already." This amused my BF quite a bit and after that we excused ourselves and my BF teased me on the way home for being a flirt. I told him with a laugh, the truth, which was that actually I was simply minding my own business. I made no effort to seek attention.
Those aren't experiences unattractive people have. So according to the market I have value. Not my opinion...the market's opinion.
People approach me. They always have. Will my raw physical allure fade eventually? Of course. But I will always be attractive. Attractiveness is more than just pretty or hot. Right now I'm still both physically "hot" and possess an attractive allure.
None of that matters. All the silly barbs & insults do is tell me that for whatever reason it bugs some of you that I exist and that I am pleased with life & having a ball. At almost 50. It's fun.
Oh and don't get me started on this notion that all women are children and/or all women are lazy. I've been sanding trim in a house I'm getting ready to sell all day. That's after installing a backsplash and patching the plaster. Once all that's done I'll stain & seal. When I can I enjoy doing that sort of thing. It saves me paying someone else to do it, it's cool to see the finished project, and it teaches my kids (who are required to help in various ways) responsibility, work ethic and to appreciate what they have. After homework or on weekends of course.
