At the time I met her I had theoretical knowledge about bpd and borderline so my radar was on and reporting multiple times. Yet I pursued her, because she was the hottest woman I ever had a shot at and she pedestalised me which hit my soft spot as I am a narcisst myself.
I have high math intelligence (not very high, +140-something) so it's more than most of the competition but also had EQ which is rather rare mix so to speak (I know a lot of ppl with one of the above at high level, but rarely both and I can tell, because I do have that advantage and I'm a cunning mofo on average day, educated as well). EQ comes from different angles, being love, but also being tarnished, being at the bottom and being at the top. If you were always successful among people or always unsuccessful, it's impossible for your EQ to develop further.
Why am I writing about it? I have this theory about borderline women I'd like to share. Until recently I thought like most of manosphere that they are cancer that can't be eliminated but recently I start to think differently.
I think there will be more and more of them and their offspring will slowly but steadily spread through the population as it's a sign of human evolution on steroids.
Why do I think so? Borderline women are very attractive at the initial stage of relationships and those with high IQ will suck 110% out of their SMV for sure. There's only one way to keep them around for some time - by having offspring with them, and the best idea is to have more than one child and be able to sustain the family and them. Otherwise they loose respect for you after some time (sooner or later). There are different ways to keep them around (mimicking their own behaviour is usually working to good extent) BUT it's a fool's errand in the end.
Borderline women are genetically a second-category partners for alpha males (and less attractive borderlines for stronger betas) to spread their seed but they are NOT alpha women many men think they are as they lack empathy necessary for that trait (they can efficiently mimick it tho' as their emotions are mostly concentrated on them).
We could say, biologically top-betas are often borderline and they are best toys alpha male can have when his queen is pregnant and he needs to leave her alone. Super-sexy, smart, egoistic, subduing beta males out of necessity and making boytoys/sugardaddies from lower betas and average chumps.
Mid-betas are attractive (but nothing extraordinary) women with intelligence and leadership qualities+values. They are rather rare as well, thrown to the pot with BPD's together for a genetical variation and vice versa and to make society psychologically and sociologically more stable.
BPD waif/BPD virgin types are the 'lower betas' so to speak. Often physically more attractive than mid-betas, but much lower on other abilities than them.
So, actually, borderline women are strong or low level beta's & in attractive package (they lack alpha women leadership qualities, part of them even don't want to have children eventho' they look like that), and that's why they HUNT for paragon type of guys - 'perfect providers' - life with them is supposed to be tiresome so to speak, and only payoff is (probably) a better chance for genetically superior offspring (tiresome because paragon/perfect provider is definitely not an alpha, but alpha woman WON'T allow her king to spread too much of his assets around). So if you're beta male like me (I will never be alpha, I have qualities of 'sorcerer' and 'trickster' as well as 'fencer' but not 'king' or 'warrior king', having handsome face and quite frail posture) BPD woman is only queen you can have yet she will never truly treat you as a king because you are not one. For her the King is the king.
That's where the lovebombing comes from in my opinion. It's beta-woman cry for an alpha that's so rare that she is forced to get the second best and second best will never be enough. That's why when you read letters or emails from your BPD girlfriend you have this nervous feeling that eventho's the email is adressed to you, it's actually about some other, better guy than you. Guess what. It is. BPD woman needs a king but cannot be queen, yet she cannot understand it because she is devoid of qualities necessary to easily accept her own limitations (queen can tell easily when her time passes) and her beta-provider requires respect yet he forgots he never really deserved all the praise he received at the beginning...
Because ultimately life is not about just humping, life is about procreation.
So most of men tend to go back to third grade woman - the ordinary women so to speak - to get steady amount of sex, care and assurance that they are doing great.
Except nowadays, more and more men wants to pursue BPD women anyway (in previous centuries men had much more important crap to do than crying everyone rivers about how this too-hot-for-me women left me, just like I do here together with other guys hehe, mostly because quality of life has changed,/got much better and men have more time to look for more suitable partners for them - nature cannot respond by prolonging women fertility period (it's too complicated) so the response comes at the level of biological attractiveness mixed with experimental factor (remember, some women actually turn crazier after being 'widowed'/left by alpha or strong beta).
Average woman learned to mimick BPD's and queen's traits to get male interest (being more bitchy, literally reading books about it, to raise men interest to some extent) but it's effective only to the extent of her natural attractiveness really and it makes me laugh when some average p.ussy tries to mimick beta or border-beta. I'm son of BPD woman that was a beauty at her own days, I can tell the difference easily and with a cold heart of genetical nazi.
XXI century society needs peaceful, smart men and very sexy women, it's Age of Woman, and typical XIX century-to-mid-early-XX cent. 'Housewives' (so to speak) are no longer attractive for average educated man - sure sure, we all know the truth spread by our parents - good girl is the best girl, have lots of children blah blah, yet we would all like to bang this hot sexy chick with long legs and perfect breasts and beautiful face, some of us even more for social boost than for actual pleasure from such interaction. Trait of agressiveness slowly comes from men to women and that's also one of the factors for BPD spreading nowadays.
Society and nature simply responds to that call. It's counterintuitive for most males but intuitive and even obvious for other.
Being left by BPD actually upgraded my EQ, I'm very intuitive regarding people ways of behaviour right now and can quickly analyse every word, or sentence, body language and mix logical information through the emotional screening.
My BPD ex has deeply wounded me but also, truly, made me better on many levels.
