The "sexual prime" myth

[backbreaker]

why do so many guys believe a woman's sexual prime is in her "30"s?

i mean, i admit, i have a thing for older woman. i find older women sexier than women younger than me. i like the way for instance my wife carries herself on a normal basis versus the way say, a 24 year old carries herself. high heels and a dress is sexier to me than flip flops and shorts.


but even i would be the first to admit, even though my wife just had a baby 3 weeks ago, she is WELL past her sexual prime. that was 10-12 years ago.


guys will aruge you this **** up and down like there is no tomorrow.

 

[Mike32ct]

There is a lot of confusion surrounding this. The main reason why people THINK a 30s (or even low 40s) female is in her sexual prime is because she probably is more comfortable with sex than when she was younger. She may have less hang-ups about it. But that is absolutely NOT the same as saying that she's in her sexual prime or is most horny as a mature lady.

I'll admit, I had this misconception for a few years. I found low 30s women much easier to F than 20s ones, so on the surface, it SEEMED reasonable to assume that the 30s ones were more horny than the 20s ones. But that's not reality. Just because the younger chick is more picky (and has cawkblocking friends) doesn't mean that she's LESS horny than the older broad.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Think about it this way. A girl in here 30's or 40's is WAY more desperate for some good sex than a girl in her 20's, who can get it pretty much anywhere, anytime. While you're typical 30's or 40's gal is not even getting checked out nearly as much.

Older women value it more highly, so they appreciate it more.

(law of scarcity, etc).

Like that line from some black and white movie (I believe it was, "It's A Wonderful Life"):

"Youth is wasted on the young."

This is why finding a young virgin to keep all to yourself has been the Holy Grail of pickup since the monkeys started walking on two legs.

You may even say men have striven historically to become rulers of other men simply because it gains them access to such young virgins.

 

[zekko]

The women I've been with who were in their 30s were more comfortable with sex, more experienced with sex, and tended to know what they were doing more. I think that's what they mean when they say a woman is in her sexual prime in her 30s.

It does NOT mean that she is most sexually attractive during that time, or that she is hornier.

 

[YawataNoKami]

30s/40s are the new 20s is just women bull to feel good about themselves.

 

[backbreaker]

The women I've been with who were in their 30s were more comfortable with sex, more experienced with sex, and tended to know what they were doing more. I think that's what they mean when they say a woman is in her sexual prime in her 30s.

It does NOT mean that she is most sexually attractive during that time, or that she is hornier.

I think this is closer to the issue then anything else

I think a woman that is 35 is more comfortable in her own skin, more comfortable dealing with men, and frankly more experienced than a woman in her early 20s. You can also state that women are less picker which is probably true but i would not say always.



I mean, we probably had MORE sex when we were just dating, probably 7-8 times a week, but the sex is not as GOOD as it is now, almost what, 8 years later. Shes WAY better lol. I'm WAY better. I know what i'm doing, she knows more so what she's doing than she did 8 years ago. She's more comfortable letting lose and she's more comfortable with her sexuality than she was in her 20s.

 

[hithard]

I have to back BB on this one. The 20 year olds I have banged over the last few years are always very eager to please and not as many hang ups. These girls are willing to work, then walk. Hard bods with tits still at 12oclock.
The 30 plus girls always fuc,k with what feels like strings attached. Theres a lot of head games or motive that can ruin it. Don't get me wrong the sex is good, but guaranteed a ltr would dry that sexual prime into dust and cobwebs.

Personally I would put sexual prime at about 23-27. They are willing to explore and experiment(threesomes are easier, sub/dom relationships etc) at these ages. They are mature enough to know what they like, without bitter hag syndrome, or their clock ticking overtime. They fuc,k because they like it in its purest form.

Not saying the older ones can't hold their own, but they tend to get more vanilla as they age and go for the 'cheat on partner' for their thrill. Positions halve down with age as well.

 

[zekko]

I mean, we probably had MORE sex when we were just dating, probably 7-8 times a week, but the sex is not as GOOD as it is now, almost what, 8 years later. Shes WAY better lol. I'm WAY better. I know what i'm doing, she knows more so what she's doing than she did 8 years ago. She's more comfortable letting lose and she's more comfortable with her sexuality than she was in her 20s.

What I'm going to say now has probably changed with the more recent generations: But when I was younger, it was not unusual to encounter a girl in her 20s who had never had an orgasm. The female "mechanics" were not as well understood back then, vibrators were not so out in the open as they are now, and there was less talk back then about sexual techniques.

THAT is where this idea of women being in their sexual prime in their 30s comes from. Because a lot of girls in their 20s had never had an orgasm, and didn't even really know what an orgasm was until they had one. Of course once they "figured it out", it was a revelation to them. Usually by their 30s, they had figured it out.

Like I said, I doubt that this is still the case these days. Because the topic of female orgasms has been much discussed, and the information is now out in the open, and it's been part of feminism to make sure that the girl gets her satisfaction as well as the guy. Even though technically, supposedly girls back in the 70s were actually more promiscuous than girls today. They didn't have social media to satisfy their attention urges.

 

[G_Govan]

You also have to figure in the fact that women don't just have sex for the sake of having sex, like men. They use sex as a primary tool to negotiate and manipulate.

They're also damn good at faking enjoyment. I actually don't mind the faking as long as it achieves its intended effect, to get me off. Screaming and overacting kill my mood.

 

[nismo-4]

You also have to figure in the fact that women don't just have sex for the sake of having sex, like men. They use sex as a primary tool to negotiate and manipulate.

They're also damn good at faking enjoyment. I actually don't mind the faking as long as it achieves its intended effect, to get me off. Screaming and overacting kill my mood.

I second this.

Also, women young or old, will be freaky and enjoy sex with you if they are attracted and aroused by you.

Sexual prime myth debunked. Just like the myth about the hot chicks that don't get approached.

 

[YawataNoKami]

Hilarious. Of course, the age of 30 is when women just so happen to be leaving their sexual prime and losing most of their power.. while at the same time that men are finding their careers and putting money aside. Strange coincidence.

These young women are hoping that men will want to marry them when they are thirty, but many of their 30/40/50 year old sisters will tell them.. a lot of them are just sh1t out of luck. The marriage boat is slowly leaking, it's becoming more and more obvious.. and you thinking that no one will find out or care about the dozens of guys you ****ed in your twenties, and will happily accept your debt-ridden aging self.. is a pipe dream.

 

[mangotot]

In their 30s they are physically more developed and that is turn on or a turn off for men.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

30s/40s are the new 20s is just women bull to feel good about themselves.

I gotta agree with this. After I read BB's OP, I thought back to my own teenage years and I remember hearing the same thing. Where did it originate though? Honestly I only remember young women saying this, mainly ones I wasn't banging, just talking with and such. Do guys say this? If so, ask them where they heard it?

I'll say I have yet to find any sort of truth in it. My wife is in her mid-30s and her sex drive is about the same as it was when she was in her 20s, so no real change from what I can tell. I have to agree that people (most likely women) started saying this crap because women in their 30s are more desperate for that attention they aren't getting anymore but got used to when they were 19-21.

Then reality suddenly slams into them and so sayings like this start popping up. I will say that if I were single I'd be targeting the young girls again because honestly, it's been a long time since I've felt real tight pu$$y, I mean REAL tight, the kind you have to work on for a few minutes to get loosened up. It's the little things like that in life that you realize you miss sometimes.

 

[zekko]

I gotta agree with this. After I read BB's OP, I thought back to my own teenage years and I remember hearing the same thing. Where did it originate though?

I don't mean to blow my own horn, but I explained this correctly back in post #10. Most of y'all here are just too young to know or remember it.

 

[YawataNoKami]

The Wall™ , take no prisoners.