The Reason You Joined This Site: What Was Her Name?

[Reto]

I'm in control, but that AFC in me rear's it ugly head from time to time.

This sight has just made me conscious of what does not work, and what does. What I thougt I was doing right, but is completely wrong. When to call it quits and to stop pursuing a lost cause...

 

[Ol'BlueEyes]

Hmmm...

Her name was Jesse. LONG, black hair, body to die for. She's the cousin of my brother's fiance. First time we met I put my foot in my mouth big time and never recovered.
Last I heard she moved in with a dude from California about six months ago.
I plan on ignoring her at my bro's wedding in August.

 

[OpenMind]

PeaceDJ.... LOL very creative

I came here looking to find out what was going on with my last oneitis.. and why it happened and how to prevent it from happening again. not only have I found out what to do about it with the help of this site.. I learned about a ton of mistakes I had made, and a ton of other things were confirmed that I was doing right.

I have also changed my views of what I am looking for on my end. I have always known what type of woman I want as far as looks and personality. But one thing I can say that I have learned that to me is gold is this... Find a woman who has everything you want that you will not fall in love with... but who will fall head over heals with you.. because I know I will treat her right.. but when I am in love with her I am fukckked.. It is much easier to be the best DJ and do things correctly with the right woman when you are not in love with her! I am happy with just loving the woman of my dreams, as opposed to being in love with her.. Looking back I have been the best natural DJ with every girl that I have been with that I wasnt in love with but was in love with me..

My conclusion from this site is.. BEING IN LOVE IS FOR WOMEN... Men love, women fall in love.. accept this and you wont lose your scrotum and whats supposed to create the two large bumps inside of it

 

[ShizamDaMan]

The girl that really did it for me was in the 8th grade. Her name was Lauren and I had known her for 2 years. After getting back from a vacation, I finally grew the nads to ask her out. We "went out" for a week, never actually went on a date per-se. I was crushed, typical AFC behavior.

I then turned into an a55hole freshman and sophmore years (super ****y, arrogant, pushy, stupid), still no success. Even into my Junior year I wondered why I was so bad with the ladies. I remember lying in my bed and thinking if she took me back, would I go with her. I of course told myself I would.... and that's when I realized I needed to change.

About the middle of junior year I stumbled upon Pook's "Be a Man!" post on the old forum. This was literally life changing, I vowed to adopt the system and evolve into someone I've always wanted to be.

Fast forward to today. I'm much more popular, have a cell phone full of girl's numbers, and I'm more successful than I ever thought I could be. It only gets better from here... oh yeah

 

[Player_Supreme]

Originally posted by PEACEDJ
hahahaha oh man... this brings back a lot of sad but sweet memories. Well, I found this site because of the fact that I couldn't get this chick named Amanda. Man.. I was such an AFC.

Basically I'll put it into a Master Card commercial:

T-shirt for Amanda $55.99
Shoes for Amanda: $98.00
Hours thinking about her Endless
after all that I get a heart break: priceless

there are somethings money can't buy for everything else there's Sosuave.com

haha..

Next time just send me the cash and I will coach you on how to get amanda or a hundred others just like her!

 

[Kodiac]

Karen - HB9 - best body imaginable, best arse, nice C cups & damn fine face! It's extremely rare for me to rate a girl more than 7, so when i saw this girl i was like 'fuk, now thats a woman!'.

She was dancing on stage at the local night club, lots of guys around her drewling, im an AFC so im sitting around with some mates just drinking beer, trying to get up some nerve to go and dance 'near her' lol, fkn ***** i was.

Well, i did manage to get up and dance but never made a move on her. Saw her at the club a few more times over the span of about 7 months.

Out on a friends 21st at a pub, saw a HB7 with a mutual friend so i hung out with them, flirted with her, kino'd her -i wanted to leave the pub & head to a club so i just calmly said "give me ur number so we can stay in touch' she did, and she was all over me. It was so easy, i was starting to see the light.

Arrived at the club alone, Karen (hb9) was on stage again, i waited for a decent song to come on then got up and danced my arse off - she had gotten off this stage at that point along with 90% of the other ppl, so it was basically me and a couple of others guys i didnt know dancing - but i didn't give a sh1t, i was having fun! I did make EC with her a few times however, but i didn't think anything of it.

Anyway, didnt approach her...but guess who i got an SMS message off 4am that morning (2 hours after arriving home) - Karen (hb9) ;

her -Hey there, how you going ?
me -Whos this ?
her -Karen
me -Yeah, you wish

lol, i thought it was a mate playing a joke on me, but it wasn't, met up with her the next day and we hit it off! She was calling me a sn0b etc.. etc.. cause i never talked with her beforehand & she was the one who HAD to approach me. Sn0b ? yeah right, more like a fkn wuss!!

She was really intelligent, ambition, she was a DJ (disk jockey) & a really fun person. Too bad my AFC self was still under the impression that i should take the relationship slow. Therfore i never tried for a kiss / sex etc.. as i wanted to seem like the 'nice guy', especially considering my ex dumped me because 'all i wanted was sex' lol I was always under the impression girls wanted a guy who was 'sensitive' / 'nice guy' !!

I fell for her hard, but in the end i realised i wasn't happy (mainly due to my insecurities - ie, wondering who she was with - she had heaps of guy friends) & one day she disrespected me (flirted with other guys infront of me) and i dumped her - it hurt like hell, i was fuked with oneitis for good month.

I was clueless -Then i found this site

 

[Crotch Sniffer]

Her name was Olga. I met her at the zoo. She was a stunning HPB10!! With her long white fur and sparkling fangs. Yesiree! No one makes Hot Polar Bears quite like they do in Siberia!

I was nervous about approaching her but I finally built up the nerve and just climbed that fence. I was about to try a situational opener with her about being imprisoned and suggesting maybe a Caribbean getaway.

I had barely formed the opener in my mind when Olga just charged at me, raised one of her massive paws and sent my world into blackness.

I awoke 3 months later after an intense coma.

Both my legs were broken along with my arm and I had lost one of my kidneys....The roughest case of one-itis ever!

Damn. the worst part is...

I still love her!

 

[DJmonster]

LOL! OMG that's hilarious, yet sadly, such a good analogy

 

[princelydeeds]

Oh man this thread is like watching a car wreck. But, I have to chime in.

The b!tch that made me the cold hearted, pu$$y gettin, h0e pimpin, back breaker that I am today is Gwen. She chased me for the first three years, I chased her for the last two and a half years. She broke my heart not once twice or even three times, she hurt me consistently and persistently for those two and a half years. Man I wish I had sosuave back then. I realised on my own in the last few years what I did wrong. I chased her, and was so weak that she could no longer respect me as a man. Everything I did to get her I stopped doing to keep her.

Oh well the past is past. The evil wh0re is a doctor now. She forgets who she lived with rent free and bill free when her a$$ was homeless. Am I bitter, sure....lol, naw not really. Alot of who I am I owe to her. She has actually made me more succesful.

 

[fm2]

It was Kristin, damn her. Or maybe thank her for making me find this site.

We met on a dating site, had loads in common, talked on the phone for about two hours. All that.

She likes chocolate, and even named on of her cats Hershey, so of course I brought her a little gift bag of Hershey's Kisses. We went out for dinner for our date and the convo was going great. No awkward pauses, lots of laughs both ways, good eye contact. We then went to a coffee shop and it continued great. Held her hand walking back to the car, drove her home. Had three good kisses at the front door to her building and agreed to get together another time. All in all I had to say that date went PERFECT!!!!

That was a Sat. Sure as **** I e-mailed her Sun morning saying what a great time I had. I called Mon or Tues evening to try to set something up for Fri, but there was no answer so I left a message.

On Wed. I get home and as the computer is booting, the work cell phone rings and I have to go back in to fix something. I'm pissed about that. Now the computer has booted and there's an e-mail from her saying she had a great time but we're just not right for each other, plus she's been seeing someone else from online who she thinks is more compatible. I'm now crushed and I get back to work but I can't fix the problem as I couldn't think straight. I woulda been happy to burn the whole place down as a matter of fact. I called in my boss, then I went home and was lucky to get home without having an accident.

I'm thinking that if this guy is more compatible for her, she should just marry him immediately because I thought we went together perfectly.

At least I still see her profile online, and she keeps changing some of it and complaining that she can't find a good guy. I hope with every fibre of my being that she cries herself to sleep every single night because she passed me up and she's lonely. If there is a god, than this'll be happening to her. I hope I can score some chick that lives in the apartment next to her and I keep her up all night from making that chick moan and scream!!

There ya go. She broke me, now this site is fixing me up. Thanks guys!!

fm2

 

[khanboy]

Her name was Kit. She is a cutie, about a 6, but in my eyes a high 9 at the time.

Anyway, it took me a whole month of studying and staying late to work on homework with her (something I never did before or after her) until I got the nerve to ask her out. I had to ask 3 times before she said yes, I was a persistent AFC.

We go out for a month, I flush $200+ down the toilet. After 10 dates, getting absolutely no play, I know something is totally wrong. I break it off even though I "think I love her."

Here's the kicker, 2 weeks later I go to her, and ask for her to take me back. I even proclaim that if she wants to date for a full 4 years (no play implied) that I will do it. Thank god she said no, lol. Worst moment ever.

Well, I searched for the cure to a broken heart and was brought to an ASF post proclaiming "GFTOW." Needless to say, I was intrigued.

 

[willo]

Her name was Kate,
I met her through some friends while out, walked up to her and started chatting (because she was a friends friend i would have never talked to random people). We flirted heavily, then i found out she had a boyfriend so i got pissed off and stopped chatting to her that night (probably appeared like i wasn't desperate haha). Next time i see her she's just broke up with her BF i say hi but nothing more (i hate chicks when they have issues). So next time i see her i'm like this is my time go for it baby.

She walked into the party and got annoyed because i didn't say hi to her straight away (bloody hell huh issues!!) So like an AFC i say srry but then continue to say the party is not for her so i had to socialise to other people haha. Anyway we start chatting (i'm smashed by this stage) she asks me something about another girl at the party "Do you want to go out with Alex" i say "No, I'm not attracted to Alex, I want to go out with you". She them flakes and runs off and i'm so drunk i can't remember what i said so i continue to have fun.

N E way she rang we start going out, she falls in love with me so then i do as well. I lose all mystery, become a babbling fool and keep saying i love you. Close to the end she says "i said i'm falling in love with you not in love" Danger Will Robinson! a week later it's off. I tell her i don't want to see her for a while so i can get over her. Geeze never again.
Cheers people

 

[sql]

her name was d. hb8. total afc when i met her. went out with her for like a week. got dumped coz im sure i smothered her with attention. im so embarassed. ignored her till i recovered my dignity. meanwhile, i stumbled on this site, and saw all of everything i did in a differenct perscpective.

the biggest lesson i learned was to make the change from within - to respect me, change me, to better me, and let everything else just slide.

cheers

 

[Thoroughbred]

I think Real Man's girlfriend's name was Rosy Palms.

 

[PRMoon]

My freshman year of college. I had just moved from Maryland to Hawaii for my freshman year at Hawaii Pacific University. When i got to college I thought it was gonna be an easy ride and I'd be able to score chics left and right and I'd be able to handle it like an allstar pro. I had met some people (mostly girls) who were also from Maryland (or Penn, Delaware, Virgina, East coast area what have you) and just started getting drunk and hookin up. Then one night with these two chicks from ole MD, were both drunk and on my bed and I totally and I meanTOTALLY botched the whole deal. At that point I reallized I had no Idea what I was doing and knew I had to get some actual skills, not just advice but getting the mentality, the confidence, the sight, the look, the move and everything else that comes from being a D J. From then on I knew I had to rebuild.

It just happened that I came across the Site but the principles and philosophies hold true all the same. You're either with it or you're not...

"Mine are the thoughts of absolution"

-Alexander

 

[squirrels]

Her name is Shelby.

I was about to go into it, but I just realized that I don't wanna...it just brings me down.

I'm far from done with her...whether she's done with me is another story. It was just a completely missed opportunity, but I've hung on by a thread, and now I'm trying to climb back up that thread. But she's hardly my "only" at this point.

Women are weird...I'm still learning lessons about "faith".

 

[Craig Reeves]

Interesting...

I was a senior in high school. I ended up, by divine luck, dating who was know to be THE most beautiful girl in our school. I mean, this girl was an outright 10 and she knew it! In fact, she was such a 10 that teachers started to make FUN of the fact that so many guys hit on her day. Not only that, but Playboy has also been interested in her at some point in time.

Anyway, I ended up dating her (this proved that there really IS a God). It was probably the worst experience I had ever had. By the end of the year, I was heartbroken because she said, "You know, you're really sweet, but I just want to be friends, this is a little too much for me."

By the end of the year, we weren't really close at all. Just minor associates.

I was crushed and felt like I had no where else to go. So I decided to go through a complete overhaul on my entire dating persona. Ever since then, through a lot of trial and error, I am who I am today! Of course, I still have a lot to learn, as we all do.

Thank you.......than you very much!

 

[Wong Fei Hung]

I met her 8 months ago. She and me had lots of sparks. We were doing lots of stuff. She had this fantasy about us riding horses through a berry field, and down a beach in Vermont. She was coming on strong with her emotions.

As soon as I gave her a picture of me, she sent it to her parents and siblings in MASS, the state. She stopped talking and gave up on me. She at least could call. She was a coward so she sent me an email.

At the time I didnt get it. I found out her parents are huge bigots. They disliked their daughter dating a Chinese. That was it!


Her name is Samara!

Right now, I am seeing 4 young ladies and one more just emailed me showing interests. For some crazy reason, there this one lady who I dream almost everynight about. I think I am suffering from ONEITIS.

 

[Ser_i]

ghe ghe

Marcella is her name,

Actualy to be honoust I was allready on the Don Juan path but didn't know it, I've been with more women/girls then most others will say between their 14th and 18th ages. My longest relationship back then was 7 weeks and I ended that one cause I got bored... anyway I met this girl randomly she went to the same school I went to but I didn't know that. Something that started out as a random make out session turned into a relationship which turned into a lot of things I did for the first time with a girl, (no lost my virginity when I was 15) I mean first things as in with meaning and a very strong feeling of connection.. which later turned into being infatuated with her which turned into raising her to the sky while not realising I was not holding myself up high so I kind of took every **** she threw at me till towards the 15th month of our relationship, she broke up with me cause she got tired of me, that's what she said.. don't feel anything for you anymore. lol I didn't call her that day, just said okay if that is what you want the next day to her. 2 hours later she called me up in tears, and begged me to come over and thats the single mistake I made in my relationship with her. I went over to her place and she SERIOUSLY! locked me up in her room with her. She begged and cried and tried to hold me all the time which eventualy made me give in. She had the ****ing door locked and the windows were locked from the outside. so we started again ,2 months later she came scary cold and hot like night and day so eventualy things started to cool down again for her and I found her questioning my habbits and my views towards the future over and over again so I snapped over somethign funny as "who's gonna cook dinner when we start living together" she was bloody serious I was not in the mood to be serious tired and all after a very bussy week. so I snapped and lost my temper and pointed out everything which was wrong in my opinion and why she was being abusive of me lately. so I practicaly yelled at her for an hour straight... then left her without saying a word of goodbye,,

everything looked okay till I sa her making out with another guy the next weekend and I lost all my control snapped had to be dragged out by the security guys... had to be hold back by my friends for the next month, meh.. that's when I found sosuave.com and just realised how I had lost my game..

and I'm happy to report now,

I've slept with more women after my one-itis then I had met women during my relationship with her

DJ to the Bone

-edit.. oeh forgot to add how i'm now... well after my RAMPAGE with randome women I'm back in a somewhat serious relationship but just looking how it goes

 

[Lone_raider]

Well I'd been visiting another relationship site since my Junior year of high school (now a Junior in college) when I was the worst AFC ever. It offered no real help, half the members are women and they often gave horrible women's advice that didn't work! The rest of the postings were usually people who already had girlfriends/boyfriends and wanted to sort out relationship problems. So I would go there, read the forums and get depressed that I didn't have a girlfriend lol. Anyway to get to the point, soon after I found that site, I stumbled into a girl that actually showed interest in me at school and I screwed it up bad! After 1 week of knowing her I had marriage plans in my head, pretty sad now that I look back lol. And then there were a few other girls whom I managed to scare off after a few weeks worth of dating or less. I then became frustrated I couldn't keep a girl and became more desperate to get one.

So my Freshman year of college came up and the first semester I got nothing due to trying to hard, 2nd semester I found a girl that really showed interest, Mindy was her name. Of course I waited till the last day of class to get her number, then when I called her I fumbled around saying, hey let's kinda maybe do something, on whenever you have a day off. Thus showing my total incapability to make any kind of decision at the time lol. So she came up with a day and then totally blew me off on the suppossed day of the date. Well, I then flew into a blind rage. Not that this girl was the first to do this, but she was the last of dozens, and I had finally snapped. I became angry at all women and swore them off forever.

Strangely, I soon learned that I gained more confidence around women because I no longer cared, and then I seemed to have more women starting up convo's with me at school I think because of my non caring attitude. I had "killed that desperation" as Pook so put it. But I didn't yet know why. My old Relationship forum didn't cut it, so I looked and found this one somehow. Read the Bible and saw the truth for the first time of my life. Things have never been the same since. This last year I have pulled off a bunch of dates, and what looks like now to be a 2 month STR with LTR possibility.

So I'm actually thankful for Mindy two years ago, because if she hadn't blown me off I wouldn't have snapped like I did, and I would have never come here