"The Problem Is Me" Issues...

[PentatonicScales]

Hello

i need an opinion of you guys out there.. i met a girl about 1 month ago and she was 7.5..i can easily say that she is really in to me.. then i began to use ****y and funny on her..things really get in path that i want..after 15 days later..i told her that " i like you " she told me "i want to be with you. but i cant... the problem is not you.. the problem is me.." then i said her " we can deal the problems together " then we began dating..but we were both on holiday and we began dating while we were away..everything was going alright till the holiday is over..we came to school and we started to hang out..after 2 days... she message me that " when i am with you everything is great..but when i go back home...i dont feel right. i cant get used to you " then we broke up... i am so confused...bytheway i was her second lover... this means we can say that she is inexperienced..and she keeps telling me that..." i cant find a better guy than you... you are great "

This girl is now trying to make indirect meetings. last week she try to make 3 meetings. she had a job talk and she wanted me to come with her. she wanted me to come their classes and she wanted me to repair her laptop. when we are together i see that nothing wrong with her computer and stuff. and when we are together she asks strange questions like " like what would you do in this situation if you are my boyfriend ?" i made a trick to her. while she is looking to my notebook i pulled the notebook and take a sheet from it and put it in my pocket. she asked what is that... is it special.. is it about me.. and she even try to make deals like if you show me the paper, i ll tell you the boy who call me. things are getting confusing.

we are not talking as much as before..but i can still feel that she likes me...on msn she opens conversation window to me but writes nothing(there are programs outthere telling who opened a conversation window to you)

what should i do...and whats this girls problem...any idea?

Thanks Alot..

 

[Panda 2000]

Her saying stuff like "It's not you, it's me" indicates a lack of interests, so she tries to wiggle her way out of it without hurting your feelings. It might be that but it might really be her, but in any way, why should you care?

 

[Cremasta]

" i cant find a better guy than you... you are great "

Whenever a girl either directly, or indirectly says you are too good for her... believe it, it's true.

She sounds very inexperienced, so you can either show her what a mature relationship is about (if you like her that much), or you can decide she's not worth the effort and walk. Make no mistake, she is going to be a lot of effort.

Good luck

 

[Redux]

Whenever a girl either directly, or indirectly says you are too good for her... believe it, it's true.

She sounds very inexperienced, so you can either show her what a mature relationship is about (if you like her that much), or you can decide she's not worth the effort and walk. Make no mistake, she is going to be a lot of effort.

Good luck

Great advice.
How sure are you on the first phrase?

 

[Riffmaster26]

ahh, the infamous "it's not you, it's me". From experience, I'd agree with some of the people above, she probably lost interest for whatever reason and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. You probably didn't do anything wrong, girls are just weird like that. If you really like this girl though, don't lose contact but definately pursue other women in the event you're dealing with a lost cause.

 

[djbr]

this means we can say that she is inexperienced..and she keeps telling me that..." i cant find a better guy than you... you are great "

That is bullsh1t.

This girl is now trying to make indirect meetings. last week she try to make 3 meetings. she had a job talk and she wanted me to come with her. she wanted me to come their classes and she wanted me to repair her laptop. when we are together i see that nothing wrong with her computer and stuff. and when we are together she asks strange questions like " like what would you do in this situation if you are my boyfriend ?" i made a trick to her. while she is looking to my notebook i pulled the notebook and take a sheet from it and put it in my pocket. she asked what is that... is it special.. is it about me.. and she even try to make deals like if you show me the paper, i ll tell you the boy who call me. things are getting confusing.

Things are not getting confusing, it's just the answer that you do not like that much.

we are not talking as much as before..but i can still feel that she likes me...on msn she opens conversation window to me but writes nothing(there are programs outthere telling who opened a conversation window to you)

Oh god, MSN.

what should i do...and whats this girls problem...any idea?

Thanks Alot..

Look, if this girl wanted you she would not let you even entertain the idea of her leaving. She would not take that risk.

Bring in da competition.

 

[Georgey]

hey man i had a similar relation with a girl. i dumbed her when she was falling for my best friend. after a year she dumbed him and tried to get me back like no other girl would have done, she still thinks im the perfect guy, the on e she dreams of, but unfortunately i dont like her anymore.
anyway, i just wanted to say that she really likes u man, but believe me or not she has mental problems, maybe double personality too. i know it hurts to hear such talk, but i really heard and had loads of stuff going on with her like in ur case.. i had her as my gf for the holiday only. believe me there will come a time when u wont like her anymore because im sure she's not that fun and is usually sad (i could see that iin her words "u r perfect but the problem is me"). since when someone is a problem, did she tell u what the problem that SHE is?? that shows lack of confidence inside herself to herself (opening the conversation window and not talking). man just go outside look for a perfect 9.5 and get her, thats for u best!
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btw, can u message me the name of that program that shows who opened a convesation?

 

[penkitten]

friends had an episode once where the chicks sat around discussing it.
its not you its me = its you, its you, its really really you!!

 

[Cremasta]

How sure are you on the first phrase?

9 out of 10 times it will be right... but when a girl's friends tell you are too good for her... 10 out of 10.