The Pre-emptive breakup?

[bigneil]

So you take a hot girl on say the 10th date and spend the night together. Things have been going great from day 1 but it's non-exclusive. The next day she holds your hand on the ride home. You kiss goodbye.

But unlike her usual self, this time she doesn't text you later. She has a planned vacation so you chill but then you realize two weeks have passed.

But you are brave and you don't text at all. You stay busy, you meet new women, but do you just stay NC in this situation? Or could she be thinking the same thing?

 

[Packers2010]

if it was me. ( now i am a noobie at this so take it as you will)

i would text her just to "test the waters". see where her IL is. but from what you have told me it sounds like she just lost interest in you man. it happens.

good on you for being busy and meeting new women.

 

[MM92]

lol is this the stripper

 

[Jariel]

You did the right thing by going NC when you felt a change in her interest. It's wise to trust your instincts in these situations.

However, it wouldn't hurt to drop her a quick text now that 2 weeks has gone by. Just ask if she fancies meeting up in the week. If she doesn't accept or shows hesitation, then go back to no contact and move on.

I've lost out on too many situations the past year due to being stubborn. I went NC with girls and they went NC with me, both thinking the other had lost interest. I was quite surprised when some of the girls I nexted eventually told me they really liked me and couldn't understand why I started ignoring them. Turned out we were both just trying to protect our egos.

 

[bigneil]

The worst part is, I thought for sure that 10 days of NC would be enough to restore her IL if it did indeed go down. There was really no warning. The last 3 dates we spent the night together and she was begging for sex last time I saw her.

And yes, this is the stripper. For those who said she wasn't really mine to begin with, I sure miss the days when she wanted to see me every Saturday. What was that trick I used again?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

To all the players here: You got to let women choose you. There is no advantage of you texting her. If she is going to hook up with other guys she will do it regardless. No matter if you text or not. If you don't text it will definitely make her think about you way more. So what you need to do is focus on other things (business and other woman) and let her have her fun on vacation. If she hits you up, cool, if not then cool too. She's probably doing her thing anyway.

 

[bigneil]

Maybe cordoncordon was right when he said it would end sooner rather than later. The nice part is, because she's so young, I just can't take her seriously enough to really care the way I normally would.

And though I may never hear from her again, I must stay NC.

 

[EvilAgenda]

Yes, NC all da way. Hahaha, I just had a thought. For all of our don juan ways, we are still so AFC. Our solution to 90% of the things is NC.

Weird though that she just disappeared on you. Usually girls need closure. In any case, yup, NC and living it up.