SargeMaximus
Master Don Juan
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Walking away is my default. I’m alone most of the time but the alternative is far worse. I only want what I want not some compromise
Life really isn't that bad alone, especially when you see all these miserable men in LTR's with women who clearly have no respect for them.Walking away is my default. I’m alone most of the time but the alternative is far worse. I only want what I want not some compromise
Lol yeah your right it is literally playing the same game as women, i just realized this recently. I do this alot now in my earlier interactions with women.Yeah I don't like the idea of this 'walking away' in small steps stuff. So the person isn't actually walking away - they are just playing game like women do. After a while the women realize the whole thing is bs and won't take the person seriously. When I walk away it is a clean break - there is no contact, no coming back around. It has worked out for me before, quite a bit, where the woman will reach out again at some point. It gives you a slight upper hand but you have to resist making the mistakes you made before --- this is more applicable when you are inexperienced. I don't get really get into these situations now but that is because through trial and error I eventually figured out what to do.
True. You walk away because you don't want to waste your time. You have to get to the point where it bothers you that women come back when you ignore them... rather than hoping they do start chasing you.Yup...the funny thing is by walking away there are times a woman will start to chase you...but you shouldn't do it hoping this happens, rather that you are showing you have self-respect and will only operate on your terms.
It is MUCH better to be alone than to be shackled to a chick that really doesn't want you.Life really isn't that bad alone, especially when you see all these miserable men in LTR's with women who clearly have no respect for them.
You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
True. Agree with your 'disagree.'Disagree. Even without other girls at the ready, a man who walks away from a negative situation still has his integrity and peace of mind intact. What could be more meaningful?
Let's not complicate things here.Power to walk away means nothing unless you have options. Only chads and chadlites have a meaningful power to walk away.
Yup thisA friendzone guy is a “half boyfriend.” She keeps him around for attention and emotional support while she’s either fully single or just hooking up with a bad boy.
Once she finds a suitable boyfriend (who is a decent dude), she will largely disappear on the friendzone guy. The decent full boyfriend provides both sex and attention, so the friendzone guy is handed his pink slip because his attention services are no longer needed.
Should the friendzone guy eject long before that happens? Yes absolutely. But I’ll just note that he’s actually on borrowed time to begin with.
You don't play someone else's game and women are the masters when it comes to head games. I've always likened it to a great boxer fighting a good mixed martial artist under mma rules. Yes, the boxer has superior punching ability but it means little when the mixed martial artist goes straight for a take down and pummels the boxer into submission.True. You walk away because you don't want to waste your time. You have to get to the point where it bothers you that women come back when you ignore them... rather than hoping they do start chasing you.
I blame PUAs and relationship coaches for this bull cr@p, they teach this as a way for men to get women that don't want them. Really men should not play the emotional manipulation games, and if you are doing this the truth is most of the time the woman knows you are doing this. This sort of thing is what women are REALLY good at and you are playing HER game by her rules.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
How do you know it bothered her? What did she say or do?I mentioned i had been on a date with someone n it bothered her to ****.
ThisDisagree. Even without other girls at the ready, a man who walks away from a negative situation still has his integrity and peace of mind intact. What could be more meaningful?
Said 'fuming' when i said i'm going out with someone again n when i asked why she said i don't know. Kept asking over n over who she was, where i am taking her etc.How do you know it bothered her? What did she say or do?
I’m not doubting this at all, but just curious how she reacted.
Women only believe some guys smv is lower than theirs but most of the time they’re wrong. Both times I’ve been Friendzoned I ALWAYS ended up dating a better looking girl. Only one of the girls got to see firsthand, wish I could have rubbed in the other girls face but I never got the chance. Sometimes you don’t always have the opportunity to build up her attraction over a 2-4 day span, sometimes you have to ask her out the very first time you ever meet her. If she determines that makes your smv lower than hers oh well.For younger guys it maybe important to walk away for good, this is because you are in a situation where your percieved (or agreed) smv is below hers. Basically this friendzone situation is where your interaction with her are on the assumption that your smv is below hers.
Being able to walk away for good is important if you are in that situation.
For more experienced men, you never enter or remain in the situation where your percieved or assumed smv is lower than the womans.
I approached a 5'11 blonde 9 and got her IL super high. Now have her number and she is being nice. I approached her directly after her IL level was raised up. Chick was working on a drinks stall next to me. Went to get drink and had an interaction, nothing much as I didnt notice her just went a got a drink. Next day went to get another drink still not noticing the chick just thinking of the drink, have some more banter and exchange, 5th day went back and got another drink, this time something weird happens in our banter and there is a subtle connection. Next day I notice her looking at me intently but I pretend not to notice, now she really likes me. I go over to her stall and she gets nervous and asks if I want a hotchocolate, I said No I just came to say Hi, we make some quick talk for 3mins but were both a bit nervous. I continue the interactions for a few days (delaying, buying time, games, whatever) before getting the number. The job ends soon after and now I have her number and maybe organise a date.
But I only moved after I saw that she was more interested in me and was kinda getting in feelings. Going over to her validates her interest in me, whereas if I had made a move on 1st or 2nd interaction without seeing interest from her, it would create the idea that my smv is lower than hers.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.