samspade said:
I think if someone handed YOU a loaded gun, you'd shoot yourself in the head.
And even if it were worth it to be playing these games, "pretending" to be an AFC is not exactly going to make the Revenge Plot Hall of Fame. How will you (as you say) acting like an AFC bring her crawling back, when she will still interpret your behavior as authentic AFC (which, either way, it is)?
Believe me, in the past I've been "wronged" (read: dumped) by women and thought I could get the best of them through living well AND going out of my way to advertise it. And while on some level an ex may have gotten jealous that I moved on and found some new arm candy, I certainly never received any independent confirmation of this. In the end, this kind of thirst for revenge screws up your game, prolongs your own recovery, and it also makes a pawn out of any new girl who you might otherwise consider a better option.
I acted AFC as hell last night, told her I love her, all that crap. She even lied and tried to play me telling me she "feels all warm and fuzzy inside"... This girl is such a joke. She cares about nobody but herself and she just plays men and lies through her teeth 90% of what comes out of her mouth. It's a lifestyle for these types of women. They will never change.
So now I am done playing AFC and am going to go no contact and see if she starts calling. I think she bought my AFC act. She will be like "WTF" when I drop off the planet now. Maybe she will wonder if I'm dead and stalk me.
Rollo Tomassi said:
You're acting like a child. This is the "how can I get back at her" response, and while it may seem satisfying to 'teach her a lesson' trust that this lesson will never be taught by revenge, no matter how justified or deserving she is.
"There's not a lot of money in revenge" - Inigo Montoya
Indifference speaks volumes. The very act of considering her for revenge means you care and she wins. The opposite of love is not hate; the opposite of love is indifference.
It's part of the human condition to desire what we think is justice. It's our nature to make comparissons, and in the instance of inequality, to see them corrected. And although we rarely consider the ultimate consequences of our actions, this isn't the reason we should temper a desire for vengence. The thing we ought to consider is the overall efforts and resources necessary in order to exact revenge and weigh them against the things we might achieve for our own betterment by redirecting them to our own purposes. Even the efforts required for a slight revenge are better spent with concerns of our own. Even the time and mental effort needed to consider some appropriate way of making her aware of how she made you feel are resources better spent on meeting new prospective women who will reciprocate your interest.
This might seem like a longwinded way of saying "Living well is the best revenge", and to a degree I think that's true, but beware the 'Well-lived' life spent in pursuit of revenge. Revenge should never be the motivation for success.
This isn't "revenge", I just had a few drinks last night and was having some fun. I'm finished with it now. I sent her a few AFC texts saying I love her, big deal. It's not anything huge. She probably gets them all the time from guys she is playing.
The way this girl knows how to play men, I bet she has at least 3 true AFC's hounding her all the time claiming they love her, begging for her to date them. I never even found out how many d!cks she's juggling... I don't think I wanna know.
If I didn't know the game so well by reading the forums, who knows what this girl could have made me do? I could be ring shopping right now but I knew what she is about after a few dates.
In the SMALL SMALL chance that this girl actually cares about me, and really does feel fuzzy inside because I told her I love her, then this could be considered revenge. But I don't see this at all.. I'm just another man with a wallet to this ho.
