bigneil said:
Note the "are you single" line comes from David D'Angelo originally.
Asking a girl if she is single (once you are already talking to them) is just a way to show that you are interested and boil it down to a yes/no question for them.
+1 rep Bigneil,I agree with you.
I don't think asking "are you single" ITSELF is a problem,it's just
WHEN YOU ASK IT that may help or hurt your chances with a girl.
If used as an opener,it would probably make you come off as being needy,but the way Bigneil suggests doing it,which is weaving it into a conversation that has ALREADY BEEN GOING FOR A WHILE,I don't see the harm in that.
It just makes it seem like after talking to a girl for a while,something about the convo impressed you,and
then you decided to show interest by asking about her status.
He said that has had repeated success using it,so I don't see the problem in him sharing something that has been a great help to him.
bigneil said:
Do you really think they would lose interest based on that?
I don't. Not the way you suggest it be woven in at some point in a conversation.
bigneil said:
My bad for calling it a Pickup Line - not sure what the correct terminology is.
Agreed.
I remember one time I used a so-called "pickup line" on a girl a long time ago.
After I said it,she smiled and went,"Wow,you have some good lines". The second she said that,I knew it was over. I knew I had screwed up.
Me using a line and her telling me I had some good lines is like someone telling a joke to someone,then them replying,"That's funny".
If a joke is funny,you don't say,"that's funny". If the joke is funny,you just laugh.
She told me I had some good lines,but if a PICKUP line was TRUELY GOOD,she wouldn't have said that,it just would have PICKED HER UP.
bigneil said:
This line worked for me yesterday when a girl approached me at the beach and said she "liked the view, and didn't mean the ocean". I said "are you single?" and she said yes.
Woah...hold up a second here Bigneil. Here in this case,the "are you single" line DID NOT work because she was ALREADY INTERESTED.
She approached
you. In fact,
she used a line on
you. Your "are you single" line was simply RECIPROCATING the interest she showed FIRST.
The whole purpose of ANY TYPE OF LINE is to generate interest,not reciprocate it.
It also worked for my previous relationship - she was with a guy but said he's just a friend. I asked "Are you single?" Yes. Got her email. GF before that - at the pool, said she was married for a few years. "Are you single?" "Oh yeah...". Walked her home. Just about every relationship I've had in the past few years, that line was the key transition point, but not until I already read their body language and already thought they were interested.
The part I put in bold is the key.
You said that you waited until
"I already read their body language and already thought they were interested". You didn't just say the "are you single" thing out of the blue,you waited until you thought there was interest on the girl's part,then said it.
That's the right thing to do.