There is no one generic route to become a DJ and there are no generic techniques or actions to become popular with women or maintaining a girlfriend. C+F, neghits, kino, alpha behaviour, cold approaches or even confidence are not solutions to everybody’s problem. We are individuals with our own strengths and weaknesses. Attraction is natural, yet it’s these weaknesses/misunderstandings that cause guys to fail with women, and only you can identify your shortcomings and take action against them. Guys who fail with women have certain flaws in their personality or appearance, yet instead of trying to fix these flaws, many waste their time with generic advice, trying to improve on areas that don’t need improving and neglecting those that do. If it’s not broken, don’t try to fix it, as the saying goes. The first thing a failure should do is work out why he is failing, and then work on his personal solution.
Seduction gurus try to teach C+F, neghits, cold approaching and other gimmicks, but this is all aimed at a generic audience, based on statistics and market research. Unless someone knows your specific problems with women, they can’t know the specific solution, and here’s where a lot of guys go wrong. For example:
If you are rejected by women because of bad hygiene, how is C+F going to help? Take a bath, buy some cologne, tidy yourself up.
If you are a puny weakling, your attempts to play the role of alpha male (outside a Trekkie convention or a playschool) aren’t going to convince anyone. Hit the gym, gain some confidence and earn the alpha status.
If you’re too desperate, dedicating all your time and energy to cold approaching is not your solution. You need to get a life and interests of your own and become less dependent on women for happiness.
If you are perceived as a lech, sleazy and make women feel uneasy, then turning up the kino and flirting is sure to harm your reputation further. Learn to play cool and show some class.
If you are a “nice guy” who befriends women with ulterior intents, then learning manipulation techniques will only multiply your problems with women. Learn to flirt, express your sexuality and make your intents clear from the outset.
If you are shy or insecure, you will not be able to handle cold approaching and being rejected by strangers is sure to damage your self-esteem further. Spend more time in social settings, practise conversations and get used to talking to people in pressure-free scenarios.
Some guys intimidate women with their good looks, charisma, intelligence, money and/or popularity. Seduction artists are all about teaching arrogance and selfishness, yet a guy like this would benefit more from practising modesty and a little self-deprecating humour.
Many guys just have bad attitudes and are generally annoying. Adding ****yness and neghits to their repetoire makes them even more obnoxious and intolerable, while some charisma and maturity would serve them well.
Then there are fat guys who focus on mastering pick up techniques, yet continue to be rejected because they’re fat. For these guys, diet and exercise is in order.
These are just some examples where generic seduction advice not only fails, but amplifies your reason for failure. What you also have to bear in mind is that seduction gurus offer a lot of false hope, myths and brainwashing (afterall, they’re selling a product). This can lead to self-delusion and false pride and leave guys blind to their faults.
Seduction gurus try to teach C+F, neghits, cold approaching and other gimmicks, but this is all aimed at a generic audience, based on statistics and market research. Unless someone knows your specific problems with women, they can’t know the specific solution, and here’s where a lot of guys go wrong. For example:
If you are rejected by women because of bad hygiene, how is C+F going to help? Take a bath, buy some cologne, tidy yourself up.
If you are a puny weakling, your attempts to play the role of alpha male (outside a Trekkie convention or a playschool) aren’t going to convince anyone. Hit the gym, gain some confidence and earn the alpha status.
If you’re too desperate, dedicating all your time and energy to cold approaching is not your solution. You need to get a life and interests of your own and become less dependent on women for happiness.
If you are perceived as a lech, sleazy and make women feel uneasy, then turning up the kino and flirting is sure to harm your reputation further. Learn to play cool and show some class.
If you are a “nice guy” who befriends women with ulterior intents, then learning manipulation techniques will only multiply your problems with women. Learn to flirt, express your sexuality and make your intents clear from the outset.
If you are shy or insecure, you will not be able to handle cold approaching and being rejected by strangers is sure to damage your self-esteem further. Spend more time in social settings, practise conversations and get used to talking to people in pressure-free scenarios.
Some guys intimidate women with their good looks, charisma, intelligence, money and/or popularity. Seduction artists are all about teaching arrogance and selfishness, yet a guy like this would benefit more from practising modesty and a little self-deprecating humour.
Many guys just have bad attitudes and are generally annoying. Adding ****yness and neghits to their repetoire makes them even more obnoxious and intolerable, while some charisma and maturity would serve them well.
Then there are fat guys who focus on mastering pick up techniques, yet continue to be rejected because they’re fat. For these guys, diet and exercise is in order.
These are just some examples where generic seduction advice not only fails, but amplifies your reason for failure. What you also have to bear in mind is that seduction gurus offer a lot of false hope, myths and brainwashing (afterall, they’re selling a product). This can lead to self-delusion and false pride and leave guys blind to their faults.
