Ok. I've been out drinking/partying alot lately so most of my convos and approaches has been made with alcohol in my blood. I have not been very drunk, but still..I would like to do more sober approaches instead.
Anyways, I have had more than 10 convos with girls this week, so i achived the "goal" for this week, even though it wasn't totally sober..I didn't really "hit" on any of these girls. I was just being social and treated everyone the same. I also engaged in convos with male strangers, just to increase my circle and achieve more social proof. I basically practiced on being ****y&funny, maintaining strong eyecontact and to avoid coming of as desperate or needy.
I talked to a pretty hot girl last night for a while. HB7,5. (My scale is strict, so that's pretty hot imo) I approached her and asked if she had seen where my buddies left, 'cause they were sitting on the table next to them and were gone when i came back to our table. I asked her how old she was, and she told me to guess..I said 28 just to diss her and maybe offend her a bit just for kicks
That's actually my standard-answer to when a girl asks me to guess their age. I'm entertained by their reaction
Anyway, she responded by laughing and looking a bit shocked. I said "just kidding, I think you're 20". She was 25, but she truly didn't look older than 20. We chatted for a while and she was talking alot, but the music was loud and I couldn't hear most of it
Although i pretended to. I decided to end the convo at a climax, used some kino on her back and told her i enjoyed talking to her. She said the same and I split. Didn't #close.
I went back to another table with some other friends. I sat next to 4 girls, but none of them were hot enough for me to be interested. But i wasn't gonna miss the opportunity to get some field practice, so I decided to open one of them. I waited for an opening and went in when she was about to tuck snuff under her lip (Yuck!! Disgusting) I told her Nooo!! Don't do it, please! etc etc..I told her how it was awful, especially since she was a girl. Totally unfeminin. I said that if she didn't do it i might let her make out with me later...So she put it away and we had some more convo. It wasn't very memorable and I was kinda bored, so i turned to my friends again and 5 minutes later we left for another bar.
This is where the alcohol started to take control. I was more brave and bold, but I couldn't handle and control the situations as well. My eyecontact and eyeflirting got alot better, but I couldn't keep up the interest with my convos. I sat down to talk to a girl in my school..Never seen her before, but I just crashed her table. Started flirting right away and she didn't look disinterested at first. But as i kept talking to her, my short-term memory loss kicked in and I forgot stuff we just talked about and started repeting my questions. This totally made her lose interest, and it didn't help that i gave her a hard time about her neighbourhood..I thought i recovered, and decided to try to #close. I said I was going to leave, but if she would just put in her number on my phone, I'd call her some other time and we'd hang out. She took my phone and was about to write it in, when she suddently changed her mind and gave the phone back to me. I said "Ouch" with a big smile on my face and left...First rejection so far..no biggie.
I went on to dance with female friends and just having a good time. I forgot to approach more girls.
I'm still having problems finding good openers to use for example when I'm in the bar-line and there's a hottie next to me. I say Hi and smile, but can't think of anything to say! I try to see if there is something going on around me to comment on or something like that, but I freeze up
My social proof at that place is very good. I know the bartenders, and I know tons of people who usually goes there. Doesn't seem to help my game.
I know this may sound sad, but I'm pretty good at getting girls intrigued on the net. I'm much better at flirting there and I also get nice comments on my pictures. A girl i talked to 2 days ago on the net asked for my number and she also sent me an sms the same day. I might see her tomorrow, 'cause we are both hitting the clubs. She actually lives like 5 minutes away from me. So that should be interesting. Just hope I can follow up in real life. Just hoping that my desperation doesn't shine through..lol.
Wish I had approached more girls, but I'm still a bit scared to do it. Atleast my mindset is DJ, but I'm still a rAFC...I used to have ok skills before, managed to kissclose very often. I was a total slut. But now I haven't even kissed a girl in over a month..weak! Problem is, I have no idea what I did right before. I had no plans, no game. I Just went for it. Maybe THAT's the problem now...I know I'm lazy, but I'll try and get better and approach more! When i had a gf my problem was to NOT do anything with other girls..Now i feel like i can't do it even if i try!
How are you all holding up? Any progress??