I think it's important to look at the roots of the terms "Jerk" and "Nice Guy." Lets not forget these characterizations exist because women gave them these names and classificatons based on their own common evaluations. Women defined these terms, guys simply made the association with them. We tend to see these as parodies now; abusive wife-beating Jerk or doormat Nice Guy. These are two extreme ends of the spectrum and when considering them, and particularly after candid assessments like in this video, the mistake becomes falling into a binary all-or-nothing interpretation.
"So I haffta be more of a Jerk then,..well, I'm just not like that." says the AFC frustrated that women can't just say what they mean and mean what they say, but this misses the point. The problem is that if you think of a center point between the Jerk and Nice Guy spectrum, most guys lean towards (if not half way over to) the Nice Guy. That's the "get in touch with your feminine side, believe women's words instead of actions" default for the vast majority of men. This is what women are used to because it is so common, and women only enourage it because it suits their gender's imperative best. The real extreme Jerk is as rare as the real extreme Nice Guy, so it's necessary to look at things in order of degrees in this respect. Most men opt for the nice, accommodating, supplicating side of this spectrum - for the majority, they've been conditioned to supress any masculine impulse in favor of accommodating and identifying with women's imperatives (or at least what they understand as their imperatives).
It's just this conditioning over the last 50 or so years that makes the nice side of the spectrum the default. That doesn't mean all Nice Guys are pathetic symps without a spine and groveling at the feet of any ONEitis they happen to attach themselves to. It is to say that, by comparison, because the overwhelming tendency to "go nice" is the standard, the guy who leans to the Jerk side of the spectrum becomes wildly attractive. He's attractive on two levels, the first being the rudimentary, biological level for a guy who's decisive, in control, confident and has an attitude of not caring since he realizes (to some degree) his value as a commodity that comes from his having options. The second is that the Jerk-leaning guy is a Purple Cow in a field of bland colorless Nice Cows. He's notable, and this too makes him a male worthy of female competition, which then reinforces his sense of having options. He's not an abuser, he's not a manipulator per se, but he tends to put himself before and above (if just slightly) the women who are attracted to him.
Now the irony of all this is that the AFC thinks that this situation is in reverse. He believes that Nice Guys are the anomally in a sea of Jerks. Of course he believes this because it's all his female-friends talk about; their Jerk BFs, and how Nice they are for being good listeners. So his self-image gets validated and he believes he's "not-like-other-guys" and his patience and sensitivity will eventually pay off - which it very well could once the object of his obsession has had her fun with the Bad Boy.
