Jitter,
A woman needs to be compatible with respect to her values, reasoning and short term/long term goals. I met my wife while I was rebuilding my life for a third time, and at the time, had no intentions to marry until my ship was in order. As contrary is this may appear to my statement of a man’s value (ladder theory), she knew my value not based on tangible assets, but my character. Character in the sense of – I DO WHAT I SAY I WILL and I would “WILL” success back into my life. This, in and of itself, was an admirable trait in a woman knowing in the future if I will need to rebuild a fourth time, I can maintain a respectable level of trust in her thinking.
I mentioned once in a previous thread to look at a woman’s parents and observe her upbringing. My wife has a genuine respect for the complementary gender-specific roles of a marriage due to her upbringing. She understands her position as a woman, and at the same time respects my role. Complementary gender roles cannot be negotiated. Either the understanding is inherently present or it will never be; you cannot train woman to respect your MANhood.
I waited longer than average prior to our first intimate encounter, certainly not as a result of interest level. I said a numerous amount of times, be cautious of one-nighters. There is a fine line between a woman having high interest in you, and a woman possessing values and self-respect.
In the end, our short and long term plans were congruent. There was no controversy in what it to be expected moving forward. The aforementioned appears to be a list simple enough to request for, but extremely difficult to find in one woman who also brings good looks to the table.
If you are looking for a bucket list; here it goes in appropriate sequence:
- High interest in you
- Attractive
- Upbringing (Complementary roles clearly understood)
- Self-Respect
- Congruent Goals
Samspade, great to hear brother; keep us posted!