The NC Theory Working (in real time too)?

[bigbird090]

Background: About 2 years ago I took this girl out like 3 times. I wasn't too into her, so I flaked on her until I just stopped talking to her and found a new girl who became my gf.

In January 2012, we meet up at this party where her friends tell me she still really likes me and she's looking really attractive (lost some weight, etc). I holla and we set a date for her to come over to my house. She comes a week later, but like 2 hours late and on top of that leaves like within an hour. I act rude and don't even walk her to the door. Then I apologize a couple days later and tell her I like her, but she says I'm just a friend. I ask to meet up with her in person and she ignores my last text.

Tonight, April 2012: I get a text from her "So will you ever speak to me again?"

Now I don't know what to do. I'm kind of desperate, but I still like this girl. I also don't have any other plates.

HELP ME! Should I text back? It's been almost 2 hours since she contacted me.

 

[TonyBaloney]

Hey bud - be concious with this one - first impressions count - could be that shes trying to get back at you so dont be suprised if it gets to the point of sex and she then bails - i've had that....

But yeah, i'd text back tomorrow....... Tell her you were out with a friend having a meal, "so sorry i couldnt text back" ......that will set her mind working........ if she inquires who with, just laugh and say one of my girls......

Good luck bud

 

[Chickfight]

Background: About 2 years ago I took this girl out like 3 times. I wasn't too into her, so I flaked on her until I just stopped talking to her and found a new girl who became my gf.

In January 2012, we meet up at this party where her friends tell me she still really likes me and she's looking really attractive (lost some weight, etc). I holla and we set a date for her to come over to my house. She comes a week later, but like 2 hours late and on top of that leaves like within an hour. I act rude and don't even walk her to the door. Then I apologize a couple days later and tell her I like her, but she says I'm just a friend. I ask to meet up with her in person and she ignores my last text.

Tonight, April 2012: I get a text from her "So will you ever speak to me again?"

Now I don't know what to do. I'm kind of desperate, but I still like this girl. I also don't have any other plates.

HELP ME! Should I text back? It's been almost 2 hours since she contacted me.

Haha funny, some of my friends actually gave me the nickname big bird.

Anyway, couple things you could have done better. Why apologize for being rude? She was 2 hours late. It was completely warranted. Never apologize unless you actually did something wrong. Then you tell her you LIKE her? Noonoo, never tell a girl you like her before she tells you she likes you. This will get you friendzoned almost every time. Cause it's desperate and needy.

Now she's texting you cause she most likely wants you as an orbiter. Don't fall for this trap. Being an orbiter is like being in the 8th gate of hell. Since you have nothing to lose though, I'd text back "Hmm, probably not". Her reply should make things fairly clear.

Keep me updated.

 

[bigbird090]

Haha funny, some of my friends actually gave me the nickname big bird.

Anyway, couple things you could have done better. Why apologize for being rude? She was 2 hours late. It was completely warranted. Never apologize unless you actually did something wrong. Then you tell her you LIKE her? Noonoo, never tell a girl you like her before she tells you she likes you. This will get you friendzoned almost every time. Cause it's desperate and needy.

Now she's texting you cause she most likely wants you as an orbiter. Don't fall for this trap. Being an orbiter is like being in the 8th gate of hell. Since you have nothing to lose though, I'd text back "Hmm, probably not". Her reply should make things fairly clear.

Keep me updated.

I texted her back like 3 hours after she hit me up. My text was "I wondered the same about you". No response yet...I think she might be messing with me...

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Chargfe this chick to the game. She only wants your attention since you flaked out on her back in the day. She can smell the thirstiness that you have. When she showed up 2 hours later you should have just not let her in. That was very disrespectful and as a mack in training you shouldn't allow for any disrespect to go unchecked.

Just drop this broad again and go after more chicks. This girl is just trying to get her Ego on.

 

[GhengisT]

Chargfe this chick to the game. She only wants your attention since you flaked out on her back in the day. She can smell the thirstiness that you have. When she showed up 2 hours later you should have just not let her in. That was very disrespectful and as a mack in training you shouldn't allow for any disrespect to go unchecked.

Just drop this broad again and go after more chicks. This girl is just trying to get her Ego on.

^^^^ Word!

 

[Chickfight]

I texted her back like 3 hours after she hit me up. My text was "I wondered the same about you". No response yet...I think she might be messing with me...

That's a pretty lame response, but whatever. AJ is right, ditch the hoe. If she contacts you, ignore or send her a cold non supplicating response. Focus your energy elsewhere.

 

[Zarky]

Once a girl sees you at your worst it's game over for you with her, forever. When you let her be a b*tch to you and then you apologize and tell her you like her??

WTF???

Young girls like extreme as*hole behavior. When they're 16-20 you have to be a complete and utter d*ck to them. You can't let up and you can never show a soft side.

 

[SoldMySoul]

Once a girl sees you at your worst it's game over for you with her, forever. When you let her be a b*tch to you and then you apologize and tell her you like her??

WTF???

Young girls like extreme as*hole behavior. When they're 16-20 you have to be a complete and utter d*ck to them. You can't let up and you can never show a soft side.

:kick: Been there and very true. You have NO hopes of turning things around once they have seen you at your worst.

 

[ArcBound]

Background: About 2 years ago I took this girl out like 3 times. I wasn't too into her, so I flaked on her until I just stopped talking to her and found a new girl who became my gf.

In January 2012, we meet up at this party where her friends tell me she still really likes me and she's looking really attractive (lost some weight, etc). I holla and we set a date for her to come over to my house. She comes a week later, but like 2 hours late and on top of that leaves like within an hour. I act rude and don't even walk her to the door. Then I apologize a couple days later and tell her I like her, but she says I'm just a friend. I ask to meet up with her in person and she ignores my last text.

Tonight, April 2012: I get a text from her "So will you ever speak to me again?"

Now I don't know what to do. I'm kind of desperate, but I still like this girl. I also don't have any other plates.

HELP ME! Should I text back? It's been almost 2 hours since she contacted me.

So a girl sent you one text in April when she ignored you since January, and you think no contact is working (in real time). OK.

1) NC is only supposed to help you get over her, not help you win her. Very rarely does the latter happen.
2) She NC'd YOU. Not the other way around. And it's clear that it had you hooked on how quick you jumped on a text 3 months later.

Never enter a woman's frame. She's trying to be serious and pin this all on you. You should have sent a light hearted response or a joke. You texted "I was wondering the same about you" after which she confirmed you are still a chump and will proceed to never text you again.

I can tell you are not spinning plates or looking at other women. If you were, you wouldn't jump on this woman who makes you wait 3 months for a text and when it comes, it insults you. Respect yourself and next time don't dignify a woman who insults you with genuine responses.