I know the boat a lot of you are in. You get shut down for one reason or another, and you think "What did I do wrong?" or "Why am I not good enough?" Macho keyboard jockeying aside, I think we can all admit to being there at one point.
I'm coaching a buddy of mine. He used to be a total AFC, just like I was. He's doing much better now. However, one thing he needs to improve is that every step along the way, he is analyzing what he does. On one hand, this is great. Honest self-analysis the only way you're going to learn from the past. But on the other hand, it can really hinder your ability to move on after a ho says "no."
First of all, as mentioned in several other threads, you have no idea what is going on in her life right now. Her parents could have just died in a car accident, she may have a great man, or a million other scenarios could exist where she will brush you off - and these scenarios have nothing to do with your quality as a man.
Also, she may have just shown you that she is a shi**y catch. My attitude is, "Oh? You're a b*tch? Thanks for letting me know so I didn't waste any more time with you. I can move on to other friendlier women." The same thing applies to flakey women, dishonest women, etc.
Lastly, she has shown she is not good at judging character. This has nothing to do with you. A fool can throw away a diamond, thinking it to be a useless stone. That doesn't make the diamond any less of a diamond. She has just shown you that she is a fool. Move on.
It doesn't matter how much of a pimp you are - you will get shot down plenty. Thank them for not wasting any more of your time and move on.
I'm coaching a buddy of mine. He used to be a total AFC, just like I was. He's doing much better now. However, one thing he needs to improve is that every step along the way, he is analyzing what he does. On one hand, this is great. Honest self-analysis the only way you're going to learn from the past. But on the other hand, it can really hinder your ability to move on after a ho says "no."
First of all, as mentioned in several other threads, you have no idea what is going on in her life right now. Her parents could have just died in a car accident, she may have a great man, or a million other scenarios could exist where she will brush you off - and these scenarios have nothing to do with your quality as a man.
Also, she may have just shown you that she is a shi**y catch. My attitude is, "Oh? You're a b*tch? Thanks for letting me know so I didn't waste any more time with you. I can move on to other friendlier women." The same thing applies to flakey women, dishonest women, etc.
Lastly, she has shown she is not good at judging character. This has nothing to do with you. A fool can throw away a diamond, thinking it to be a useless stone. That doesn't make the diamond any less of a diamond. She has just shown you that she is a fool. Move on.
It doesn't matter how much of a pimp you are - you will get shot down plenty. Thank them for not wasting any more of your time and move on.
