looking for some insight on the truth as to approach mentality. I have long operated under the understanding that you must employ humour, playful negging, intriguing and otherwise demonstrate a strong desirable couldn't careless attitude. however after reading 60 years of challenge method recently it suggests something contrary. It says get in straight away with an intensity that makes no bones about making your intention obvious if unspoken. it says avoid using humour and negs and all that routine as it just causes a sense of comfort that only serves to slowly diminish the visceral sexual tension.
Am hugely confused. if you approach and its openly obvious what you want isn't that simply as good as saying "im yours if you want me"? this goes against my whole understanding that you should be having her qualify herself to you like you're the more valuable asset and she should be unsure as to whether she could attain you. also what the hell is your demeanour if you dispense with the humour and playful sarcasm and ****iness? Any experienced guys input and insight into this appreciated, to which I imagine I will have further questions...….
This is mostly going to be about NightLife "Game"
Your approach is a reflection of how you perceive yourself IMO. If you are getting ready to go out and looking in the mirror you think to yourself, "Look at that lean muscular physique" and "That face has received a numerous amounts of complements". Then your mentality is already on the "I can pick up Women no problem because I know they think im hot". You have no reason to not be direct. If you perceive yourself as a scrawny, boyish looking average guy who hasn't received much complements, Then right off the bat you are starting in a negative mental state.
Me personally, I believe direct game is not only the best way but the Manly way. Forget all this "negs", The "subtle" approaches and/or push pull "techniques" and be a Man and go get it done. My example of a direct approach, based on my experience and how I've done it when i was sleeping with many Women, Hanging out with friends at a bar/lounge and while having a drink if i see a Chick i like, Im approaching by letting her know what's on my mind. I'll give you some examples of my Direct approaches...
•"Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you but I couldn't stop checking you out" - Offer for her to come with you to the bar and get a drink.
•"Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you but You are fvcking gorgeous" - Offer for her to come with you to the bar and get a drink.
•"Excuse me, You look sexy as hell in that dress" - Offer for her to come with you to the bar and get a drink.
•"Excuse me, I saw when you walked in earlier and I had to come talk to you :Smirk:" - Offer for her to come with you to the bar and get a drink.
-While your getting a drink with her, joke around a little bit about how hot you think she is- grab her hand and slowly twirl her around and say "look at this!, incredible!", They LOVE flattery but at the same time you are expressing
sexual interest and this is to be used at a bar/lounge/club when they are actually dressed up.
Keep in mind that these aren't "lines", These are true statements of what i thought of the girl and I verbally expressed them. I have been "tested" by chicks responding with, oh is that your pickup line? I tell them No, Its what i was thinking when I first saw you. The crucial point in this is your delivery of HOW to say these things. Now, I wont bullsh!t you and tell you it's an easy thing to do but once you master your delivery, You'll do well. First and foremost, You need to make sure you are looking good, smelling good, haircut is tight and your clothes fit you well. I can't tell you to "just be confident" because that has to come from within you. Where does my confidence come from? Well I have a lean muscular physique that I worked hard on and yes many women have called me gorgeous, Hot as fvck, Very handsome etc and these comments sit in my subconscious mind but I won't go into that or else this will get hijacked into a full blown looks matter thread.
When you say these things to Women, Make sure you tell them in their ear and this is where smelling good comes in, the closer you get for her to smell you, the better and gives you a reason to get close. Sometimes you genuinely need to get close because the music is a bit loud but either way, try to get close to her so she can smell you and make sure you test out what smells good on you and stick with it. (Quick story, A few times I've had Women follow me around a bar until they nailed down who exactly that scent was coming from lol) They love it!!
Don't be afraid to approach Women in a direct way because Women are just as nasty and freaky as Men, if not MORE in my experience. You see that "innocent" looking chick you think is hot? or that "Sassy" one walking like shes miss princess? Yeah that one.... That's the same girl in her bed or shower rubbing her cl!t as if she was possessed and using her vibrator/dildo like her life depended on it. When I wasnt around to fvck a chick and she told me she had to use her "toy" the number one complaint was she was out of batteries lol That tells you right there, They use that thing nonstop. Anyway, the whole point of this is Women love a bold man because it makes them wonder then what you're like in bed and that deep down excites them. (Quick Story: I met a girl like this a while ago and she swore she was miss innocent humble but I had a feeling she was much more than that! and I was right. Her and I were at a mutual friends party in a hotel lounge and at the end of the night, I fvcked her brains out and for 2 years after. Miss "innocent" wasn't as she appeared, she was WILD and a squirter too)
The ultimate reason for a HUGE percentage of Men not approaching or fear approaching is...............rejection. Many go on a rant about how good looking guys have no issues or How only "Chads" get Women. Im telling you right now, Again i wont go deep into this to avoid a looks thread but a TON of Women have called me incredibly Hot, Gorgeous, Sexy, Beautiful Man, etc you name it, I've heard it. I've been blessed yes however I've had many rejections as well and they vary from "You're very attractive but I have a boyfriend sorry" to simply "No, Not interested". I simply excuse myself by saying, "Ok, Was nice meeting you" and go on my way. It sucks when the girl you think is REALLY! hot is not available or not interested but there's plenty of other Women and also it doesn't mean you are some gremlin looking creature and that's why she rejected you, with Women it could be ANY reason. she just got out of a relationship, she's depressed, shes "going through something" or WHATEVER. The point is you made the approach and it will work or its not going to work. Go out gentlemen and get it done.
