Neither. There is not 'correct' behaviour.
There is behaviour that attracts her and there is behaviour that repulses her, and how your behaviour affects her differs not just from one woman to another, but even one moment to another.
If you're grounded in authenticity and integrity (or what people here refer to as 'frame'), you will become more attractive to some women and less attractive to others.
We are getting there!
So somehow and there, you have to fake your behaviour if you find out that there is something that turns her on, but which you don't like to do?
I mean, "Just be yourself", never worked out for me. What is wrong about it? Are you saying JBY and that's it?
Most people think they know what they want and think they know what they need. In most cases, they only scratch the surface. If you understand psychology, you know that what people want and what they need is often diametrically opposed.
Very interesting.
A women that is dressing so well, making it to appear the best, to look extroverted, but in the meanwhile, she's so introverted, and in needs of validation? Would this be a good example or totally wrong?
The 'classic' dread game comes from making people afraid that you have the power to 'walk away' from the relationship. People will use 'I can get better' to make other people adjust to their wishes. While powerful, this is still a game to get someone to 'toe the line' and 'dread game players' will closely watch their (emotional) investment and the investment of the other players.
The biggest problem with dread game is that you're manipulating other people's emotions.
If you fail, you lose your power over someone. If you win, you lose your respect for the loser.
And ultimately you lose respect for yourself.
Hmm!
I can see this happened and happening to my friend LTR with his wife.
In particular, my friend started to be more "cold" and "bored" about his wife.
And As you said, She started to get mad, in the sense, She started to seek the areas of his life where She could bring more to him. She started to get fit, cook healthy food for both, make him the best and dirty sex they had in the past 10 years.
In the meanwhile, My friend is keeping his hand stable. It's not validating her, even She's showing him the effort to save their LTR.
As you've said, He feel that it's manipulating her, and He really doesn't know if this would be a good thing for their LTR present and future.
"And ultimately you lose respect for yourself."
Dread game is manipulation, i.e. learned behaviour.
This seems an "unnatural" behaviour. Is that a good thing to do in your life to women and others?
I see this very obviously in businesses, where the head or managers act like this.
But also in LTR.
I don't see this in my parents or sister LTR.
ps: sorry for my bad english